Asexuality? — Page 2

There's only one of me, as far as I know (and hope!)
I'm tempted to make a joke about microorganisms and asexual reproduction that results in clones, but alas, I've forgotten most of the biology I've ever learned.

Ah, Plum, that reminds me of how much I hate to leave my Greek friends behind.

Okay, so let's be brutally frank, we're anonymous, it's a message board, who cares, nobody knows who we are.

There are any number of psychological reasons a person can find him or herself developmentally rooted in a pre-adult stage. Some might say "stuck" there. But others point out that people often go through developmental stages at different places than others. Which is true.

But when I read that somebody feels "freaked out" by contact, well, my first impulse is to say, "Hey, you should TALK to somebody about that."

Sometimes people who freak out at contact were contacted inappropriately in the past. Sometimes something traumatic happens to somebody at an important time in the development of their psyche and they never get beyond that.

When people who are moving into adulthood cling to the signifiers of childhood, it could very well be because something happened, or they find the concept of being grown up and responsible for themselves absolutely terrifying. And for such people, what could be more "freak out"able than the pleasure brought on my adult touch?

I have often wondered what the effects would be of so many Baby Boomers refusing to age on their offspring. I wonder if it will be permanent childhood.

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Updated On: 3/25/06 at 03:05 PM

My meds make me asexual.

There's a difference between "no interest in" and "freaked out by any contact." One screams for a hell of a lot more therapy than the other.

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Gee, I guess I somehow didn't make myself clear when I stated that in the post directly above yours, Ron.

And frankly, given what a friggin grade school this place has become I'm not surprised there's plenty of "ICK! MUSHY STUFF!" sentiment around here.

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Seriously, dude. Sleep it off.

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a·sex·u·al ( P ) Pronunciation Key (-sksh-l)
adj.
Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.
Lacking interest in or desire for sex.


question answered

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Namo, you said "Although I feel sort of sorry for anybody who doesn't ever experience the transcendence of sexual congress."

that sort of implies that sex is the only way one can trascend....my sister is 51, and has never had sex. She transcends through her religion.......sex is not the only thing, and to imply so is not very open to other things.....

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Maybe it's a little late to say this, but I should have probably chosen different words in my first post. Since there have been responses, I guess it's too late to edit it. I'm sorry if I opened any cans of worms. Hopefully I'll watch my diction for now on.
For the record - I'm aware that I'm nitpicking - I said that I dislike most physical contact. Not "any," certainly not "all."
Again, I'm sorry about any misunderstandings.

Updated On: 3/26/06 at 11:39 AM

Jeez. Is it really such a problem if a person doesn't want, for example, to receive a hug from someone who isn't a family member? (And, no offense, but is it really the business of someone who happens to read my post on a message board? Then again, it's probably my fault for posting it.) I can't believe that one stray phrase - a slang expression, and casually used - sparked such a response. As I said, this will teach me to watch what I type. Again, I apologize.

Anyone want to redirect this thread to its original purpose? Please? It is an interesting topic.

Updated On: 3/26/06 at 11:58 AM

oh please, that first guy is GAY, GAY, GAY!

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"But I also believe that there are people with enormous unresolved issues that they mask by saying that they have no interest in or desire for sex"

Probably so, but I hope you are allowing that there could be people with no unresolved issues who have had sex in their pasts, and now decided they can, and perhaps prefer, to live without it.

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