Confessions Thread- Page 60

[touchmeinthemorning]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:05pm

lol, gclef. That's the definition of awkward moment.

doxy, if i can pass on any advice, it is this: know that you are coming out for YOU, and not for them. Or, as Billy Porter put it to his crazy mother: "It's not about you this time!"

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:05pm

G---I just fell right through the floor when I read that.

And are you still seeing this pinnacle of tact?

Doxy: Hang in there. Hopefully you can reach a common ground of comfort with your father someday. But don't compromise anything about who you are. You'll regret it.

(And now I'm done being Dr. Phil Winfrey.)

Updated On: 12/27/05 at 04:05 PM

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:08pm

And are you still seeing this pinnacle of tact?

What? If that means the same guy, no. LOL. Im single (FOR NOW!)

[paradox_error]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:17pm

Well it's something I'm going to have to deal with when I get back to Aus., and soon.

And no, it's not about them, you are right, although I can see them making it about them.

My dad is like this: He's racist, sexist and homophobic. He once left a church he was going to JUST because a female pastor was appointed to the clergy.

It's annoying, because he's so soft-spoken and nice, most people don't realise how hard he is to deal with. He would cut me off without a thought.

But there is a plus side. My parents will have paid for my first year of University Accommodation by the time I get back. The university fees come from a student loan between me and the Australian government. But because my parents earn too much money (which doesn't say much, as we struggle for money), I have to earn $17,000 in the next year to prove to the Aus. Government I am independent if I want any goevernment monetary assistance.

However, if they disowned me, I would be able to get the assistance from day one. Which would make my life VASTLY easier.

It's not a path I wish to travel, but I guess I would be okay, were they to disown me.

And GClef, your story really is a horror story. At least my parents are too christian to even broach the subject of sex with me...

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:18pm

Sorry, G.

I used my fancy $2 Scrabble words.

*puts dictionary away and sulks*

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:23pm

And Doxy---your father isn't Christian. He's confused and has been taught many unfortunate things in his life.

If he were Christian, he would love you and accept you. He wouldn't judge you in such a harsh, unfeeling way.

[DramaDork925]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:25pm

I'm the same as theatrebabe... my parents are completely gay-friendly but my brothers, sister and I are all straight. I think my mom kinda wished one of us WAS gay so she could play "completely supportive parent." Instead she plays "mom who doesn't care none of her children want to have finicially secure careers."

[theatrebabe]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:29pm

Hahaha Drama. Mine too. "Oh. You want to be an actress? Ok sweetie!".

[Kitzarina]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:30pm

Seeing as my mother told me I'm "spiritually wilted" because I ONLY go to church on Sunday mornings instead of being involved with college ministries or small groups, I don't want to picture what would happen if I were gay.

Something tells me there would be a 24/7 prayer group formed from my immediate family.

And strangely enough, she's very tolerant. I guess it's just when the "sin" is in her own family.

[touchmeinthemorning]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:34pm

Oddly enough, Kitz, I go to church every week (twice on Sunday), am involved in a Bible study and a seperate prayer group, and my family still thinks I'm a sinful sinful man.

I guess I just don't buy the Bible as having a sex ethic. I think we impose our 21st century Puritanical ethic upon it, and read our own laws into its love.

{end of sermon}

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:36pm

* claps at touchme's sermon anyway *

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:43pm

There's a fine line between supportive and showing your mom blow job techniques.

[Kitzarina]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:44pm

There certainly is.

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:47pm

G & Kitzy,

I would suggest using a "flow chart"... (heh-heh)...

...or hand puppets...

EDIT: The worst part is probably pondering if she would ever put the information to use!

Updated On: 12/27/05 at 04:47 PM

[paradox_error]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:51pm

That is an image I could have done without, B12!

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:51pm

Yeah----indirectly, it would be like me giving my father an orgasm and that makes me quite ill.

[paradox_error]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:53pm

*shudder*

I'm not Jaily, after all! :P

[Kitzarina]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:53pm

I think I just threw up in my mouth

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 4:54pm

Im sorry about that.

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:07pm

Well, my mom never asked me "technique" questions.

She did ask me a few eyebrow-raisers... all in one conversation... and then she never brought it up again. She seemed happy with my answers. She mostly wanted to know if I was "playing safe," but instead of phrasing it that simple way, she went right for the graphic details.

I told her if she had enough guts to ask me those questions, she deserved honest answers from me.

[Kringas]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:07pm

... because I seem to be the only one who has zero desire to see Brokeback Mountain.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:08pm

I can't even imagine a conversation like that with my mother, b12.

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:21pm

My mother once asked me...

"Which one of you is the bender?"

lol

[best12bars]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:29pm

Kringas ---- you're not a bad homo... (at least not for that reason).

I, too, get soured by so-called "homo agenda" movies... or any kind of entertainment I SHOULD see, because it would be good for me. Not interested. It sounds more like medicine or a self-help guide.

If you can ever "remove" the agenda part from your mind, I think you'd like it. It's a very good movie... with a lot of unanswered questions that make you think about it for days. And it's not JUST about the gay cowboys... it's about how their relationship, under those circumstances, affects them and everyone else they know and love. There are a lot of peripheral characters in this film... all give excellent performances. And it gave me a lot to think about.

Rathy -- I'm not sure if that's such a bad thing. Mom meant well, but I couldn't believe I just started telling her everything. And (honestly) back then (when I was out and single)... I definitely was having a lot of fun.

* cough WHORE cough *

But my whorin' days are done now.

I'm just marrield old Uncle Joe, who's a-movin' kinda slow at the junction...

EDIT: G, that was one of my mom's questions, only she asked if I was a top or bottom? I had to ask her how she even knew those terms first!

Updated On: 12/27/05 at 05:29 PM

[GClef2]

Posted: 12/27/05 at 5:31pm

lol