Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

#1

Raising Tween/Teen Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:56pm

I have 12 and 10 year olds girls, right now C12 is having a hair fit that I not only do not understand and do not even know how to address.

Any general advice on raising Tweens?

Updated On: 1/6/07 at 10:56 PM

#2

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:57pm

Get a nanny :)

#3

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:58pm

It will get easier! One day they will learn that mom and dad really aren't as dumb as they thought they were. Until then just keep breathing.

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#4

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:59pm

Earplugs?

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#5

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:00pm

Shave her!

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#6

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:00pm

By 'one day' Mom means sometime AFTER they have left the nest and had to fend for themselves....

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#7

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:01pm

Hey Erin is a lot easier, now that she needs us to pay for Loyola!

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"All I ask of you is one thing: please don't be cynical. I hate cynicism -- it's my least favorite quality and it doesn't lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you're kind, amazing things will happen." Conan O'Brien

#8

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:02pm

Hair is a REALLY BIG thing to a 12 year old girl. It's all about image which is all about acceptance. I never raised a boy, so I don't know the male counterpart to a hair crisis. But believe me, this is bigger than hair to her.

#9

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:07pm

The immediate crisis is over for now. Bluemoon, you are correct, I heard the word "ugly" used which is not true.

#10

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:09pm

If you need help with your tweens, ask me because I'm 14 and still remember what it was like.

#11

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:09pm

I still throw fits over my hair.

I plan on throwing a fit next week because I think my dress is ugly.

I'm sorry we're so much trouble.

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#12

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:10pm

Why is she having a hair crisis at this time of night? Is she on her way out to deejay at a club?

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Have I ever shown you my Shattered Dreams box? It's in my Disappointment Closet. - Marge Simpson

#13

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:11pm

Don't scare him like that!

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Deet: Shira, I Love You!

#14

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:16pm

Rath - the homwork was finished at 9:15, shower and fit at 9:45 CDT.

#15

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:25pm

It's being frizzy, most likely

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#16

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:28pm

Shira - exactly!!! She wanted it blown dry straight which cannot happen at 10:00, she has gorgeous hair like her mother - very thick.

#17

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:31pm

That's how mine is (for those who've seen my hair!)

It's thick, curly, and takes at least an hour to dry and straighten with a 230 degree iron...

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Deet: Shira, I Love You!

#18

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:33pm

It is also very difficult to straighten hair now, as it is rainy and humid outside and it will frizz again as soon as she steps outside!

#19

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:35pm

L - you have straight hair?

#20

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:37pm

Not naturally anymore. It was when I was a kid, now it tends to be curlyish. But sometimes I'll straighten it if I have someplace nice to be. Most days my hair is in a ponytail.

#21

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:38pm

Yup she does.

My hair is curly and will remain as such until spring, I think.

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Deet: Shira, I Love You!

#22

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:40pm

Shira, my hair is much thinner than yours, I'm not so lucky with the thick and wavy. Mine looks straight compared to yours!

#23

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:41pm

shira's right, fits over thick, frizzy hair never go away. I bet my dad was probably posting messages like this online 8 years ago, trying to figure out what the hell was the matter with me. Eventually, I just gave up and let it curl.

Regardless of the issue, if she's making a big deal about, it IS a big deal to her, so belittling it will only make her more frustrated and upset.

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#24

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:43pm

Skittles, for once I made the right choice. I hugged her and we devised a plan for her for tomorrow.

#25

re: Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:43pm

Thats the way to do it, brd!

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Deet: Shira, I Love You!