Skinny does not equal pretty! — Page 5

Now this is interesting- despite reducing the risk of diabetes and cardiovascular disease, deliberate weight loss could still be unhealthy.
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This isn't beautiful to you? I think she's lovely.

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She's carrying my baby. We are both hoping it will be very thin. On a serious note to Silo, starving yourself slows down your metabolism, making you, ultimately, heavier, not thinner. Your body stores more of the calories you consume, as fat, because it tries to stave-off the starving process. Aside from how unhealthy it is to starve yourself, it doesn't give you the desired result, anyway.

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Aside from how unhealthy it is to starve yourself, it doesn't give you the desired result, anyway.

Nor is it any fun. When was the last time someone was hungry AND happy?

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see, now, i disagree with jrb's original post....

"pretty=pretty"

not always - especially when you factor personality into it. i've met some people that are beautiful but then their "ugliness" shines through once they start talking and their "personality" is revealed...

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So I'm going to be an Auntie??? wow I wonder if she has told her boyfriend yet that she's carrying your child..


Ok I understand the not being happy when you are hungry, I mean who would be.. but what about those that are just never hungry?

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oh, I do agree with you on that RobbO--I see lots of guys who are technically hot, but are just awful people--rude and disrespectful--and that is such a huge turn off.

Why is it hard, CM2? Well, I will take full responsibility for any laziness or procrastination on my part that I don't exercise enough. But, I do blame my parents a little for setting bad habits for both exercise and eating.

Also, eating healthier is more expensive. So, anyone who has money woes will have a harder time keeping the healthier foods in stock in their homes--as most everything healthier costs more.

Our society constantly throws bad food in our face--it takes massive effort to eat out--and even if you do order healthy food, you aren't always completely in control of it (example, is the whole grain toast REALLY whole grain or is it enriched and bleached?)

Everyone else is bringing crap into work--and saying no is definitely what you have to do. But, then people get offended and start telling you that "you aren't fat! It's moderation! You have to treat yourself!". Yeah. well not everyday, Betty ****ing Crocker!! This is much like the nasty looks you get when caught eating a salad--like what you eat has anything to do with their guilty concious!

So, while I am of the opinion that one has to be disciplined and take responsibility for scheduling workouts despite a busy life and taking full control of what you eat--and screw anyone who has a problem with it, I can say it is damned difficult!

And, some of us just don't have blessed metabolisms.

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"Also, eating healthier is more expensive."

True. I was used to eating fresh fruit and vegetables every meal when I was away at school. Now that I'm home for the summer, I keep asking my mom to buy more fruit, but she just complains how expensive it is. So instead, she stockpiles cookies and chips then complains that we eat nothing but junk.

"And due to jumper's legs, I have a hard time getting the pants around my thighs and butt."

I ran track in high school and we called them the "ugly sprinters' legs". They look good when you're an Olympic track star, but if you don't have that zero-fat muscle definition in your legs, they just look big. I was in the best shape of my life and I still had to keep going up pants sizes because they are making jeans for girls with no substance (muscle or fat) on their legs at all.

Someone said that gay guys have it worse, but I have to say that even y'all are a bit more lenient than girls. Girls have to be stick-thin, because girls with muscle are looked at as being fat. "I don't care if you can run 100m in 12 seconds, you can't fit into size 0 jeans!" I once heard someone on E! complaining that the Williams sisters were "too big" to be wearing their short skirts. She made it seem like they were Jabba the Hutt in tennis whites, for Christ sakes! They're world-class athletes and they're still be compared to Paris Hilton.

The absolute worst thing I've ever read about though was an article about anorexic pregnant women. Nuff said.

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Updated On: 6/29/05 at 06:11 PM

I understand what you mean. On the show Rescue Me, there's a really hot young fireman that had a heavier girlfriend and I loved that plotline on the show. In last week's show, SHE actually dumped HIM, because she knew that she could do better. I know this probably happens in real life, but to see it represented on television is definitely rare, but reassuring.

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Updated On: 6/29/05 at 06:42 PM

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And the reference to white does not equal pretty was alluding to the fact that gay guys of color have it rougher in the gay community when it comes to getting dates.

Racial preference in the gay community has been on my mind lately. I should probably start a new thread topic for this, but I want to ask: how many gay men here have ever dated a non-white gay man? Be honest: does race/ethnicity ever feature into your initial attraction for a person?

I recently got a friend to admit that if presented with two equally hot men, one white and one Asian, he would choose the white man over the Asian man.

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Wrestlers are the worst, especially during the season when they're trying to make weight. I was an aide in the health room at my high school and the nurse told me that some of the guys on the wrestling team at her daughter's school would eat this blue gel stuff so that they'd fool their stomach into thinking it had food into it. The gel wouldn't break down in their systems, but would just melt into a liquid and they'd pee it out.

BlueWizard, thank you for bringing this up, because it's not just gay men that have issues with race. My last two relationships have been with guys of other races (I'm white), but it didn't occur to me until I went to an incredibly liberal, but not racially diverse college that not everyone felt the same way. I've even had friends tell me that they would never date a guy of a different race. It's okay to completely lust after Taye Diggs, but they'd never actually consider dating him. Ugh.

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