And, I'm sorry, but I deplore fags who are anti-gay or the "gay lifestyle" or the gay community or what have you. It is indicative to me of extreme self bitterness more than it is even internal homophobia. Most of the queers who hate that "lifestyle" are people who got rejected one too many times by hot guys or by fun cliques. And, if by gay lifestyle, we mean bars and clubs--then I would suggest it isn't the gay lifestyle you hate--it's the bar and club lifestyle you hate. HUGE difference.
And, if you hate feminine men, well smell you Nancy Drew because usually the ones who hate fem men are the biggest fems themselves. And, it's just sexist. I say let men and women be however they want to be. Don't hate fem or butch--hate bitchy, catty, and bitterness. THAT I can get behind.
::Jerby steps down from the soap box::