Asexuality?- Page 3

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 12:49pm

Hold your bullets, kimosabe.

The paragraph in which you feel "sort of" sorry (I guess that's not TOO sorry) for those who haven't experienced the transcendance of sexual congress implies they are missing out on something. I'm saying they may indeed have experienced what you have and as you said, it's no big whoop to them.

eta-you seem a little hostile in your posts today, Namo. Something go wrong?

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[sweetestsiren]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 12:55pm

I have to agree that being weirded out by even platonic human contact doesn't make you asexual, it is probably something stemming from anxiety that you need to force yourself to work through. Having an actual aversion to sexual contact much different from being indifferent to it (which is the way that I assume asexuals feel). Though I'm perfectly willing to accept that some people are without sexual desire despite not having issues with the act itself, this "movement" probably attracts a fair amount of people who are just not yet comfortable with themselves sexually.

[theatrebabe]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 12:57pm

Heh. Not to digress. But don't Namo's posts always seem a little hostile?

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 12:59pm

Any hostility coming from my side is a direct result of having grown very sick of prayers for dead animals threads and people with medical issues seeking advice from unqualified theatre fans. Oh, and people calling me on things that I haven't written. There's a last camel straw for you.

And yes, Jane, I chose the phrase "sort of" to indicate that I didn't feel TOO sorry. "Sort of" as in, "well, that's too bad, they don't know what they're missing. Not "TOO," as in "you pathetic creatures, you couldn't be more wrong or emotionally underprivleged. I pity you."

So, what else can I restate for greater BWW OT Board Reader clarity?

And theaterbabe, come on. If you had to read your posts, you'd be hostile too.

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[aspiringactress]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:04pm

"people with medical issues seeking advice from unqualified theatre fans. "

That's really becoming a problem on here. It sorta freaks me out

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:05pm

I still think you're in a bad mood Namo. Plenty of us have what we've written repeated, ignored or misread by others. I'm missing a sense of humor from you today.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:06pm

Yeah, this place has become a combination Hallmark Shop/WebMD.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:06pm

As much as I joke about it, I have no desire to have sex any time soon. That does not mean, however, if I meet the right person that might not change. Hell that might even change if I DON'T meet the right person. But as of now I am fairly asexual, and quite frankly its probably better that way considering my schedule, lifestyle, social life, and other factors in my life right now.

Akiva

[Kringas]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:09pm

"people with medical issues seeking advice from unqualified theatre fans. "

That's really becoming a problem on here. It sorta freaks me out

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. I always mock people when they write to the doctor columnist in the newspaper, wondering if perhaps their issue wouldn't be better served by speaking in person to a medical professional. Right away, in some cases. That's how I feel about the ever-growing number of threads on this board that are essentially soliciting medical advice. From migraines that are actually nothing more than a really bad headache to people who want the rash on their body checked out, I can't grasp why this site is the place they choose to seek medical advice.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:14pm

Now, Akiva, since you've put yourself out there as a potential case study, let me just say I believe, based on your writings, pictures and sound clips, that you fall squarely in the category of "Young people for whom the idea of dealing with their own sexuality is too scary at this point in their lives."

Yes, I know you've written about strong religious beliefs that forbid all sorts of things, from mixing food groups to sex with people of the same gender. And I've also noticed your tendency to write gender free references like, "That does not mean, however, if I meet the right person that might not change. Hell that might even change if I DON'T meet the right person."

Now, I know people do in fact deal with these things at their own pace, and in their own time. But there are really only so many narratives in life. And yours is a very familiar one to many adult homosexuals who have integrated their sexuality in a healthy manner.


ETA: There was one poster on here who talked for a long time about his Wizard of Oz collectibles and every other young gay boy signifier you can imagine. And he got very mad when people assumed (rightly) that he was gay. A few months later came his big "I just came out to my mom" announcement.

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[Jane2]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:29pm

I think I have one explanation as to why folks bring their medical problems to a message board. There is the fear of the unknown when you experience something new-I refer to some malady or another. If it's not possible to see or speak to a doctor at that very moment, we might seek help, solace, and/or an explanation from someone we know who may have had this experience before and has knowledge of it. We're looking to be asssured it's nothing very serious. What better place to go than one where possibly hundreds of people may read it? I've done it myself. I was just hoping to learn that I wasn't the only one who had some weird condition.

p.s. Sadly, I usually AM the only one with the condition!

[Kringas]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:31pm

I see what you're saying, Jane, but I think it most cases it's more a cry for attention than it is a real desire to seek medical help.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:33pm

Namo,

My religious beleifs don't have anything to do with my sexuality (although, yes they very much have to do with my eating habits). Also, if I was attracted to men, I really would get nothing but love and support from my family and friends. The reason I am not attracted to guys, is the same reason gay guys aren't attracted to girls. They just aren't.

And the very reason I used the word "person" instead of "girl" is because I wanted to drive the point home that right now I really attracted to either gender. If a man happens to come along and piques my interest, so be it. Not likely based on past experience, but who am I to rule such things out.

Namo, I realize that all you have to go on are the few posts of mine that you have read, so its nobodys fault if you have a very skewed picture of who I am. But I am not as simplistic as you have me pegged in your head. If you want to joke about it thats totally fine. I'm all for more humour in this humourless world of ours. But if you actually just think of me as the "closeted Orthodox jew boy" that is kind of saddening, because that isn't me at all, and by just staying convinced that I am that, you are missing out on getting to know a pretty interesting person.

Akiva

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:34pm

"[W]e might seek help, solace, and/or an explanation from someone we know.... What better place to go than one where possibly hundreds of people may read it? "

Well, there's the inherent contradiction in both of those phrases that point out one of the flaws in that reasoning. We don't "know" those possibly hundreds of people.

And if they have access to the internet, there are lots of more appropriate places to seek information.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:47pm

Tell that to those who don't realize it. I was only offering one explanation why it's done, and I believe I'm right.

As for your recommendation of researching the internet, of course that's the appropriate action to take. You of all people should be well aware of the numbers of immature and very young people who hang out here, who don't or won't consider that course.

[Kringas]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:52pm

Perhaps Rob could create a Medical Board.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 1:58pm

LOL, and for that matter, an instant psychological therapy board too.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 3/26/06 at 2:18pm

"closeted Orthodox jew boy?"

Akiva, those are your words not mine. And the word "closeted" would more appropriately apply to people who are acting on their homosexuality but denying it. Which isn't something I could possibly know about you.

Yes, I am reasonably sure that your story will eventually include your being a happy homosexual. And I'm not joking. I just believe that the Magic 8 Ball of Homosexuality would bring up "All Signs Lead to Yes" for you.

[justthefacts2]

Posted: 3/28/06 at 12:56am

I wish these poor kids wouldn't worry so much about whether they're feeling what they're "supposed" to be feeling. Just relax, be happy, enjoy the options open to you in life to follow your interests, your dreams, your passions. Don't let anyone label you - least of all yourself. You wake up new every morning - and the world with you.