"I think you're describing a short-lived phenomenon that involved a very small but fairly visible minority within the circuit-party-culture during the late 1990s, after the protease inhibitors reduced the frequency of death."
I've been sober for just over a year. I'm talking about Now. (Didn't you notice that I'd disappeared from the boards? I'm hurt...)
As to whether my writing "demeans" reality--I cannot speak to that. It strikes me as the kind of thinking that posits that gay nuptials "demean" the institution of marriage. You may not like it, but it exists. I'm not sure how a frank acknowledgement of reality "demeans" reality, but if it does, then mea culpa.
As to "exactly" how many men I'm talking about, again--I cannot say with certainty. More than 500. Less than 5,000. I'm not sure that an accurate head-count would change my original thesis--that, in the fullness of time, even the best-intended actions can yield un-intended, negative consequences.
You think, what do you want?
You think, make a decision...