is sending a birthday card considered stalking

[puppetman2]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 4:42pm

If you know a performer's birthday, would sending them a card or email considered stalking?

Updated On: 6/10/08 at 04:42 PM

[NDR]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 4:45pm

I don't think so (IMHO).

If you delivered it directly to them backstage at the theatre or at their apartment, that would be stalking.

[BrodyFosse123]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 4:46pm

I wouldn't call it 'stalking', but utterly creepy.

Imagine YOU getting a birthday card from someone you didn't know.

[DefyGravity777]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 4:47pm

I sent a couple of e-cards to some members of the Wicked cast. So no I don't think it's stalking.

[insertclevernamehere]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 4:47pm

I agree with NDR. I remember reading interviews with several Broadway actors who say that they enjoy the birthday cards. But again, don't stalk them to find out their home address.

[Kalimba]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:15pm

Yes, though it's not as bad as creating a scrapbook for them. That's just plain creepy.
Updated On: 6/10/08 at 05:15 PM

[Jonny boy]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:17pm

I think it is extremly pointless to send a B-day card to someone you dont know. ( unless it has money)!

[misschung]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:18pm

"Imagine YOU getting a birthday card from someone you didn't know."

lol. Although, I've also heard of performers saying that they like getting cards from their fans. If it were me, I wouldn't be offended or weirded out.

[Eris0303]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:18pm

A birthday card isn't really much different than a fan letter. The only difference is that you're marking a happy occasion. Nothing wrong with that. Sending a lavish gift is a horse of a different color.

[jordangirl]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:23pm

I would say it depends on

a) How well you know them. If you've never seen them at all in person, it might be VERY weird...and even beyond that it would depend on how much interaction and what it's been...unless you genuinely ARE friends, hold off on the "friend birthday" cards. You know? A few meetings at the stage door do NOT make you BFFs.

b) How you get it to them. If you will be seeing a show on the day or just before and they at least know your face and you haven't been stalkery before, if you're seeing the show it might be ok to give it to them there. Otherwise send to the theatre. I definitely agree about the home address. If you know them well enough they've given it to you, they probably won't be wigged out by a card. If they haven't given it to you, a card sent there might freak them out a little.

If the birthdays are easy to find, that's another factor. If it's kept pretty quiet and you've found it out, that's definitely a freaky factor.

[CurtainPullDowner]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:28pm

If the card contains nude pics of yourself, you have crossed the line.

Is this thread about Nick Adams?

[Patash]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:28pm

Only if you enclosed a photo of them with your photo super imposed licking their face or worse.

[Kalimba]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:31pm

CurtainPullDowner, that made me laugh.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:36pm

I love this thread.

I definitely agree about the home address. If you know them well enough they've given it to you, they probably won't be wigged out by a card. If they haven't given it to you, a card sent there might freak them out a little.

Might freak them out? A little? Hah.

Updated On: 6/10/08 at 05:36 PM

[jordangirl]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 5:48pm

Yeah...I guess would is the better word there. LOL.

[WestVillage]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 6:00pm

"I've also heard of performers saying that they like getting cards from their fans."

Well, they're not going to publically say they think its weird. That would be bad P.R. But behind closed doors, and amongst their peers ... its a different story.

[SirNotAppearing]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 6:07pm

It is, however, verboten to Photoshop out the performer's significant other from a picture of them and their family and to paste yourself in their place.

Let's just say a certain former "Rent" cast member got a little pissy when a certain someone tried to show them their appreciation in such away.

On a side note, does anyone know where Adam Pascal lives and which point would be exactly 201 yards away?

[Kalimba]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 6:15pm

LOL!

[Gobstopper]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 6:33pm

I don't think it's that weird or stalker-y.

I mean, if I were on Broadway, I think I'd be flattered by it.

[into_the_woods2]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 6:35pm

i think as long as you keep it very 'fan-admiration'-y, and not too "let's be best friends because i know so much about you"

[legally_popular]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 7:10pm

Ditto to what into_the_woods2 said.
And if it's sent like a regular fan letter that should be fine.


"Yes, though it's not as bad as creating a scrapbook for them. That's just plain creepy."

Some of my favorite performers have said in interviews that they love to get scrapbooks from fans. I don't see what's wrong with that. I've never done it and am kinda iffy on the whole subject, but I think SOME gifts are ok... nothing stalkerish.

[Kalimba]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 7:19pm

Making a scrapbook for someone you don't know is NEVER appropriate. I can hear it now.

Broadway Star: Where did you get that picture of me eating at John's Pizza?

Fan: Oh, I stood outside and took a picture through the window.
Updated On: 6/10/08 at 07:19 PM

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 7:21pm

They have to say nice things about their fans in interviews. Doesn't mean it's the truth. It could very well be, but just because they say how much they love it in an interview doesn't mean they don't think it's weird.

Updated On: 6/10/08 at 07:21 PM

[verynewyorkcurious]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 7:23pm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86obAw2Itcc

A birthday card doesn't sound so bad, as long as it's sent appropriately (to the theatre). Don't email, because that brings up the question of 'how did you get my email address?'

[Jon]

Posted: 6/10/08 at 7:31pm

Is it stalking if you mail it to the home address they have listed in the phone book?
Updated On: 6/10/08 at 07:31 PM