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#76

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Cirque Du Oy Vey

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"TheatreDiva90016 - another good reason to frequent these boards less."<<>> “I hesitate to give this line of discussion the validation it so desperately craves by perpetuating it, but the light from logic is getting further and further away with your every successive post.” <<>> -whatever2
#77

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Akiva
#78

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wow, akiva, thanks for sharing. it is always great to hear about people's personal experiences. thanks for adding so much to this discussion.
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#79

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Yes, Akiva, and you would make some guy a lovely husband.
"TheatreDiva90016 - another good reason to frequent these boards less."<<>> “I hesitate to give this line of discussion the validation it so desperately craves by perpetuating it, but the light from logic is getting further and further away with your every successive post.” <<>> -whatever2
#80

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Akiva, the part I don't understand is the desire to give your parents Grandchildren. It is not an obligation. Parents do not have a right to Grandchildren. There are so many reasons for having children, but to have a child to make someone else happy will only lead to regret and resentment.
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#81

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Hah,

I dunno...maybe that is more me than my parents. I helped raise my nephew in his first two year, and in the few months that I am home now I am still active in raising him. There is nobody in the world I love more, and I am absolutely nuts about him. I can't wait to have kids of my own. And I also know that my nephews are what keep my parents going. They adore them more than anything too. But I guess it is more my own desire to give my parents grandkids, and myself kids.

Akiva
#82

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i think we can all understand "unspoken obligations" or even spoken obligations that we feel. as for me, i am the only son in my family and felt a huge burden growing up knowing that the family name would end with me because i was gay.

it only added to the problem for me as i struggled with letting my father down and allowing our lineage to die off. nothing was said by my father about this before or after i came out. i'd like to say he would want me to be happy but in his particular case i don't think that is much of an issue.
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#84

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i can't believe i wasn't here for all of this!

paljoey, i absolutely believe that it is possible to be jewish and gay and personally, i feel that the conservative movement should reflect that, but unfortunately it doesn't yet completely and is still a long way off but i think that it will one day happen. while they're different issues, i think it will work out eventually like ordaining female rabbis and becoming egalitarian did.

in terms of children, i don't think it's just about passing on the family name. it's more about passing on the jewish name. because of the jewish history of persecution, i think jews feel a strong need to pass on the tradition so that it won't die out. without people all over the world advocating for israel, it won't be able to last forever.

i definately feel obligated by my parents to marry someone jewish but i don't think i would want to marry someone that wasn't just because it's such a big part of me and i think it's a wonderful thing to eventually pass on to my children.
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#85

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"All organized Religions offer some really great things to some people. But it really is pathetic how people use it like a smorgasbord."

I was at a restaurant a few weeks ago, and a bunch of teens from a muslim school came in. When they were ordering the food, they were sure to check that what they ordered didn't have any pork in it. "No pork," they said. "We're muslims." And then they ate, ordered some (alcoholic) drinks, and got all wasted.

Now THAT was pathetic.

I understand part of what Sueleen is saying. Too many people practice their faith on a very shallow level. And, as in the example above, even on the shallow level they pick and choose what to follow, without basing their decisions on logic.

I do think, though, that it is important to make a distinction between the 'core' teaching of any religion vs. the cultural aspects of it. The core is the basic message, the spirit of compassion, respect, and so forth, which I believe is universal. But as time goes on, the cultural context changes, and I think it's important for the followers of the various spiritual traditions then to examine the cultural aspects to see how they need to be adapted. Some of these issues that are being examined within Islam are the role of women, separation of church and state, homosexuality, and many others. The interesting thing is, what Sueleen said -- about using religion like a smorgasbord -- has been used against the liberal movements of Islam (and other religions). "This is god's word, guys," they say. "You can't pick and choose. Take it or leave it." But I think those adjustments are absolutely necessary.

PalJoey - Yes, the liberal movements do exist. Thanks for the invitation to start a thread, but I'm not sure how qualified I am to start a discussion on it, as I don't consider myself as part of any organized religion. My background is basically this: I was born a muslim and grew up both in a country that's predominantly muslim (but is NOT an islamic state) and in the US. I recognize Islam as my spiritual root, but I've also explored other teachings, and I find that more useful, personally, than identifying myself with a specific religion. So I fast during Ramadhan because it makes sense to me, and I do Buddhist meditations because that makes sense to me... I guess I'm using this whole religion thing even more of a smorgasbord than Sueleen's example in her post.

Updated On: 7/9/05 at 08:57 PM

#86

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jrb,

I am definitely not denying what you are saying. Adopted or other non-traditional kids are totally in my mind the same as giving birth to a kid. That was less in response to the gay issue, and more in response to the family pressure for getting married issue. I would totally consider adopting...and in fact, I would love to do so, if my future spuse agrees.

Akiva

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