while I totally understand, if you are not on facebook there is no way to tag you in those photos, so while they are out there, and that could suck, they should not show up under any web search of your name.
I have a strict policy with my friends of we can post photos (using judegement) but that no one is to tag anyone. If someone wants to be tagged in the photo, they can do it themselves.
I have two accounts, my personal and a work experiment one. I, once a month, try to view my personal account through the other one and make sure everything is private and not viewable.
BroadwayBoobs: I'll give all of you who weren't there a hint of who took the pictures ...it rhymes with shameless
SOMMS: I knew it was Tink!