I tend to think that being offensive in general is problematic. inequality, discrimination, bigotry, these are things we express everyday. all of us. we discriminate against this restaurant in favor of another. we unequally divide our time between work and family and personal time. and we're making judgements - who we want to spend time with and why, why this company is one i want to support, but not this one.
in this light these become tools that we use to create a life-style.
but racism, that's something is much larger, much more a cultural and/or political policy that is transmitted, infused with, permeates into our interpersonal actions.
but in my opinion, racism is structural - foundational.
Bell Hooks, Vijay Prashad, Helen Zia (ethnic studies writers and professors) have all suggested in one way or another that we look at the differences between multi-culturalism and poly-culturalism. That multi-culturalism and affirmative action, are really pathetic bones that are thrown to minority groups in the wake of the Civil Rights Movement in lieu of actual equality, because that would have meant reexamining the very structure of American Society.
It is my (very rudimentary) understanding of Physical Anthropology that one of the large driving questions is 'Why Racism?' Why did humans evolve this mechanism? (right along with 'Why Domestication?') Some have suggested that evidence of racism seems to coincides with move towards domestication.
I keep this in mind when thinking about these discussions, because these are ancient issues according to some lines of thought; to suggest we have somehow evolved beyond racism, seems insulting because to me, it's pretty clear that isn't the case.
I think that action is important. Having a plan that can be discussed is crucial. But perhaps that action is making people aware of their conditioning and assumptions and..just all of the baggage we each bring to the table. An acknowledgement opens the dialogue to a level of humility, but also shows a willingness to change and grow and want to learn new things.
I (in my brief 31 years on earth) have noticed that many people harden into the perceptions, if that makes sense. They're beliefs and ideas become much harder to change. Perhaps because they feel they have the experience to back up their assertions. But if i've learned anything from life, it's to truly not anticipate. because reality is a strange and unpredictable place.
When I hear people make comments about others whining, to me that is evidence that I as a Asian American haven't been able to frame my argument in a way that the intended audience can understand. Because I think that most modern people believe in a level of equality. and believe that because we can see a surface that appears to be equal, that we are then free from the bonds of history. But history has a way of complicating the future and i do not think we're done sorting that out.
moreover, the illusion of a "post-racial society" allows genuine and legitimate criticisms to be dismissed as "whining, liberal minorities who want a hand-out." Which is extremely degrading to suggest that everyone of an ethnicity is the same and that none of us want to earn our success.
Dialogue is important. And sometimes, that happens in concurrence with action. sometimes that is the action. it is not masturbatory. it is necessary. crucial. vital.
Shooting people's deeply personal ideas down and then to be willfully rude, or flippant is evidence to me that we are still living in a very complicated racial climate.
Namaste