How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

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How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:37pm

What's the best way to get over someone it didn't work out with, either after you're done dating or after you realize you couldn't date them anyway? I can't seem to figure out a good way to do this.

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re: How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:39pm

1. Move.

2. Go to Therapy.

3. Focus on yourself.

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re: How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:40pm

Well, mine may not be the best method, but I get myself one of those big ass bottles of Absolute and put on Michael Cerveris' "Dog Eared" CD.

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re: How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:41pm

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:42pm

The only way to get over a man is to get under another one, sweetie.

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re: How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:44pm

Jaily, I was counting the posts until someone said that.

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re: How Do You Get Over Old Crushes/Relationships?

Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:45pm

Stop visualizing yourself as needing to be with another person in order to be complete. Be good enough on your own. Plan your life as though it will always be just you. Depend on no one but yourself.

No prince is going to come rescue you, marry you, knock you up, and make money for you for the rest of your life.

Hell, who am I kidding? That's what happens to most straight women. Keep trying. You'll eventually settle for someone.

Updated On: 7/11/07 at 02:45 PM

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:46pm

I call his parents and tell them he ditched school.

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:53pm

It tends to be especially difficult when you ask a guy out and he turns you down and THEN you have to get over it, because then you have your self-esteem to contend with as well.

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:55pm

I ust hope they show me more decency than I show others

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:59pm

Time.

A faster way is to volunteer somewhere to help other people out who really need help. There's a million things you can do - big brother/sister, chemo angels, senior citizen aid, meals on wheels, etc. It's amazing how fast you can forget your own problems when you start worrying about others!

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 2:59pm

Yeah, Kringas, I was just reading that thread the other day. It's so weird to think about how mean I was to my ex. We're actually very good friends now, we still hang out and I've actually managed to tell him a lot of the stuff that I talked about in those threads. I think it's definitely worked out for the better.

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

#13

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:01pm

Booze. Alcohol kills feelings.

I have to tell you that one thing I learned about all this is that all those clichés are true. Time DOES heal all hearts. It takes time but it will go away. It's so hard to take advice from friends and family because they don't "understand." I remember when I got dumped the first time I found the Melissa Etheridge CD "Breakdown" on the street randomly. It really hit home, all that stuff is salt on a wound for me.

It has never gotten easier for me, but I will tell nothing is better than waking up and realizing you have successfully moved passed someone.

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:01pm

Good for you (and him, for that matter). And I'm sorry about your heartbreak. I know that it sucks.

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:02pm

But you got one hell of a consolation prize, mejust.

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#16

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:06pm

Well Stage he's a great guy, but being in a relationship has certainly had more ups-and-downs and heartache than I ever had dating and being single. There is nothing like being with someone you love so much and having to hate them for their actions.

Updated On: 7/11/07 at 03:06 PM

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:38pm

How do you get over heartbreak/old relationships?

You don't. Even the disasters that become funny stories over dinners with old friends hang on and from time to time you just wonder "What if?".

The ones that don't really linger have no meaning in your life so they don't have to be 'gotten over'.

My mother will be 95 in the fall. Her fiance was killed in a motorcycle accident on July 31, 1934. Recently she has opened up and admitted that every July 31st she gets sad. Her marriage to my father was strong and loving and good and lasted 48 years, but that did not stop her from wondering "What if?"

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:42pm

So true WOSQ.

I haven't had to do it in a while, but I would just try to move on, meet other people, party, hang with friends, you know, live life. You are so young, there are going to be MANY more times like this in your future life.

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:50pm

Try stalking. That seems to work for me.

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#20

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 3:52pm

Find someone else to comsume your interest

#21

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 4:08pm

I had an epiphany in the middle of the second act of A MOON FOR THE MISBEGOTTEN. Not even kidding. The guy I liked didn't remind me of anyone in the show, but for some reason I was just sitting there, leaned forward in my chair, thought to myself, "Hey, I'm over him!" and leaned back in my chair and enjoyed the rest of the show. And of course now that I'm not interested in him anymore he decides to jump back into my life. Men.

#22

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 4:34pm

Recognize that there is a "sin of attachment (in) vain" and do not participate in that activity.

It's a Buddhist concept and it works.

It's also reality.

Chin up and face it.

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 4:35pm

double post

Updated On: 7/11/07 at 04:35 PM

#24

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 4:37pm

Liz, that is always the case, lol!

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#25

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Posted: 7/11/07 at 4:54pm

Then go and wash that man right out of your hair...

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