Raising Tween Girls, HELP! — Page 5

My parents wanted to disown me.

Ok, mom asked me to put in my 2cents here (this is bluemoon's c21, btw). I actually do remember that incident. We were driving to school my junior year. I'd had a really bad week and woke up tired and feeling like crap, not wanting to go to school. so I was NOT a happy camper to find myself in the car at 7:30am. I had felt like she was ignoring how I was feeling and when she told me had to to take care of something at school that day it was the last straw. Those explosions are an attention getting/sympathy tactic and, I'm sorry to say, are pretty common. Later that day when I told my friends, most of them had had similar incidents with in the last 2 weeks. The best thing to do is act sympathetic and seem receptive, even if you're going to do what they don't want. It will help head off confrontations and defuse the situation

Also, make sure not to be reactionary. My father has the tendancy (He's gotten better with it), and it drove me nuts-still does! The worst thing to do is allow yourself to react in any way that can be seen as angry/frustrated/insensitive. No matter what, keep your voice even and appear open and understanding, even if you want to scream. It'll make it a 5min. situation instead of 2 days.

Also, make sure not to be reactionary. My father has the tendancy (He's gotten better with it), and it drove me nuts-still does! The worst thing to do is allow yourself to react in any way that can be seen as angry/frustrated/insensitive. No matter what, keep your voice even and appear open and understanding, even if you want to scream.

Thanks Baby - I will work on that. Raising my voice is definately a weakness of mine.

The age of reaching puberty is slowly decreasing, there are some girls as young as 8 getting their periods. No one's really sure why, but one of my professors says it may have something to do with the increasing obesity in America. In most cases, girls get their first period once they reach 100 lbs.

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Dad, you don't know what I'm going through - just go away

JMJ how are girls of that age so mature?

I've heard it could have to do with the hormones given to cows that we use for milk.

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Updated On: 3/23/06 at 10:29 PM

Are you two close? Like could you talk to her about the fight with her friends?

Maybe if you let her talk about the fight, and possibly bitch about her friends if she needs to, it could help her not be mad at you anymore and get some of her feelings out.

you need a nanny

Wait, what?

C, good idea! (empty bottle)

DNM, I agreed that I should have given her more time to talk about it.

Threadjack- That post made me a legend! Yay!