Wow... — Page 3

"Their relationship, their engagement, their ring, their understanding, THEIR decision."

Whatever, but when both parties are fighting over the ring, shmettiquette has to step in.

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yet, they're not fighting over it. Posters to this thread are. R CHICKEN stated how they handled it.

And my point about "villain" is that a lot here seem to want to cast her that way because she broke the engagement and his heart. The "punishment" seems to be forfeit of the ring, defined by tradition. Only he can decide if that role and consequence really fits her (and his view of her), because only he knows the whole story of their relationship.

Mrs. Manners might quite correctly advise all of us to stay the heck out of it.

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Mrs. Manners might quite correctly advise all of us to stay the heck out of it.

She'd probably also say don't spill your business on a message board if you don't want people to discuss it.

"yet, they're not fighting over it. Posters to this thread are. R CHICKEN stated how they handled it."

I was actually referring to the situation in general, no matter who the couple is.

." Hard to buy someone proposing absolute manners on THIS board"

That's why we love it! What are you doing here, then?

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Jane, i'm not sure why you're taking this so personally. It seems like a lot of posts on here are not about R CHICKEN's situation, but about proving how wrongly i seem to view it. A lot of you are saying how you'd handle it, and i'm saying how i did, and how it seems he has (which appear to be similar). How does that make me so wrong, when how others here would handle it are deemed right? Grabbing my words and firing back at me...maybe that's best in PM? Surely i'm allowed to post how i view it just as everyone else is, even if it's in the minority.

i reacted to the "manners" and "etiquette" mention, i didn't claim to have perfect ones. Check my other posts on this board and the Broadway one to see "why i'm here". i try to be as civil as possible on here, and try not to attack others unduly. i apologize if it seems otherwise to you.

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Well, SHE did ask ME why i was on this board, not the reverse. Not to worry, i'll just go split hairs over on HUBBA BUBBA or ISN'T JEREMY PIVEN HOT.

And the rest belongs in PM land. This is getting ridonkulous.

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tx-huh?

I couldn't care less about anything in this thread.

We just post opinions here. I'm too busy watching Project Runway to concentrate on this.

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Well, I paid about $1000 for it. It's definitely not the six grand that Stockard's boyfriend spent, but that's a LOT of money to me. I'm a broke Theatre major in College and am currently doing an unpaid musical. And no, we didn't discuss it. I really wouldn't want to bring that up.

okay, just so we're clear:

JANE2 doesn't care, and KRINGAS was right, and i wasn't, about a matter in PM land.

i hope those two facts really comfort R CHICKEN in this transition.

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Still, a thousand dollars IS a lot of money when you don't have a lot of money. I still say you're well within your right to ask for it back (and, if my jeweler was right, to actually sue for it if you wanted to go that far).
I know I haven't been much help in the "helping move on" department, but I do hope that some of the madness here has at least been something of a distraction.

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Maybe my jeweler watches Judge Judy. :)

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FYI- expect to get no more than 10-15% of the original price when selling an engagement ring. So you bought a $1000 ring and will be selling a $100 one.

I am not familiar with the term- A lot of jewelers will give a 30 or 90 day guarantee like that- meant to assure you that if she says No or doesn't like the ring you can bring it back. Other chains guarantee that it will "Appraise" for at least what you paid for it- a very easy promise to make as there are standard "Appraisals" for commercially made jewelry: A certain carat weight diamond + a certain quality + a certain Karat quality and weight of gold will always yield a certain "appraised" value. SO as long as the store didn't lie about any of the components, it will check out. And the Appraisal has no correlation to sale price which is set by the retailer.