Hmm...that was a great post too Jamie, and gets me thinking philisophically(I do that a lot). IS it perhaps better to go through rough times then never face anything too difficult? I'm really not sure. I mean you could really argue either side--you can use your argument, or I can come back and say there's nothing to complain about if you've never faced a huge difficulty.
Ah, nevermind, decided I agree with you. I actually wrote a story for creative writing in...11th grade which I suppose examined this thought. The story started with a sentence describing a miserable girl jumping off a bridge and committing suicide, and then there were these two gods who controlled how much happiness occurred in one's life and how much suffering, and that the suffering god went too far with the girl who committed suicide, so the happiness god got to pick someone who would never face any suffering, misery, etc. It was a short story so it could have been expanded but basically the upshot was she never had any hopes, any wants, she was barely human. She felt like everyone around her was robotic, she iddn't understand why she just got everything. finally she decided she wanted to experience pain and so she did...never having experienced a bit of pain in her life, she couldn't handle it, and the first sentence about the miserable girl committing suicide is repeated as the last sentence in the story.
Anyway, I guess part of what makes us human is having wants and suffering a bit. But you certainly shouldn't feel guilty that you haven't been through tough times!! Please don't go looking for them...your parents have a point, but perhaps it's being taken too far...I mean it's great to have a bit more appreciation for things in life, but one certainly wouldn't want to go around thinking of nothing but terrible things that happen to others, it would depress you. I mean my best friend's brother that I mentioned, obviously it made me think about my own situation, and as much as I love my friend and her family, it's not something I dwell on about all the time, you know?
I guess...I hate this b/c I was so determined to argue w/ my mom this point when I was depressed, but I know it's true...everything happens for a reason. Good things, bad things. The best thing to do is not overly dwell-obviously it's important to remember when bad things happen, but there's prob a reason bad things don't happen to.
Who else thinks it's not at all obvious that I want to be a psychologist?
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