Raising Tween Girls, HELP!

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:56pm

I have 12 and 10 year olds girls, right now C12 is having a hair fit that I not only do not understand and do not even know how to address.

Any general advice on raising Tweens?
Updated On: 1/6/07 at 10:56 PM

[liotte]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:57pm

Get a nanny :)

[mominator]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:58pm

It will get easier! One day they will learn that mom and dad really aren't as dumb as they thought they were. Until then just keep breathing.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 10:59pm

Earplugs?

[Over_the_Moon]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:00pm

Shave her!

[RoadCase]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:00pm

By 'one day' Mom means sometime AFTER they have left the nest and had to fend for themselves....

[mominator]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:01pm

Hey Erin is a lot easier, now that she needs us to pay for Loyola!

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:02pm

Hair is a REALLY BIG thing to a 12 year old girl. It's all about image which is all about acceptance. I never raised a boy, so I don't know the male counterpart to a hair crisis. But believe me, this is bigger than hair to her.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:07pm

The immediate crisis is over for now. Bluemoon, you are correct, I heard the word "ugly" used which is not true.

[My Fair Lady]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:09pm

If you need help with your tweens, ask me because I'm 14 and still remember what it was like.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:09pm

I still throw fits over my hair.

I plan on throwing a fit next week because I think my dress is ugly.

I'm sorry we're so much trouble.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:10pm

Why is she having a hair crisis at this time of night? Is she on her way out to deejay at a club?

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:11pm

Don't scare him like that!

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:16pm

Rath - the homwork was finished at 9:15, shower and fit at 9:45 CDT.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:25pm

It's being frizzy, most likely

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:28pm

Shira - exactly!!! She wanted it blown dry straight which cannot happen at 10:00, she has gorgeous hair like her mother - very thick.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:31pm

That's how mine is (for those who've seen my hair!)

It's thick, curly, and takes at least an hour to dry and straighten with a 230 degree iron...

[liotte]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:33pm

It is also very difficult to straighten hair now, as it is rainy and humid outside and it will frizz again as soon as she steps outside!

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:35pm

L - you have straight hair?

[liotte]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:37pm

Not naturally anymore. It was when I was a kid, now it tends to be curlyish. But sometimes I'll straighten it if I have someplace nice to be. Most days my hair is in a ponytail.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:38pm

Yup she does.

My hair is curly and will remain as such until spring, I think.

[liotte]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:40pm

Shira, my hair is much thinner than yours, I'm not so lucky with the thick and wavy. Mine looks straight compared to yours!

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:41pm

shira's right, fits over thick, frizzy hair never go away. I bet my dad was probably posting messages like this online 8 years ago, trying to figure out what the hell was the matter with me. Eventually, I just gave up and let it curl.

Regardless of the issue, if she's making a big deal about, it IS a big deal to her, so belittling it will only make her more frustrated and upset.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:43pm

Skittles, for once I made the right choice. I hugged her and we devised a plan for her for tomorrow.

[shira467]

Posted: 10/13/05 at 11:43pm

Thats the way to do it, brd!