A question to the gays on this board — Page 4

Matt - you DIDN'T!

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oh and nemo

"Never. But I'd happily feed you a dictionary."

ha ha how funny im bad at spelling oh i get it how obzerbent of you!STOP,its not nice evry one knows you dont have to point it out!

Updated On: 10/15/04 at 08:34 PM

Well I am known for being very obzerbent...

but here, take a few minutes and join The Look it Up Club and make each post a delight to read, because right now they tend to resemble bowls of Alpha Bits.


The Look it Up Club

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im going to PM you your not worth roning the trend for!

keep it up.

Here's the other side of the coin:

My parents were always involved in the theatre. I grew up surrounded by theatre folk, including many gay men. I have always loved musical theate. It is now my full time profession.

I am straight. None of my family's gay friends ever tried to "recruit" me. My formative years were filled with showtunes, chorus boys, drag queens, you name it. No matter how many times I heard the soundtrack of "A Star is Born", or the OCR oe "Dames at Sea", it never made me want to have sex with a man.

I am proof that you can't "make" someone become gay.

That's a picture of you in your icon though, right?

(Kidding. Seriously.)

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Music theatre ALWAYS makes me want to have sex with a man.

Seriously, I'm straight. I've never questioned it. Just like I've never questioned the color of my eyes. It's how I was born. I don't see why people who are gay should be expected to answer any differently.

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Updated On: 10/16/04 at 12:19 AM

I think to some extent, in some instances, sexuality can be decided by life circumstances as well as inborn traits. Before you leap down my throat, let me explain:

What questions like "Is homosexuality a choice?" don't take into account is bisexuality. And especially the fact if you believe Kinsey, most "straight" and "gay" people have thoughts of the other orientation, if only rarely.

So the theoretical instance I'm proposing is- a gay person might find the person who's an "exception" to the rule- one of the few people of the opposite sex they can feel attracted to. They might find this person early on and think they're straight. They might find them later and think they've been "converted." Are they straight? Are they gay? If you met them, what would you say their "nature" is?

I don't believe in the question of "nature vs. nurture." They don't oppose each other; they are each other. Your nurture determines what aspects of your nature come out, and your nature can help change the circumstances of your nurture. They're too entangled to just separate that way. So I think that nurture- how you're brought up, who you meet and when- can help determine your "nature" - your sexuality.

Sexuality isn't a bipolar phenomenon, anyway; it's a continuum. Restricting it to gay and straight (with the occassional weirdo bisexual) is too simplistic.

Updated On: 10/16/04 at 02:46 AM

Kinsey 6? Does that mean totally gay?

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I'm a 6 too, unless Angelina Jolie is involved, so I guess that makes me a 5 then does it? I am very much looking forward to the movie about Kinsey that's coming up.

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I very much believe that trying to categorize sexuality is probably an exercise in futility. There are certain traits about other people...regardless of gender...that we're attracted to on many levels...or we aren't, on many levels. Some traits amuse us, some traits irritate us, some traits intrigue us and arouse us emotionally and physically. And, so much of that can be situational! Nature, I think, sets a framework for how open we are to experiment, nurture sets a framework for how comfortable we are acting on our nature. Thank God that those interests and responses are going to different for every one of us!