A question to the gays on this board

*This is not coming as a homophobic remark or a coming out remark*

Most of my classmates are for gay rights but do not understand the life of a homosexual. My question is one that is asked alot but a straight answer is normally not given. Do you (as homosexuals) believe that homosexuality is a choice, and how do you know? Once again I am not trying to come across as a hater but I would like to be able to give the oppinions of those who know best to my classmates.
If you choose to answer this I thank you.

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I firmly believe that it is genetic. My father was gay, and I know many fellow homosexuals with the same story. And why on earth would anyone choose to be gay? That never made any sense to me . "Oh yeah - I think I'll choose to be a member of a group that is tortured and made fun of all their lives, not given any rights and treated like second class citizens." Nope - no choice to be had - I was born this way and I shall die this way.

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No. It's not something I woke up and chose. Before I knew what it was I knew I was different. I'm talking 4 or 5 years old here. It's just something that you are and there's nothing you can do to change it. I honestly believe that homosexuality is a biological population control. But would you WANT to be picked on and ridiculed as a kid and feel awkward and lonely?

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thank you both
If you don't mind could I use your comments in school?

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no need to expand, just another "Not a Choice"

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ant me to go to your school for a little show and tell?

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Dame, that kind of show and tell is for college frat parties, not high schools.

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But I did choose to be a bitch.

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"Dame, that kind of show and tell is for college frat parties, not high schools."

-- not all colleges. On monday for National Coming Out Day some students wrote on the sidewalks in chalk (a common practice in my school) about gay rights and other things. Later on in the day I witnessed people washing it off. I was disgusted by the fact that they are trying to censor students. Ugh, I hate catholic schools. I really do need to transfer.

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By bitch are we talking the prison variety or the snarky variety?

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Why don't you tell me Tiff, since you seem to know everything. lol

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Updated On: 10/15/04 at 03:59 PM

I don't think there are any scientific people who don't understand it as something biological. With that said, as a former fundamentalist, I understand their point is that they feel like people who are gay can choose to not act on their impulses...and choose celibacy.

However, I think their basis of that idea starts with the idea that homosexuality is a sin. Which is a rather new idea for the Christian church -- started around the late 19th century. It is based on some rather obscene translations of the Bible, and does not reflect God's opinion (which is, as Jesus said, summarized by love the lord and love your neighbor -- which homosexuality has the potential to fulfill, not ignore).

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Namo - your point is taken, from a political standpoint. And yet, I can't deny that, for myself at least, this is simply all I've ever known.