Skinny does not equal pretty!- Page 4

[Aigoo]

Posted: 6/28/05 at 10:07pm

Lael, that's how I am! I'll never be able to fit into those small size pants...My legs are much too big. But I'm really quite secure with myself...I've lost a bit of weight over the summer because I don't eat as much in the summer as I do in the school year. I used to weight 140, now I weigh 135.

[andyf]

Posted: 6/28/05 at 11:57pm

OK. Three words:

WHAT. THE. and FVCK!!?!

SKINNY DOES NOT EQUAL PRETTY??

STILL NOT OVER BRAD AND JEN AND NOW YOU'RE DROPPING THIS BOMB??!? WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD!! WHAT THE HELL IS NEXT, RICH DOESN'T EQUAL HAPPY?? MINORITY DOESN'T EQUAL LESS OF A PERSON???

[WickedCatsontheRoof]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:00am

Yeah. I just got one of those comments a few days ago when my immediate family all went out to dinner. This man passing by offered to take a picture of us with the sushi in our chopsticks so my grandpa could be in it. He said well she doesn't eat or something like that. I didn't hear him say it but my mom did. I kinda wish she didn't tell me. I hate it when people are shocked when they see me finishing my plate. I was just at a graduation party and took a second helping and one of the guys there was like whoa thats a lot of food. Ummm yeah we all gotta eat.

[CurtainUp]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:04am

I was once wearing a little black dress and this chunky, and not very nice girl said, "You look anorexic in that dress" ::look:: "No, it's good, it means you're skinny!" WHAT???? I don't mind being skinny, I would MIND being anorexic. It's weird though because I used to get selfconscious ahbout my weight, for the opposite reason. But, I kneow I eat and I like how I look and it's HEALTHY.

[andyf]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:05am

"Well, I'm sure I could also start another thread that says

White does not equal pretty!"

Jesus Christ, I'm already too late!!!
I swear to God, if someone tells me Martha Stewart is a nice person, I'm jumping off building!

[WickedCatsontheRoof]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:08am

Everyone says, "but oh you're so skinny". The word skinny really has a negative connotation. Thin is a much less offensive word.

[CJR]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:11am

Starving yourself is the worst thing you can do... it actually doesn't help you really lose weight; it helps your body begin to shut down. Not to mention eating much less than you would normally eat for long periods of time causes your stomach to shrink. I almost wish I was kidding.

To elaborate on what I mentioned earlier about my eating disorder, I was anorexic for years. I wasn't as bad as some people get, but my stupidity definitely had long term effects on my health.

When you're in that position, you usually think nobody notices the change in your body but you, but let me be the first to tell you that everyone else DOES notice. Right around the time I was trying to get back on track (but still battling with it -- and I still do to this day) I met one of my now, very best friends. When we'd make plans, he would always insist on them including dinner or lunch.... Whenever we spoke, he'd always ask if I'd eaten yet. I could never figure out why until last year when I fessed up to him that I'd still had an eating disorder when we met. He told me he'd known all along and that was why he was constantly on me about eating. Even now if he sees me losing weight (even if it IS because I've been exercising more) he'll question me just to make sure I'm not falling back into old routines.

Here it is years later and I still have so many problems thanks to my anorexia all those years ago. Granted I am 'skinny' now -- but it's a healthy skinny. And if I'm hungry, I dont hesitate eating until I'm full. Eating 3 full meals and exercising regularly is the best thing you can ever do if you want to lose weight. Not only will you lose the weight you want, you'll also get into great shape. I cannot stress it enough that weight loss should be done the proper way.

[Aigoo]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:15am

WHAT THE HELL IS NEXT, RICH DOESN'T EQUAL HAPPY?? MINORITY DOESN'T EQUAL LESS OF A PERSON???

Are you saying a minority equals less of a person?

[harris007]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:17am

wow

i truely agree, being in orlando i deffently feel it. 80% of the guys here are bleched blonde and dumb as rocks, i' do not fit into any of those, so there for i dont get asked out and it sucks

[WickedCatsontheRoof]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:18am

andyf- Oh and there are many different interpretations of what it means to be rich. If you are refering about money, there are pleny of people who are wealthy and are definitely not happy.

[Plum]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:19am

I'm pretty sure andyf was being sarcastic, folks.

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:19am

I'm pretty sure andyf is one of my new favorite posters.

[WickedCatsontheRoof]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:21am

Jesus Christ, I'm already too late!!!


Yeah I do see the sarcasm in that. ^

[UglyBug]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:32am

"I hate it when people are shocked when they see me finishing my plate."

Me too.

I just want to punch people who say things like "Wow you are eating! Hey look how much she's eating!" It's so rude and offensive. But no one gets that unless they are also skinny.

[Jimmyojimmy]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 12:42am

CJR i totally agree, I've had the exact same problem and also Ive been bulimic, Ive been excersizing a lot and eating so much more than I ever thought I could, but they are healthy foods, and people still come up to me and question me. Especially my parents family and close friends. I was skinny and I wasnt fooling anyone.

Everyone always made (and still make) comments about me being pretty, but when I was emaciatedely skinny guys at clubs and school would often pick my friend who isnt exactly fit or gorgeous, only because she had confidence. When girls concentrate so much on being skinny and their weight and getting a boyfriend they often are too consumed in eating that they dont even know how to love themselves and really be attractive Theres a difference in being gorgeous and being attractive. Most models who are beautys are deeply depressed and sick and arent attractive.

I think people should love themselves, but not let themselves go. people can be "more than skinny" and attractive, but I dont think people shouldn't bypass excersise and proper diet and still say "i'm hot!" I think pretty, pretty much, universally, equals healthy. Not too many girls with there fingers down their throats or ana pride bracelets are getting dates. Mary-kate olsen had a really hot boyfriend before she got sick, and by the time she was put in the hospital her beau had bounced a long time ago.

Updated On: 6/29/05 at 12:42 AM

[CurtainUp]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 2:20am

Wonderfully put, JimmyOJimmy. It's all about the confidence and presence. I haven't gottne less thin since the girl called me anorexic looking, but Ive gotten more confident.

Someone can be thin, gorgeous, in a gorgeous outfit, but poorly composed thus MAKING her look un attractive and not as pretty as soemoen who may NOT be as typically good looking but more confident.

[Aigoo]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 2:23am

I think the sole purpose of this thread was to discourage that thiness was the standard of beauty. Like, you don't HAVE to be thin in order to be beautiful, because beauty is not only a personal view, but it also comes in many forms. Not really to insult people who are genetically thin.

[ForTheLoveOfLea]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 2:30am

Of course one who is attractive to me might be unnatractive to you. Different Strokes. . .

This thread wasn't made to make naturally thin girls feel bad. It was made to realize that there is beauty in imperfection. No one has to be a certain size to be beautiful.

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 3:04am

Damn...

I thought there might eventually be hope for scraeny me.

Akiva

[Jimmyojimmy]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 3:05am

Come again Akiva
"I thought there might eventually be hope for scraeny me. "

[Link Larkin Wanabe]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 3:11am

hah...sorry...Scrawny...I am hopped up on meds right now...not my fault.

Akiva

[Jimmyojimmy]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 3:16am

Me too.

[Type_A_Tiff]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 3:20am

In a totally unrelated note regarding physical attributes, Akiva, I totally dug the mohawk you sported in that other pic of yours. Nice.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 4:31am

Whoa, this thread was not an attack on skinny people. It wasn't saying that skinny people can't be pretty or sexy. It was saying that one doesn't HAVE to be skinny to be pretty and that just because one is skinny doesn't mean they ARE pretty.

Skinny was being used generally to imply anyone who is not overweight.

And the reference to white does not equal pretty was alluding to the fact that gay guys of color have it rougher in the gay community when it comes to getting dates. This may be true for girls, too.

[paradox_error]

Posted: 6/29/05 at 6:13am

Andyf's humour is so lost on so many of the posters here....

I laughed! I laughed!