Raising Tween Girls, HELP!- Page 5

[CostumeMistress]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 12:29pm

Blue - I think both parents and teens need an owner's manual for each other. I was the first kid, and my parents were very young. As a teen I sometimes had their insecurities about themselves projected onto me - not fun. If I had known then what I know now, I could have dealt with it a lot better. Of course, there were plenty of times when I was difficult, too. So I guess we're all even in the end.

[liotte]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 12:30pm

My parents wanted to disown me.

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 12:40pm

C21 says that it's very hard to raise parents these days.

[babygirl83]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 1:12pm

Ok, mom asked me to put in my 2cents here (this is bluemoon's c21, btw). I actually do remember that incident. We were driving to school my junior year. I'd had a really bad week and woke up tired and feeling like crap, not wanting to go to school. so I was NOT a happy camper to find myself in the car at 7:30am. I had felt like she was ignoring how I was feeling and when she told me had to to take care of something at school that day it was the last straw. Those explosions are an attention getting/sympathy tactic and, I'm sorry to say, are pretty common. Later that day when I told my friends, most of them had had similar incidents with in the last 2 weeks. The best thing to do is act sympathetic and seem receptive, even if you're going to do what they don't want. It will help head off confrontations and defuse the situation

Also, make sure not to be reactionary. My father has the tendancy (He's gotten better with it), and it drove me nuts-still does! The worst thing to do is allow yourself to react in any way that can be seen as angry/frustrated/insensitive. No matter what, keep your voice even and appear open and understanding, even if you want to scream. It'll make it a 5min. situation instead of 2 days.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 2:25pm

Wise words, little sis.

I was still the good one.

Updated On: 11/5/05 at 02:25 PM

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 11/5/05 at 2:29pm

Also, make sure not to be reactionary. My father has the tendancy (He's gotten better with it), and it drove me nuts-still does! The worst thing to do is allow yourself to react in any way that can be seen as angry/frustrated/insensitive. No matter what, keep your voice even and appear open and understanding, even if you want to scream.

Thanks Baby - I will work on that. Raising my voice is definately a weakness of mine.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 11/18/05 at 10:19pm

OK, our friend called my wife this week and said that her ten year old had her period. JMJ how are girls of that age so mature?

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 11/18/05 at 10:24pm

The age of reaching puberty is slowly decreasing, there are some girls as young as 8 getting their periods. No one's really sure why, but one of my professors says it may have something to do with the increasing obesity in America. In most cases, girls get their first period once they reach 100 lbs.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 11/18/05 at 10:42pm

Please, god give us a few years!

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:25pm

Dad, you don't know what I'm going through - just go away

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:29pm

So what happened?

[Kringas]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:29pm

JMJ how are girls of that age so mature?

I've heard it could have to do with the hormones given to cows that we use for milk.

Updated On: 3/23/06 at 10:29 PM

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:50pm

Well, she is having a "fight" among her friends. She was mad because I did not give her time at bedtime to respond to an e-mail and that was her response.

Kringas, we are not a milk family, THAT is next.

My wife and I have a joke between us, Come on with it, have your period, maybe you will be nice.
Updated On: 3/23/06 at 10:50 PM

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:55pm

Are you two close? Like could you talk to her about the fight with her friends?

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 10:57pm

You can't win on this one, brd. It was apparently important that she respond and she couldn't. But the way these fights go, she'd be responding back and forth all night til the above mentioned, milk-bearing cows come home.

Maybe the fight will peter out now that one of the participants isn't responding. But there will be more fights on other days. And they will all be VERY IMPORTANT.
*sigh*

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:02pm

Maybe if you let her talk about the fight, and possibly bitch about her friends if she needs to, it could help her not be mad at you anymore and get some of her feelings out.

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:04pm

DNM, yes, I am great friends with my daughter and her friends, I know them all well.

See Moonies response - a seasoned parent!

[liotte]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:05pm

you need a nanny

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:06pm

DNM,as to your second response, I should have taken more time!

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:11pm

Wait, what?

[kissmycookie]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:14pm

I think you need to start chugging the Laurent Perrier, B...

[brdlwyr]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:17pm

C, good idea! (empty bottle)

DNM, I agreed that I should have given her more time to talk about it.

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:21pm

Oh.

I meant that maybe she could talk to you about her friends and her fight. Sometimes it really helps to just talk about it to someone. Thats what I do with my mom..

[DancNdaMoonlite]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:22pm

Threadjack- That post made me a legend! Yay!

[theatrebabe]

Posted: 3/23/06 at 11:22pm

Wow. It's awesome that you guys are close enough to talk about that junk. I would die before I would tell my dad about the drama between my friends. But that's mostly cause I know he'd think it was the stupidest stuff ever. Which it is. But sometimes I don't realize that until I say it all out loud.