Can the teenagers (and twentysomethings) please angst? — Page 102

everytime i ask her what i did she's just like 'SHUT UP!!! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID!!' well, obviously i don't if i'm asking you!

i ordered 2 more copies of 'civilian' because i felt i had to obey adam.

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*thinks* i don't know. maybe i've been listening to my music or being on the computer too much. i think she's PMSing.

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Finished writing my story?

Not at all. I'm still working on the plotline details... it's a long involved process, this will be a while. And my bww addiction is not making me any more productive.

page one of my Faustus paper is DONE
only 9 more to go

Angsty-stuff-
So I don't know if you remember but a while back I posted about my friend dating this guy who is SO clearly gay...anyways...the situation has worsened. He knows I know the truth, and is always saying things about me to her, which she hasn't paid any attention to yet thankfully, but the worst thing is he is always slyly acting gay to me when my friend isn't looking - just to drive me crazy - aaaaaaaaaaaah the guy is a MORON!!!!
I want him to go away, but I don't know how.

Type_A_Tiff, it's due Monday
I'm probably going to have to turn it in late
but still, the first page is done

I have really bad breath in the morning...

(Who knows what movie that's from?!?! lol)

mean girls! lol I said it first!!!

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Either way, make sure if you tell her, you make it clear that you don't hate him because he's gay - you hate him because he's gay, knows he's gay, and is leading her on.

HOWEVER - are you SURE that HE knows himself that he's gay? Because if he's not just using her to put up a front, and really, he's just a self-loathing gay guy who can't accept who he really is, you should show more sympathy to him.

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Yeah, I think he must know he's gay...c'mon he makes slurpy sounds and air-licks hot guys butts as they walk past. And it's hard to show sympathy to such an outright jerk, but I suppose that's (maybe...just maybe...possibly...however doubtful...) a good mask he puts on. But either way, it's not fair on my friend!

No, it's not, but you can't change their relationship and it might hurt your friendship with her if you try. Just be supportive if he does dump her rudely.

Girls become stupid when they're around guys. Plain and simple. Ever notice when you're looking at someone else's relationship and they complain to you and you offer solutions but they keep rationalizing all the bad things in their head? When you get into a relationship, your priorities and way of interpreting everything gets skewed. Even if it's SO obvious to everyone else outside of the relationship what exactly is wrong.

Having said that, I concur with Som. Even though ideally, it would be "chicks before dicks" when it comes to girl friends, the likelihood is that your friend is going to resent you like hell if you tell her this, ESPECIALLY after they've been dating so long and she's probably getting serious with this guy. I'm assuming she didn't consult you before they started dating, and that alone implies that she's comfortable with her gut instinct and doesn't care what anyone thinks - as right or wrong as that is.

So like Som said, I say leave her be and wait for the guy to dump her - then console her when it's over. And DON'T say "I told you so.", no matter how tempting it is. I know you'll hate this, but it's good because: 1) your friend won't resent you. 2) If this guy has not totally outed himself, or even come to terms with his sexuality, you'll be ruining both of their lives.

I get that you don't want to hurt your friend, but she'll hurt whether she finds out from you or finds out from the bf.

Just my 2c!
Okay I'm off to make an important phone call!

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