is sending a birthday card considered stalking

I don't think so (IMHO).

If you delivered it directly to them backstage at the theatre or at their apartment, that would be stalking.

I sent a couple of e-cards to some members of the Wicked cast. So no I don't think it's stalking.

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Yes, though it's not as bad as creating a scrapbook for them. That's just plain creepy.

Updated On: 6/10/08 at 05:15 PM

"Imagine YOU getting a birthday card from someone you didn't know."

lol. Although, I've also heard of performers saying that they like getting cards from their fans. If it were me, I wouldn't be offended or weirded out.

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I would say it depends on

a) How well you know them. If you've never seen them at all in person, it might be VERY weird...and even beyond that it would depend on how much interaction and what it's been...unless you genuinely ARE friends, hold off on the "friend birthday" cards. You know? A few meetings at the stage door do NOT make you BFFs.

b) How you get it to them. If you will be seeing a show on the day or just before and they at least know your face and you haven't been stalkery before, if you're seeing the show it might be ok to give it to them there. Otherwise send to the theatre. I definitely agree about the home address. If you know them well enough they've given it to you, they probably won't be wigged out by a card. If they haven't given it to you, a card sent there might freak them out a little.

If the birthdays are easy to find, that's another factor. If it's kept pretty quiet and you've found it out, that's definitely a freaky factor.

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Only if you enclosed a photo of them with your photo super imposed licking their face or worse.

I love this thread.

I definitely agree about the home address. If you know them well enough they've given it to you, they probably won't be wigged out by a card. If they haven't given it to you, a card sent there might freak them out a little.

Might freak them out? A little? Hah.

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Updated On: 6/10/08 at 05:36 PM

"I've also heard of performers saying that they like getting cards from their fans."

Well, they're not going to publically say they think its weird. That would be bad P.R. But behind closed doors, and amongst their peers ... its a different story.

LOL!

i think as long as you keep it very 'fan-admiration'-y, and not too "let's be best friends because i know so much about you"

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Making a scrapbook for someone you don't know is NEVER appropriate. I can hear it now.

Broadway Star: Where did you get that picture of me eating at John's Pizza?

Fan: Oh, I stood outside and took a picture through the window.

Updated On: 6/10/08 at 07:19 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86obAw2Itcc

A birthday card doesn't sound so bad, as long as it's sent appropriately (to the theatre). Don't email, because that brings up the question of 'how did you get my email address?'