I don't think that people MENTIONING the stage door bothers most. I know that I find it annoying when that gets more details, thought and attention than the performance. (and as already said, effects their feelings towards the show)
Few people here want to discuss anything. All they want is to be validated. So if someone disagrees with them, either on their interpretation or with their opinion they take it as an attack. And on the other hand, there are those that DO attack simply because of the poster's taste -- and that didn't happen too often in years past.
I would love to "get into it" with someone that disagrees with me -- but by talking about WHY, not to know who is right or wrong.
Even when gads of people here disliked shows like Spring Awakening for example, people actually had CONVERSATIONS about it why. They had REASONS and articulated them. People had QUESTIONS that required thought and they were truly looking to know more. I miss that. (I don't miss SA, but the discourse.)
Isn't it interesting that THIS thread has been one of the most respectful and thoughtful ones as of late?
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.