Can the teenagers (and twentysomethings) please angst?- Page 102

[insomniak]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:41pm

Good girl!

[ponine24601]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:43pm

everytime i ask her what i did she's just like 'SHUT UP!!! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID!!' well, obviously i don't if i'm asking you!

i ordered 2 more copies of 'civilian' because i felt i had to obey adam.

[insomniak]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:45pm

Why do you need two more?

Poni, think. What could you have possibly done to annoy her a little?

[ponine24601]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:47pm

*thinks* i don't know. maybe i've been listening to my music or being on the computer too much. i think she's PMSing.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:48pm

insomniak, have you finished writing?

[insomniak]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:49pm

Finished writing my story?

Not at all. I'm still working on the plotline details... it's a long involved process, this will be a while. And my bww addiction is not making me any more productive.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:52pm

I really love writing too, I'd love to write a book...are you writing for your own pleasure or in the hope you'll be published one day?

[broadwaystar2b]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 10:52pm

page one of my Faustus paper is DONE
only 9 more to go

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:24pm

Oh my god you're still on that?! When's it due??

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:24pm

Angsty-stuff-
So I don't know if you remember but a while back I posted about my friend dating this guy who is SO clearly gay...anyways...the situation has worsened. He knows I know the truth, and is always saying things about me to her, which she hasn't paid any attention to yet thankfully, but the worst thing is he is always slyly acting gay to me when my friend isn't looking - just to drive me crazy - aaaaaaaaaaaah the guy is a MORON!!!!
I want him to go away, but I don't know how.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:28pm

So he's admitted that he's gay? How did he figure out that you knew?? At least your friend isn't listening!

[broadwaystar2b]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:29pm

Type_A_Tiff, it's due Monday
I'm probably going to have to turn it in late
but still, the first page is done

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:30pm

Not too shabby! I've got a 12-15 pager due on Monday that I haven't started. Hmm...

[broadway86]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:30pm

I have really bad breath in the morning...

(Who knows what movie that's from?!?! lol)

[broadwaystar2b]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:31pm

TAT, what's yours on?

[nobizlikeshobiz]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:31pm

mean girls! lol I said it first!!!

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:51pm

Well it's never actually been spoken...but he knows I know, and I know he knows I know - and we've been acting all pally in front of my friend, even though we secretly hate each other.
I've tried dropping hints to my friend, but she just doesn't get it. He's becoming more and more blatant, so I'm hoping one day soon my friend will turn around just in time to see him air-lick a guys butt (he always does that), or pout at me in a way which ,trust me, makes it clear. Anyway, do you think I should come out of the hating closet, and tell her I despise the guy...or carry on pretending? Updated On: 11/13/04 at 11:51 PM

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:53pm

Either way, make sure if you tell her, you make it clear that you don't hate him because he's gay - you hate him because he's gay, knows he's gay, and is leading her on.

HOWEVER - are you SURE that HE knows himself that he's gay? Because if he's not just using her to put up a front, and really, he's just a self-loathing gay guy who can't accept who he really is, you should show more sympathy to him.

[insomniak]

Posted: 11/13/04 at 11:55pm

Ellie, to your first question- I hope both

Tell your friend how you feel if it comes up and doesn't sound random, but don't make a huge deal out of it or you'll sound bitchy. Not that you are, but you might come off that way.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 12:00am

Yeah, I think he must know he's gay...c'mon he makes slurpy sounds and air-licks hot guys butts as they walk past. And it's hard to show sympathy to such an outright jerk, but I suppose that's (maybe...just maybe...possibly...however doubtful...) a good mask he puts on. But either way, it's not fair on my friend!

[Nina Myers]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 12:02am

Tiff, I'm with you. Great advice

[insomniak]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 12:02am

No, it's not, but you can't change their relationship and it might hurt your friendship with her if you try. Just be supportive if he does dump her rudely.

[Ellie3]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 12:04am

So I guess I'll stick with bitching to you guys, and hope and pray that she sees sense, dumps him quicksmart, he finds a nice guy, proves I'm right...and they both go on to lead happy lives.

And thanks for your advice!!!!!! Updated On: 11/14/04 at 12:04 AM

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 12:08am

Girls become stupid when they're around guys. Plain and simple. Ever notice when you're looking at someone else's relationship and they complain to you and you offer solutions but they keep rationalizing all the bad things in their head? When you get into a relationship, your priorities and way of interpreting everything gets skewed. Even if it's SO obvious to everyone else outside of the relationship what exactly is wrong.

Having said that, I concur with Som. Even though ideally, it would be "chicks before dicks" when it comes to girl friends, the likelihood is that your friend is going to resent you like hell if you tell her this, ESPECIALLY after they've been dating so long and she's probably getting serious with this guy. I'm assuming she didn't consult you before they started dating, and that alone implies that she's comfortable with her gut instinct and doesn't care what anyone thinks - as right or wrong as that is.

So like Som said, I say leave her be and wait for the guy to dump her - then console her when it's over. And DON'T say "I told you so.", no matter how tempting it is. I know you'll hate this, but it's good because: 1) your friend won't resent you. 2) If this guy has not totally outed himself, or even come to terms with his sexuality, you'll be ruining both of their lives.

I get that you don't want to hurt your friend, but she'll hurt whether she finds out from you or finds out from the bf.

Just my 2c!
Okay I'm off to make an important phone call!

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 2:47am

Just bumping this...just cuz...

I'm outtie! Gotta get my work done!