What's The Best Way To Break Up With Someone? — Page 2

I learned that trick from you Robbo...when you broke my heart, and made me itch.

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You could always try the Tried and True JailyardGuy Approach to Ending Relationships...

Stop returning any phone calls or emails for weeks, and start seeing someone else in the meantime. That'll do it every time!

Alternatively, you could get SUPER snippy and say "You know what? I wouldn't be dumping you right now (by the way, I'm dumping you right now) if you weren't so clingy, codependent, emotionally immature, annoying, and intrusive!"

I'm all for blowing up a bridge.

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JailyardGuy, that's almost exactly what I've been doing. Except for the seeing someone else part. And he STILL refuses to break up with me.

Okay, I'd be all well and good with a guy wanting to commit if I got pregnant out of wedlock. But that's impossible because...we aren't having sex. And because I don't love him.

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oh, i thought jaily said, "i'm all for blowing under a bridge" and thought to myself, "well, how is that gonna end the relationship?"

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Yeah, I might not like him but...I don't want to kill him. He's a sweet guy and everything. Just very misguided and anti-social. And he doesn't shower, which just throws everything else over the edge.

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"and he doesn't shower"

so i guess cheeze's solution won't work regardless.

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I hunting trip would work too...

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You could do what I did in high school -- wait until a week before the prom, and then break it off with the huge announcement that you're gay. And go to prom anyway and watch your date bitch and cry all night.

He's not the geek that you heart, is he? Be sure to let us know your new name if so.

Not only does he not shower, he's also one of those sweaters...you know, the people that sweat puddles after being outside for, like, three minutes? It's really gross.

Okay, why was I even dating this guy in the FIRST PLACE? Was I drugged for the whole of 2004?

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The lowest-drama method is to schedule 2 or 3 joint sessions with a relationship therapist and make it clear that you intend to use the sessions to end the relationship amicably.

If that's not possible, make an appointment with him to talk about "the future of our relationship" or just "the future." Arrange to do it in a public place, one where you can have an intimate conversation but still be able to escape in front of other people. The clinical nature of the request will do half the work.

Once there, say as little as possible, other than the words you used in your initial post: "This relationship is really unhealthy--for both of us."

Maintain an even keel, don't give in to his hysterics or drama. Don't give him ammunition to attack you. Let him talk--and hear him out. Respond only by saying, "I'm sorry. We tried getting back together, but it just didn't work. This relationship is really unhealthy--for both of us."

Give yourself a time limit. Let him talk for 20 minutes or so, then say, "I have to go now. Thank you for everything we shared, but I have to go now."

Arrange to meet up with friends immediately after, but don't get drunk. Prepare yourself to ignore the drama for a few days or a few weeks.

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Updated On: 8/8/06 at 12:19 PM

you picked him sweetie. Just sayin'.

I know Ivan would be PISSED if he found me talking about this on here.
I sure hope that your man doesn't read BWW.

This from CO who not only posts pictures of his boyfriend but gave some pretty intimate details about their life, too.

I used to work with a "sweater". We nicknamed him Puddles.

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I know, I just figured I could help him, you know? Give him a makeover, iron out the kinks. I know that sounds terrible but every girlfriend does it, and it's not like I planned to do it to better anyone but him.

ANd I really did love him, but it just isn't the same anymore. I think everyone has a relationship like that at one point or another.

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