What happens when a gay man....

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 6:50pm

no longer wants to be a gay man because heis disillusioned? 

[Jay Lerner-Z]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 6:52pm

He talks to friends or gets professional help?

[South Florida]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 7:00pm

Wow!  Go to one of those pray the gay away places.  Seriously, I can't imagine myself being disillusioned as to my sexuality.  I think Jay has your answer, good luck.

[PalJoey]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 8:00pm

 

He goes out and gets laid.

 

[South Florida]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 8:01pm

You filthy old man.

 

[SNAFU]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 8:10pm

Pal Joey has the best advice! A hot steamy sex session with no strings attached.

 

[uncageg]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 8:17pm

...He stops posting online. Puts his phone down. Orders another drink, turns and chats with the people next to him, makes himself realize that it is not his fault that he has been stood up again or the person he met for a drink wasn't what he expected and moves on with life.

[Someone in a Tree2]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 9:00pm

Sorry to hear, Carlos. Remind yourself that It Gets Better, 'cause in time it really does.

 

[uncageg]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 9:08pm

I don't mean to be negative but it doesn't just get better. One has to work on making it better. Find what makes you happy or comfortable, then it gets better.

[henrikegerman]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 9:29pm

He does what his girlfriends do from time to time.  He takes a break from men.  How long a break?  Time will tell.

[WhizzerMarvin]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 10:44pm

To paraphrase the great Madelaine Kahn in Clue, "Men should be like Kleenex: soft, strong and disposable."

You don't carry around the same Kleenex, using it over and over again, right? 

[SmoothLover]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 11:28pm

Don't worry about where youu fit in. Just focus on the things that make you happy and be the best person you can be..

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 8/16/16 at 11:46pm

uncageg said: "...He stops posting online. Puts his phone down. Orders another drink, turns and chats with the people next to him, makes himself realize that it is not his fault that he has been stood up again or the person he met for a drink wasn't what he expected and moves on with life.

 

OMG uncageg: You fvcking get it! Bless you baby!  My god I friggin needed that! Thank you for the wake up call!....I'm on my gay way!!!!!

Updated On: 8/16/16 at 11:46 PM

[uncageg]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 12:05am

SmoothLover said: "Don't worry about where youu fit in. Just focus on the things that make you happy and be the best person you can be.."

^^^Exactly. I have been single for about 16 years. I have dated a bit but I am happy with who I am. While in Denver I was surrounded by my family of friends. They made me happy. When my life turned upside down and I had to move back here to the east coast I had to readjust. I was visiting New York a lot and going out while here, but living here is different. I wanted to "fit in" but realized I really didn't want or need to. I was going to the Hell's Kitchen bars and after 2 years I just stopped and realized it wasn't for me. I will pop into them periodically but I prefer bars in other areas. And it isn't just the bar life. I realized that I can have my own "world" here. This city is so diverse. I have found people that  fit MY lifestyle but still expose me to new things and people.  When I moved here I wanted to be in the mainstream part of the gay community but found my comfort zone a bit outside of it. I think I knew I found my little corner of it the night I sat and had cocktails with Patricia Field. She was sitting next to me in a gay piano bar and we had the best conversation. We ended up in the same 2 chairs a few weeks later and chatted again.  I told friends and they went nuts. I just found it to be pretty cool and just natural. No big deal even knowing who she is. (But she is a very cool person!)  So find your comfort zone. You never know where it will take you or who you will meet. Just my random thoughts.

 

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 1:26am

Thank you for that uncageg.....

[John Adams]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 2:20am

I'm so very happy you got the resolution you needed.

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 7:55am

Thanks John Adams...I was having a really bad night last

night....I was left majorly disappointed by someone and I was feeling down on myself and in the process I lost perspective. 

 

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 8:20am

Honey, you can never stop being gay.

[DottieD'Luscia]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 8:35am

Sending hugs, Carlos!

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 10:48am

DottieD'Luscia said: "Sending hugs, Carlos!

Thank you Dottie.

LOL @ SOMMS. True. 

 

[uncageg]

Posted: 8/17/16 at 12:04pm

CarlosAlberto said: "Thank you for that uncageg....."

 

Most welcome. Just a small slice of me going through the same thing.

 

[Dollypop]

Posted: 8/25/16 at 6:02pm

You tired of being gay?

Take a look at the straight men in your life: the ones who watch dreadful sci-fi movies on TV and who haven't read a book in year--let alone discuss it intelligently.

 

Be thankful you're gay.

Updated On: 8/25/16 at 06:02 PM

[yankeefan7]

Posted: 8/26/16 at 8:44am

"Take a look at the straight men in your life: the ones who watch dreadful sci-fi movies on TV and who haven't read a book in year--let alone discuss it intelligently."

 

I really hope you are joking because that is very stereotypical. I am straight and don't like sci-fi movies, read anywhere between 5-10 books a year, loves Broadway musicals/plays and sports (especially Yankee baseball). I can only imagine what someone would say if the same stereotypical remark was made about gays on this board. I am sorry the OP was having issues in his life but it seems he is doing better.

[jb19662]

Posted: 8/26/16 at 1:51pm

5 whole books a year?  Wow!!

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 8/26/16 at 2:21pm

"Among all Americans, the average (mean) number of books read in the previous year was 12 and the median (midpoint) number of books read was four. Some 27% of adults said they hadn’t read any books over the past year."