What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?

[iHeartMyGeek]

What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#0

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:23am

Okay, so I've been with this guy for about 2 3/4 years now, and I really want to break up with him. We broke up last December nad got back together but now I realize that this relationship is really unhealthy for both of us. He's pretty much obsessed with me, he won't leave me alone and he's ten times more emotional than I am (I know every woman says she wants a sensitive guy but trust me, you don't. Your boyfriend should not be more of a girl than you.) So I need to figure out how to break up with him and make it final. Should I do it over the phone? In person? What should I say? Anyone have any tips?

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

[Broadwayboobs]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#1

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:25am

I think that over the phone or an email is the cowardly way of doing it...it MUST be done in person.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Ralph Waldo Emerson

[Craig]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#2

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:26am

Send him a link to this thread?

"A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men" - Willy Wonka

[RobbO]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#3

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:27am

a post-it.

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[SonofMammaMiaSam]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#4

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:27am

Flush the poo!

[doodlenyc]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#5

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:28am

Leave the country, change your identity and fingerprints.

"Carson has combined his passion for helping children with his love for one of Cincinnati's favorite past times - cornhole - to create a unique and exciting event perfect for a corporate outing, entertaining clients or family fun."

"In Oz, the verb is douchifizzation." PRS

[GuyfromGermany]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#6

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:29am

I think one of those planes with a banner attached to its end would be very classy!

In the real world the only people who burst into song are the hopelessly deranged...

[bwaysinger]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#7

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:30am

The best way to break up with me...I mean him, is to just ignore me...I mean him! HIM!...until I get the hint.
I mean until he gets the hint.

[Fiction Writer]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#8

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:30am

Anyone remember how it happens in EVERYTHING IS ILLUMINATED? I remember it had to do with a letter.

"I had to do it for myself," I think is what the woman wrote.

[wexy]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#9

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:31am

Like Boobs says, it has to be done in person.In the long run, you'll feel better about it as well.

'Take me out tonight where's there's music and there's people and they're young and alive.'

[iHeartMyGeek]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#10

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:31am

The only reason I'm hesitating to do it in person is this: I know he's going to freak out, start crying a lot, and probably just hang onto me for a long time and I don't think I can deal with that. I'm scared to break up with him because I'm worried that he's not going to leave me alone. I mean, I don't think he's necessarily capable of stalking, but I'm not sure. I'm his entire life. He doesn't have any other real friends or anything, and I'm just worried for him.

On a lighter note, I do have a friend who broke up with a guy with a Post-It. But they were only dating for, like, a month anyway.

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

[Fiction Writer]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#11

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:36am

When I was living in CA, I went to this party where the host made everyone sign this book. (He's big on mementos.) I wrote "I'm Austin and I'm gonna break up with my boyfriend tonight."

I was also really drunk. Nathan (Y'all remember him, right?) read it before I got a chance to tell him.

Oops.

[JerseyGirl2]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#12

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:38am

I can think of about 50 ways, I think...

Pretty pretty please don't you ever ever feel like you're less than f**ckin' perfect!

[Mister Matt]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#13

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:44am

Shannon Doherty

"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian

[DBillyP]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#14

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:45am

Who else watches How I met Your Mother?!? Did you see the episode where Ted breaks up with his girlfriend on her answering machine ... on her birthday ... with an apartment full of people waiting to surprise her?!?

Hysterical!

But not a good way to do it ...

"I am open, and I am willing, For to be hopeless would seem so strange. It dishonors those who go before us, So lift me up to the light of change." Holly Near

[Fiction Writer]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#15

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:47am

If we're going to use people, you might as well pick someone that's worth it.

[iHeartMyGeek]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#16

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:47am

Maybe...I could make him a really big chocolate chip cookie...and then write on it with frosting "It's Not You, It's Me. I Think It's Time We Part Ways."

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

[Calvin]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#17

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:48am

Bway, have you been talking to...uh...every guy I've ever dated?

[Craig]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#18

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:49am

What happen to the good ole days where just telling someone you were pregnant made the feller run

Kidding of course

"A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest men" - Willy Wonka

[iHeartMyGeek]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#19

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:52am

Sad thing is that that probably wouldn't work. He'd probably get all emotional and be like "We're having a baby? I must marry you and commit to you for all time!"

"I can't figure out what kind of life this is, comedy or tragedy, I just know it's showbiz. And what if I don't agree with the lines I have to read? They don't pay me enough, the way I see it."

[doodlenyc]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#20

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:54am

I just give them crabs and blame them for cheating...it's very dramatic.

"Carson has combined his passion for helping children with his love for one of Cincinnati's favorite past times - cornhole - to create a unique and exciting event perfect for a corporate outing, entertaining clients or family fun."

"In Oz, the verb is douchifizzation." PRS

[RobbO]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#21

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:55am

that was you, doodle? i didn't even know we had dated.

XING
PED

[Calvin]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#22

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:55am

He'd probably get all emotional and be like "We're having a baby? I must marry you and commit to you for all time!"

Wow. What a jerk he is.

[CJR]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#23

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:56am

"the post it always sticks twice"

Unhealthy relationship or not, you've been together a long time..... have the decency to do it face to face. (okay that totally came out wrong) If he gets nasty or violent, dont hesitate to kick him where it hurts

"You're every gay man's wet dream!" ~ MA

If in Heaven you don't excel, you can always party down in hell...

[SueleenGay]

re: What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone?#24

Posted: 8/8/06 at 11:56am

Do it in person, in public and not at a place you ever want to go again. In other words, pick a crappy restaurant, not one of your favorites because it will ruin the place for you. Do not let him pick you up, arrive separately. In public because there is little chance of him freaking out too much or talking you into break-up sex. And leave there without him. Do not let him offer you a ride home...and go somewhere for a while where he can't find you. A friend's house or even a hotel for the night. Oh, and change your phone number before you meet with him. Oh, and mean it.

PEACE.