#26
Posted: 7/18/05 at 8:06pm
LOL Chita--you are so right! Now, I'm happy with guys in their 40's.
What Do You Guys Think? (adult/minor relationship) — Page 2
#27
Posted: 7/18/05 at 8:09pm
Sue is a lovely little old lady......and a big perverted ho that knows EVERYTHING about sex. She has a wildly successful show "Talk Sex With Sue" (formerly known as "The Sunday Night Sex Show")on the Oxygen network. Imagine Mrs. Doubtfire crossed with Dr Ruth (without the accent).
www.talksexwithsue.com
www.talksexwithsue.com
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#28
Posted: 7/18/05 at 8:34pm
Jay you've almost let the cat out of the bag, you might as well tell all. It's hard to give advice when it's all about a vague 17 year old and some 25 year old.
I'll give my politcally incorrect version: You know what you want to do. You want to jump his bones. Is he interested? Have you two talked about it? COULD you talk about it? Who is he to you? A 25 year old Teacher is a whole nother kettle of fish than a 25 year old neighbor.
Oddly, my advice is don't do it. I think you'd get a roll in the hay and you want a love affair. If you are the world's most unemptional 17 year old and you REALLY do want sheet ripping sex and then never see him again, well there are worse things that could happen to you than lose your virginity to an older experienced man who has a place of his own and can stock up on champagne, KY & Condoms. BUT, I hope he says no. At least till you're legal. Think how HOT that would be-- everytime you two chat for the next year, you'd be saying "Man, I can hardly wait---214 days till we rut like crazed weasels!!" Trust me, a year of foreplay would be wonderful.
Meanwhile, you've got a lot of wise elders here. Use 'em!
I'll give my politcally incorrect version: You know what you want to do. You want to jump his bones. Is he interested? Have you two talked about it? COULD you talk about it? Who is he to you? A 25 year old Teacher is a whole nother kettle of fish than a 25 year old neighbor.
Oddly, my advice is don't do it. I think you'd get a roll in the hay and you want a love affair. If you are the world's most unemptional 17 year old and you REALLY do want sheet ripping sex and then never see him again, well there are worse things that could happen to you than lose your virginity to an older experienced man who has a place of his own and can stock up on champagne, KY & Condoms. BUT, I hope he says no. At least till you're legal. Think how HOT that would be-- everytime you two chat for the next year, you'd be saying "Man, I can hardly wait---214 days till we rut like crazed weasels!!" Trust me, a year of foreplay would be wonderful.
Meanwhile, you've got a lot of wise elders here. Use 'em!
#29
Posted: 7/18/05 at 9:22pm
Young Frankenstein:Roll roll roll
#30
Posted: 7/18/05 at 9:33pm
well, being a stright male, i am only 15 and if I were to date a 21 year old woman that just wound be weird...exept if it was Idina...or...CJR...
#31
Posted: 7/18/05 at 9:36pm
Taye Diggs would be really pissed.
#32
Posted: 7/19/05 at 3:08am
Don't you people know the "Divide by 2, Add 7" rule?
Take the age of older person. Divide by 2, add 7. That is the youngest (s)he can date without it being socially inappropriate. (You can also do it in reverse: subtract 7, muliply by 2 to get the upper limit.)
Works every time!
Take the age of older person. Divide by 2, add 7. That is the youngest (s)he can date without it being socially inappropriate. (You can also do it in reverse: subtract 7, muliply by 2 to get the upper limit.)
Works every time!
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#33
Posted: 7/19/05 at 3:24am
So...my range is anywhere between 16 1/2 to 24! Rock on!!! Too bad the law doesn't like the whole 16 thing.
#34
Posted: 7/19/05 at 9:38am
Wow, talk about an episode out of my past. I was 17, and "lost it" to a guy that was 31. Yup, a notch on the bedpost. I ended up getting hurt, because I thought I was "in love", and he thought I was the newest chicken on the market.
But it ended up being a learning experience for me, a big one. In a lot of ways (*wink*), but it did make me grow up a lot.
I think they're a lot of different types of 17 year olds out there -- I was a very immature one when it came to matters of the heart, of sex, etc. So, if you're THAT type of 17, don't do it. Take it from one who knows.
But it ended up being a learning experience for me, a big one. In a lot of ways (*wink*), but it did make me grow up a lot.
I think they're a lot of different types of 17 year olds out there -- I was a very immature one when it came to matters of the heart, of sex, etc. So, if you're THAT type of 17, don't do it. Take it from one who knows.
#35
Posted: 7/19/05 at 10:59am
I never liked 17 year olds...even when I was 17. The youngest I ever tried to date was 21 when I was 26 and thought, 'MY GOD HE'S SO YOUNG...and HOT!' Didn't work out.
That said, I have some advice for the 'older' men. IF you are going to be with someone in the later teen years (and it must be the later teen years) and IF you are going to 'take his flower' as Monica might say, take Dan Savage's advice and leave 'em better than you found 'em. Be honest. Be caring. Teach him a few things. Never let him think that a relationship could form.
There was a guy I met when I was 17 that, if I were perhaps a little more assertive, I would have loved to have fooled around with. He was VERY cute and very kind (and probably 22-23). I can't help but think he would have been the perfect person to learn about sex with and from.
When I eventually 'lost my flower', I was not in love. He was just a really good friend and we had a great time. No feelings were ever confused, I learned a lot and it was a great experience.
That said, I have some advice for the 'older' men. IF you are going to be with someone in the later teen years (and it must be the later teen years) and IF you are going to 'take his flower' as Monica might say, take Dan Savage's advice and leave 'em better than you found 'em. Be honest. Be caring. Teach him a few things. Never let him think that a relationship could form.
There was a guy I met when I was 17 that, if I were perhaps a little more assertive, I would have loved to have fooled around with. He was VERY cute and very kind (and probably 22-23). I can't help but think he would have been the perfect person to learn about sex with and from.
When I eventually 'lost my flower', I was not in love. He was just a really good friend and we had a great time. No feelings were ever confused, I learned a lot and it was a great experience.
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#36
Posted: 7/19/05 at 11:06am
ljay889 - Another thing to think about. Do you like the guy? If so, do you want to see him go to jail? If anyone finds out what happens, it will always be a possibility. And once he is labeled a "sex offender", it will follow him around for the rest of his life. Is that something you are willing to put upon him for the chance at a single hot sexual encounter?
"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian
#37
Posted: 7/19/05 at 11:12am
Robbie I am so glad you invoked the "Campsite Rule!" It's a keeper. I've always endeavored to leave nice campsites behind. I only wish there had been a couple of "Seasoned Campers" when I was a cub scout. I had to figure it all out on my own.
#38
Posted: 7/19/05 at 11:17am
The weird thing is - he is kind've pushing for it. He lives near me, 5 minutes away. And he really wants to meet me to say "HI" for five minutes - then if we click - we could meet again. Like he really wants to meet me first - not for anything sexual. And I believe he wouldn't try anything funny meeting for the first time.
But I don't know. This thread has opened my eyes more.
But I don't know. This thread has opened my eyes more.
#39
Posted: 7/19/05 at 11:20am
WELL...I haven't had any sexual dealings with gay (or soon-to-be gay teens), but I have been in a sort of mentor role at times. Even in that role, we must take care to give these young adults support and honest advice. I'll even give frank sexual advice to the older teens. I was so scared of sex...especially gay sex...at that age that I simply couldn't imagine having it. I wish someone sat me down and told me how to protect myself both physically and emotionally. I wish someone said, 'Ya know, sex can be just sex and it can still be great and fun.' I spent so many years confusing love and sex. When I was finally able to accept that those two don't always go together, I was able to define for myself what I really wanted out of a partner. Perhaps that knowledge really only comes with time, but it would have been great to have someone tell me that there's more than one possibility for healthy sexual expression.
And going on what Matt said...ONLY consider doing this if you are of the age of consent in your state!! PLEASE...don't go ruining someone's life because you want to get your rocks off.
And going on what Matt said...ONLY consider doing this if you are of the age of consent in your state!! PLEASE...don't go ruining someone's life because you want to get your rocks off.
"I'm so looking forward to a time when all the Reagan Democrats are dead."
#40
Posted: 7/19/05 at 12:11pm
He wants to meet? You don't know him already?
This sounds dangerous.
This sounds dangerous.
#41
Posted: 7/19/05 at 12:21pm
Chita, I picked up on that too. Is this an internet 'connection'? If so, then be careful.
I was 16 when I was involved with an almost 30 year old. It was great fun, and learned a lot. But Robbie, I wish he'd taken your advice to the 'older' folk fooling around with an impressionable teen... messed me up emotionally for a long time. And before anyone starts screaming, age of consent back home IS 16.
I was 16 when I was involved with an almost 30 year old. It was great fun, and learned a lot. But Robbie, I wish he'd taken your advice to the 'older' folk fooling around with an impressionable teen... messed me up emotionally for a long time. And before anyone starts screaming, age of consent back home IS 16.
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#42
Posted: 7/19/05 at 12:50pm
A lot of people continue to talk about going to jail and it being illegal. That isn't necessarily so. Check the age of consent in the state you live in. Also check and see if there is a homosexual age of consent as well. Do you want to be friends with benefits? If so, can you handle that? Are you looking for a relationship or just a sexual encounter? There are so many things that you need to stop and just really think through. Why are you attracted to this guy? What draws you to him? Can you be friends without sex? Can you have sex without being "in love"? I cannot tell you what is right and what is wrong. I can't say he is too old for you or that it will not work out. We are all different people. What works for some doesn't work for others. Also don't let society dictate how you live your life, let your heart do that.
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#43
Posted: 7/19/05 at 12:57pm
14 in Italy. "When we finish having sex I can help you with your adverbs and prepositions"
#44
Posted: 7/19/05 at 1:04pm
so what about a 23 year old and a 38 yr old?
#45
Posted: 7/19/05 at 1:05pm
I'd have no problem with having a 23 year old after me. 
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#46
Posted: 7/19/05 at 1:16pm
If I'm the 23 year old I would like the 38 year old to impart his wisdom wisely and sparingly. I would not want to date a "parent."
#47
Posted: 7/19/05 at 1:47pm
If I'm the 38 year-old, I wouldn't want to date a child.
"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian
#48
Posted: 7/19/05 at 3:56pm
Well that's the problem with dating people my own age they are children and are doing childish things...drugs, unsafe sex, etc. and this isn't all of them but a good deal...
#49
Posted: 7/19/05 at 3:59pm
'are doing childish things...drugs, unsafe sex, etc.'
Oh honey, so are the adults.
So are the adults.
Oh honey, so are the adults.
So are the adults.
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#50
Posted: 7/19/05 at 4:02pm
lajy, it would be utterly foolish and downright dangerous to arrange a meeting with this man. Don't do it!
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