Meeting the same actor twice?- Page 3

Posted: 6/21/06 at 4:35pm

For those of you who stagedoor a show more than once, did you ever stop and think that you're usurping the time that first-timers and only-timers might have to chat with a performer? Or should a performer stand on the sidewalk all night just because of groupies?

[SCBWannabe]

Posted: 6/21/06 at 4:40pm

How about the time it took us to read your post saying the same thing twice?
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[Malki5]

Posted: 6/21/06 at 4:40pm

I can only speak for myself, but I make a point of standing in the back and letting first timers go up close, unless I am there WITH a first timer or have something specific to say to someone.

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 6/21/06 at 9:18pm

Post it 3 times even...

Yes Tom you've figured it out. I hold performers at gunpoint and insist they speak to me for half an hour. That's how they remember me.

There are plenty of times that I may stage door a show that I've just seen and have seen many times, where there's a couple of people I enjoy talking to...but if ever I see they're really tired or have company or whatever, I just say hi, bye.

Like Malki, if I'm waiting for specific people I get out of the way to let everyone who wants an autograph or a picture get it.

Sometimes it's also nice to just watch first-timers talk to the actors..the conversations can get very interesting, you can learn about people, and think another reason why I love so and so, and again say a quick hi bye or whatever.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 6/21/06 at 10:03pm

I met an actor at a stagedoor once and talked to him for about at least 5 minutes, because he graduated from my school. Two months later, I was back there and not exactly stagedooring (long story) but I wanted to quickly just ask him what year he graduated in, because I was curious. I reintroduced myself, explained that I had met him before and he said "Oh, right, you go to [university]!" It shocked the hell out of me that he remembered and it was extremely flattering that I had been interesting enough the first time I met him to be memorable. We ended up talking for about 10 minutes this time about school, how it's changed since he was last there, etc. as well as the show and everything.

I don't stagedoor every show I go to and when I do, it's usually because I have something to say to the actor. I'm not going to waste my time and theirs just for an autograph and a picture- especially more than once- unless I have a reason.

[sundaymorning6am]

Posted: 6/21/06 at 10:13pm

I think it's really rude to meet an actor for the second time and ask, "Do you remember that time ______ when we met?" A lot of the time I think an actor won't remember, and most actors will shake their head and say yes, because it is really awkward if they were to be like, 'Um.. no.' It just puts them in a really awkward position.

[bardolator]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 9:41am

I would never presume to ask an actor if he/she remembered me; I can't remember the names of some students I had a year ago, and I saw them every day.

I can tell you, however, that when I met Stephanie J. Block for the second time, she hugged me on sight (it's not me; she's just a hugger). I was shocked and said "I don't know if you remember me" because she obviously DID...and she acted as though I were silly for thinking she wouldn't.

She's out of the norm, though--and the precision of her memory is just a little scary, as a matter of fact.

[lucydee]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 11:34am

Funny this topic has come up. I was at Jersey Boys last night
again! but I was with someone who had never been to the show.
She wanted to meet the cast since it was her first time, but I have met them all before.
I told her wait until the fans who are waiting are done then we could talk to them without the crowds. She patiently agreed and we did just that. I introduced my friend to Christian Hoff and I took a picture of them. He was very very sweet about it. I did not mention I met him before or anything just said this is my friends first time and they spoke. Christian did say to me
"I know I have met you before but can't remember your name". I did not take it personally, I just laughed and asked him how Melissa and his new baby are doing. He started telling us about the baby and he was just gleaming. You can tell he has never been happier.

You have to remember these actors meet so many people everyday, there is no way to remember names.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 12:01pm

Can I just say that I think it's extremely tacky to meet an actor after a performance and flat-out ask if he or she remembers you? If they remember you, they'll make it clear. Don't ask. You can say "I met you in...." as an ice breaker, I think, but people who are just like "do you remember me?!" bug me. It puts the actor in a weird position, too. Yes, there are people with great memories, but most of them don't remember because they meet so. many. people.

That said, I have often "stagedoored" the same show twice, but now I sort of only do it if I have a reason. I'm too shy to force into conversation an actor who is clearly tired and wants to go home, so I really only talk to people for long periods of time if they initiate it. There are times where even though you've met the same person several times, or had him or her sign a bunch of Playbills, you just want to congratulate him or her on the particular performance. So I've done that with people I've met more than once. Just like a "hey, congrats, the show is great," and then I'm off... not a big deal.

In response to taking up the time of first-timers, though, I think there ARE people who do that, and it's also tacky, especially if it's not an actor who is willing to spend the whole night out there making sure everybody has gotten what they want. With the very small number of actors who I know on a personal level, I never take time away from their signing autographs and posing for pictures; I wait until they're done. Sometimes they have an hour to stand there and catch up, sometimes they have to run. And either way is fine.

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[Revolutionary]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 2:33pm

Well said dearie.

I've never understood the gals that say 'Do you remember me?' either, I mean, you would not have to ask, if that person did remember you that that's one of the first things he/she would say to you, but I think it sort of is just one of those knee jerk reaction things to say since a lot of people get so nervous and they just want that instant recognization. Makes 'em feel good, I guess. lol.

Anyway, with the few people that I have met more than once I wait until the very end, because even if you do just want to say Hi or whatever it will inevitably take up some time so yeah, it's just being considerate. I would say most people do it that way, but I've seen some really annoying girls that just keep going and going, and it's like even after the actor has moved on to someone else they keep talking, trying to get them back and then you see them hanging around until people leave so they can talk some more...Gah. those people I want to kick in the groin.
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Posted: 11/4/06 at 2:57pm

I agree. I'd say most of the time most actors will not remember meeting people from other times before. And in my opinion, what to say to an actor that you've already met, small talk like hello, how you doing? Or maybe like ' great show', or I liked your performance'. Which is probably what they'll only have time for is 'small talk'.

[DRSisLove]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 4:29pm

Greg remembered me, but that's because I went with DirtyRottenScoundrel the first time, who he knows well.

[NJRae]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 5:17pm

I have to say, I saw DRV twice over the summer and the second time she did not appear to remember me so I just acted like it was the first time. No biggie. But then earlier this week I was at her cd release party and afterward everyone lined up to meet her. She spent several minutes with each person and when she got to me she said, "Hey! I haven't seen you in a while!" with a big hug. Of course I was so shocked that she recognized me that I was like, "who me?" so she got nervous and said, "I have seen you before, right?" lol. When I told her that yes, we had met twice before she then said where we had met and went on to ask why she hadn't seen me at Les Mis yet. lol So sometimes they will remember you . . . but I do think that Daphne is an exception. Every time I have met her she has spent no less than five minutes talking to me (closer to fifteen the first time) and she seems to genuinely enjoy spending time with her fans. I doubt most actors can remember who they have met since they meet sooo many people in a day, nevermind a week!

[ashley0139]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 6:50pm

Wow... old thread. Didn't expect to see it bumped again. Anywhoo, I agree about the people who push their way to the front even if they've met the person several times. I have only met one performer more than once, (it happened after I started the thread ) and she obviously recognized me, but could not place me. I was like, "We've met before." And she goes "Yeah!" I was completely surprised she recognized me at all. But I would have never asked if she remembered me.

[dancingthrulife04]

Posted: 11/4/06 at 7:00pm

There are a few actors who I've met more than once. I would NEVER ask them if they rememebred me, though. I'm too shy, and like Emcee said, it's very tacky. If they remember me, that's fine. If not, whatever. On the rare occasion that they do remember me, I sort of find it odd, since they meet so many people.