A question to the gays on this board — Page 3

I first acted on it this past April. About a week and a half after my birthday, I hooked up with a guy on a school trip.

As for when I realized, it was around puberty. Shirtless guys turned me on, but girls in swimsuits did absolutely nothing for me. I didn't really want to accept it though. I saw it as a phase. Not anymore, obviously.

Gov - wasn't it only a few months ago that you came out?

I realized I was actually gay when I was in 9th grade. This is tough for me because I was very upset that day. I was on a drama trip and this girl from another school told me she "liked" me and wanted to go out with me that night. I was terrified and went back to my hotel room where it just hit me. Literally like a ton of bricks, it hit me and at that moment I knew I was GAY.
Now as for saying "I'm Gay" out loud, that wasn't until a few years later.

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matt, please tell me you didn't tell that poor girl that you made this discovery right after she came onto you!

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No, Tiff I didn't. I told her I was sick and stayed in the hotel room crying.

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Matt-thank you for being so honest, and for brnging up another point.

How long did it take you to "come out" (to family/friends) after the realization

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On this board, yes, it was a few months ago. But I figured it out a few years ago.

I think I always realized it, but like every good little Texan boy in the 80s, tried to ignore it. Then when I fell hopelessly in love with my best friend, I knew I could no longer ignore it, so I came out to him, his girlfriend, my closest friends, and my family. Everyone was incredibly loving and supportive. I then became a charter member for Houston's first teen gay support group. We only had three members back then, but it has now blossomed into a rather large organization worthy of actual KKK demonstrations. LOL

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Jacob there is research information out there, if you seriously want to provide 'proof' to your classmates. I don't see why people who are gay could not make a comment that would be considered proof...but many people choose to believe that gay people will SAY it is not a choice when in fact it is -- as someone said who the heck would CHOOSE to be taunted and persecuted)...there is lots of research now available in the medical and psychotherapy community that supports the fact that it is genetic, including information on difference in the brains of hetero vs. homosexual people.

I think that there are people who will find a way to discount scientific AND supportive data just because they are afraid of what they deem to be 'different'...and isn't that why there is war? When people fear diversity and want everyone to be just like them, we are in trouble. Tell your classmates to try on the theory of brown eyed people making the choice to have brown eyes and see what they think.

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Beave do you still need that drink? Have a mojito!

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I'm with Namo on this. I just don't think it matters. I don't need an excuse for a very elemental part of my humanity. It just is. And that, in and of itself, should be respected.

I fear the day when the 'gay gene' is discovered. Will mothers get amnios and then abort the child? Will there be reparative gene therapy? It's terrifying, really.

For as long as I can remember, I was 'queer'. Different. Outside the norm of boy behavior. It was a tought row to hoe. But looking back, I couldn't imagine being straight. Life would be a lot less interesting.

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My first 'daliance' with another boy was when I was almost 8. I went through puberty early - basically through by the time I was 11. And growing up in southeastern Virginia, from that point on, I had a veritable smorgasbord of surfers and sailors all the rest of my 'childhood'. And in case it's of curiosity, no I have never even considered sex with a woman, much less come close to having it.

edit - and the first time I told anyone I was gay was when I was 17, in 1980.

Updated On: 10/15/04 at 06:04 PM

a question for you all:

if you could today would you eat a apple that would make you strate

Believe me Liam...I've eaten things thinking they would make me straight...didn't work. I'll stick with who I really am and enjoy my life.

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