I Enjoy Being a Girl Vol 2!- Page 8

[lusciouslace]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:09pm

Kels- I used to have the biggest crush on Elijah Wood in elementary school...

Olivier Martinez...que caliente...wow! Yeah him in Unfaithful is sooo hot. When they're fighting and he follows her into the hallway...ohhhh my gooooooodness.

Tofu- I almost posted Sophia Bush, too.

By the way guys...just in case you didn't already know...BOYS ARE STUPID!!!



Seriously, I just need to find a gay man who likes having sex with women,that's my perfect partner I think. I guess that could just be someone bi, but as my friend said if you're partner is bi you have way too much to get jealous of, because EVERYONE is competition.

[blondebaby589]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:13pm

L, I was with a bi guy for a little. But it turned out he was like 90% gay and 10% straight, sooo that didn't last for very long LOL

And I have to agree about Olivier. Wow. That scene in the cafe where they're having sex in the bathroom that they don't show on TV, yeah.

[lusciouslace]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:30pm

BB- Exactly! I sort of always figure if a guy is bi, he really likes boys. If a girl is bi, she really likes boys, too. Not always, of course...that's just a theory. Which is why I need a gay guy who likes having sex with women. Haha...it's like ultimate unreachable goal. I just get along better with gay guys.

[blondebaby589]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:40pm

Yeah there's all different types of people, but in my case it was that he really liked my personality but was physically attracted to men more so than women. We're still really good friends, but I would never get myself involved with him like that again.

But best of luck finding one like that! Pass him over to me when you're done.

[Pianolin717]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:43pm

My theory is that there is no such thing as being "bisexual" its mainly just a phase where the person doesn't want to fully come out as gay yet. Thats just my thought lol

[blondebaby589]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:47pm

My theory is that everyone is completely different from everyone else when it comes to their own personal sexuality. Piano, I think in a lot of cases you're right. But I think that some people are truly attracted to both men and women. There's so much gray area to sexuality it's amazing.

[Pianolin717]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:49pm

I just find it hard to believe that people can be attracted to both, but maybe its because I am not lol
See, I have a friend, and he isn't gay... he isn't bi... and he isn't straight... He just doesn't like labels BUT he claims to like a girl, and he had a bf for a while, but it is so obviously he is gay! See, I don't get people!

[blondebaby589]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 12:52pm

Haha that sounds exactly like the guy I was talking about. Really, exactly. I don't fully understand either (which is also probably because I'm not attracted to both sexes), but as long as they're happy then that's fine by me.

[Shannon Bo Dannon]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 3:45pm

My summer has officially started! Woo!

I don't understand bisexuality either. I see it as selfishness! LOL

[killertofu333]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:09pm

I sort of always figure if a guy is bi, he really likes boys. If a girl is bi, she really likes boys, too.

YAY, an issue I can almost weigh in on. I have no idea how bisexuality works in the gay male realm, but for gay women it may be different. Like L said if a girl is bi, she really likes boys too, at least that's what would always be in the back of my mind if I was involved with a bisexual girl. I always used to think that being bisexual was just a way to have your cake and eat it too without people calling you a dirty whoring slag. But I could be wrong .

My theory is that there is no such thing as being "bisexual" its mainly just a phase where the person doesn't want to fully come out as gay yet.

And Piano I actually agree with you on this front, mainly because I did the same damn thing. When I came out to my best friend (he's gay too, and we came out to each other at the same time) I thought I was ready to tell him that I was into girls, but at the last minute I chickened out and told him I was bi. As the words poured from my lips all I could think was "OMG, you're such a fraud!! You don't like guys you idiot, you like girls and that's it!!" As some might say I used being bi as an excuse or a stepping stone to really help myself come to terms with my own sexuality. In reality it made me feel even worse because I had lied to my best friend and continued that lie within myself. A week later I fessed up and told him the whole truth. He told me he figured out I was gay way back in Senior year when I performed at our school's talent show/coffee house. Apparently after I sang and played my guitar he noticed how flushed and giddy I looked when a really strikingly beautiful girl complimented and hugged me afterward. I wish he had let me know...it would have saved me a lot of time crying in my pillow.

Since we all seem to have theories regarding sexuality I'll throw mine into the mix. My theory is: Everyone's straight until they're NOT!! Thus why some lesbians (still hate that word) like the thrill of the chase and may go after exclusively straight women. Maybe I'm just lazy or I'm getting too old for that "chasing" business, but I'd rather go out with someone who won't feel "weird" afterward. Just too much DRAMA for Tofu. If I know good an well you're NOT gay, bi, pan, omni or whatever, I'll just be a really good friend and an even better drinking partner for you. Other than that it's a no-go for "Fun Land".

Finis

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:29pm

I've never really understood bisexuality-- I've always seen it as a safe go-between for someone who's experimenting and not quite sure of his or her sexual identity yet, which I think is totally fine. I just don't think of it as a separate orientation-- but I'm sure there are some people out there who do feel just as strongly about boys as girls.

So, I just got my dress for the awards gala thing today! It looks a bit like the purple one in front, but the row of jewels under the bust is wider. It makes me feel like Meg from Hercules!

[killertofu333]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:39pm

Schmerg, that dress is stunning. And I loved Meg from Hercules, not to mention Lillias White was a muse from the movie YAY!!!

Updated On: 5/14/09 at 04:39 PM

[justagirl2]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:43pm

Schmerg! I love that dress! Purple is my favorite color.

"Thus why some lesbians (still hate that word) like the thrill of the chase and may go after exclusively straight women."

tofu, your timing on this statement is perfect. One of my best friends is an out and proud lesbian, but has been dating a straight girl for three months now...officially. I met this girl a few days ago, and I felt so bad because she was really awkward around me because she didn't want me to "assume" she's a lesbian. She completely identifies herself as straight, and has made it clear that my friend is the ONLY girl she'll ever do anything sexual with. Kind of a weird situation, and it makes me sad that my friend can't really be open about their relationship because this girl "IS STRAIGHT."

[danmag]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:53pm

Very pretty, Schmerg!

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 4:58pm

Love it Schmerg!

I haven't had enough wine yet to get into the whole bisexual, gay straight discussion.

Anyhoooooooooo......don't you love when you think you lost something and then it turns up? I have the cutest hot pink sandals from Ann Taylor that I thought I lost and I found them today! I'm wearing them to the ice cream social tonight at Henry's school with white capris jeans and a pink and white peasant top. Is it too early for white jeans? Tough **** I'm wearin' them anyway.

Also is it bad that I'm having a glass of wine before I go to a function at the elementary school?

[lusciouslace]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:01pm

Schmerg!! Wow that's pretty!! :)

Tofu- Question for you. What are your thoughts about straight girls crushing on lesbians? I've heard some people say that it happens a lot. Any thoughts?

[killertofu333]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:02pm

Jag, I don't want to sound like I'm harping on your friend, but I don't think I could handle a situation like that. Sure I might have a lot of fun with a straight girl and we may connect on a different level but I wouldn't want her to feel awkward when she's with me. Having to constantly "explain" herself and always tell people she's straight can't make her feel good and it wouldn't make me feel good either knowing that she has such reservations about "us". Like I said it's just too much drama for me.

Hmmmm Luscious, I've personally never had that happen to me. But I have witnessed a few incidents....at the bar of course. I'd actually be wary of a straight girl who had a crush on me. I don't have it in me to be someone's "experience" and then they turn around and run back to their boyfriend. I just wouldn't want to get hurt...yes I'm a marshmallow on the inside. I don't think you're obligated to identify as anything, but it would make me a feel a bit better if I wasn't always guessing about your motives or intentions with me.

Updated On: 5/14/09 at 05:02 PM

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:04pm

One of my closest friends has identified as a lesbian for years, but she fell head over heels for a guy. In the meanwhile, though, she's dating a straight girl who is famous for dating basically every guy in the school and who dozens of guys have broken up with their girlfriends for because they like her better. She just went through a bad breakup, so she decided to go out with a girl for awhile to take a break from the whole dating thing.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:16pm

That just seems ridiculous to me Schmerg. And it's not really fair to your friend if she really likes her.

[danmag]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:20pm

Tofu, you are such a wise young woman. You certainly seem to have your sh*t together.

[killertofu333]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:28pm

Thanks Danmag. Sure I have my sh*t together now, but give me a dirty Martini with 2 olives and my sh*t falls apart in a heartbeat!!! LOL

[withoutlovewithoutU]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:31pm

Schmerg - LOVE the dress!
Today is a good day.... got off work an hour early because I unpacked, sorted, and priced a massive box of plaques, a really hot guy came into the store and was totally hitting on me, and Neil Patrick Harris is hosting the Tony's!!

About the whole bi thing... a big part of me feels like love is love, and everybody has the capacity to fall for just about anyone..... like you really don't choose who you love. *sigh* But some people aren't as comfortable with that notion and don't want those labels put on them. It's sad really. It's like, just love who you love and if there is a label that goes with that....deal with it! (Man I am such a hippy).

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:31pm

No, neither of the girls really likes each other romantically. They're just friends, but they're "dating". The one who's my friend has always identified as a lesbian, but now she likes some guy who doesn't like her back, and the other girl just wants to avoid the guys for a bit and my friend is apparently going along to do her a favor or something? I don't know, the whole thing confuses me.

But I think it summarizes why I think high school relationships are usually kind of stupid.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:32pm

If it only has one olive?

[StockardFan]

Posted: 5/14/09 at 5:33pm

Schmerg, that whole situation has me scratching my head.