I have to agree with Jerby. I think Grey Gardens is such a thrilling and bold piece of theatre because in many ways it is a hybrid. When I saw Grey Gardens, I really saw it as a "snaphot,a case study" almost like a mythology or fable being told. It is not exactly as linear as many musicals and the second act is really an intense examination of interpersonal dynamics of love and family. I think two camps of people are disapointed: those who LOVE the documentary and come seeking answers, and those expecting an "easy" musical with spoon-fed musical numbers and themes.
I was enamored with the risks taken. It really felt more like being a voyeur into the mythology of these two iconic women. I thought the subtle throughlines in the performances of Act One lead nicely to the sideshow aspects of Act 2. I think there is some disbelief by audience members to think that the women in Act One could not be the women in Act 2, but that is the tragic irony. I think Erin nicely plays both the repulsion and need for her mother and ultimately her inner need to comfort her mother ("Peas in a Pod"). I think Erin is overlooked as I was so moved by her performance. I was so disturbed when Little Edie in Act One was pretty much humiliated and left by her suitor for being a sexual being. Erin plays heartbreak so softly and nuanced. It is worth a close seat to see her eyes in those scenes. And as for Erin running down the stairs wrapped in a headscarf at the end of Act One, it sent chills down my spine. It was like seeing a ghost of the future to come. A thrilling end to an act, but not a "hot you over the head" moment.
As far as Act 2, which many seem to prefer, I agree it is a masterwork that does not pander to audience expectations, which make it a thrilling piece of theatre. It is unsavory, funny, sad, and often uncomfortable. It brings up things for the audience emotionally. Every family has a "special" relative like Little Edie. Everyone has experienced heartbreak, loss, grief, regret and made hard choices like Little Edie. Everyone has felt compelled to care for another like Little Edie. I think the bravado of Act 2 quickly winds down as Jerry brings the washing machine and you can hear a pin drop and Little Edie's soul is bared, exposing both her need and her regret, as well as her indignant commitment to mother dahling. This is where people begin to really resonate with Ebersole and make the evening so thrilling. However, a person has to be open to go there. The last moments of the show are heartbreaking and I cried. The show lingers and it is a conversation piece. It sparks debates, encourages more research and dialogue and opens up the world of these unique and mysterious women.
It was no small feat that Ebersole takes the audience from uncomfortable laughter ("Revolutionary Costume") to the quiet depths of the soul ("Another Winter.."). Big Edie and Little Edie held no magic powers, they were people like you and I. However, their willingness to be who they are on camera (the ultimate first "reality show" ) gave others permission to be who they are. Both women were surprising unashamed about who they were and how they lived and that made many people uncomfortable. That was there beauty. People could project their hopes and fears onto them.
I am sure both women would be delighted to know they still have a powerful hold and are creating division between theatre lovers. Now that is a S-T-A-U-N-C-H quality to this amazing piece of theatre.
"The sexual energy between the mother and son really concerns me!"-random woman behind me at Next to Normal
"I want to meet him after and bang him!"-random woman who exposed her breasts at Rock of Ages, referring to James Carpinello