Well, I'll leave the "Tom issue" debating up to the people who probably know more and/or feel more strongly about it than I do.
The thing that bugs me re: her and the sexual orientation is that after she came out she.. hmm I don't know how to say this- she certainly didn't let herself go but she stopped taking any sort of care with her physical appearence. Now the only reason this bothered me was b/c t it just re-enforced everyone's sterotypes of the Butch lesbian. I mean, it just bothers me that after she came out she started looking terrible in pictures everywhere. I wish she would have showed the world that nothing changes when you're a lesbian, and just b/c she is one doesn't mean she can't wear make-up or care about her hair etc.
Now, I am not a lesbian so if anyone on this board who is a lesbian feels differently, I'm sorry, that is just what irked me from my outside perspective.
"I guess she is one very confident girl who feels if you see it, it shall be.
I hope she sees a room with a piano player and a bunch of scary middle-aged queens sitting behind a table, talking to each other as she auditions!!"
-Marc Shaiman on Kelly Osbourne in Hairspray