Wow...

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 2:50am

My girlfriend of three years and fiance of 7 months just broke up with me...I don't know what to do so I got on BWW and started listening to Phantom.

Wow.

[Q]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 2:54am

I guess the only thing to do in this situation is look at the reality, and try to understand what happened.

After you wake up with the hangover, of course.

[Biff AKA Levi]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 4:26am

It could be worse.

Your fiance of a year and some could already be engaged to someone else, and y'all have only been broken up since June.

Think of the bright side of life!

(And you should really update your Myspace!)

Updated On: 9/22/08 at 04:26 AM

[Weez]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 4:50am

Sounds like a normal reaction to a break-up to me. It's a day for break-ups, it seems! I know someone in Japan who's just broken up with her other half of seven years. After such a while, it's got to be nearly as messy as a divorce. XP

Being single has its plus points, although the only one that's really springing to mind right now is the knowledge I don't have any heartbreaking splits lined up for the future. It's something at least.

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 9:47am

Well, better this than marry her and destroy her life when you come out of the closet, right?

Posted: 9/22/08 at 10:36am

IT's hard when it's a fresh pain, but I do believe things like this happen for the best! Take some time, the go out and live, live live!

[blondebaby589]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 10:41am

That's a shame. Good luck with everything.

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 11:17am

Thanks Kringas, that's a spectacular post...

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 11:43am

Since it wasn't meant to be, it's better to find out sooner rather than later. Time heals!

[TxTwoStep]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 1:41pm

hey R CHICKEN, tough break. But if that's you in your avatar, dating someone for four years, at your young age, is an accomplishment in itself. You've proven you are a loyal person, and if she did say "yes" to the marriage proposal even at first, a worthy catch. There are plenty of women out there looking for just that. You have a whole life ahead of you to explore them. Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened!

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 3:10pm

Awww, Chicken... what girl wouldn't want to marry a man who likes "Phantom of the Opera" and wears cute diamond-patterned sweaters? Answer-- a crazy one. So look on the bright side, at leas you didn't marry her and end up with a mad wife locked up in the attic running around like Mr. Rochester out of Jane Eyre.

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 4:21pm

I'm still in a bit of a haze.

To everyone who has posted encouraging things:
Thank you. Honestly. It's a bit strange how a complete stranger's words can make your day a little better. I've still got a long way to go, but you've made this first day a little better and I thank you all for that.

@Q: I have to wait for this weekend to wake up with the hangover, I have exams and performance based classes that I can't miss.

@Biff: It's updated now.

@Schmerg: Thank you for the compliments about my sweater. I loved that sweater but it has since gone to live with the great sweater in the sky. (Dry clean only means just that.)

Theatre lovers truly are the best people out there.

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 4:24pm

Try and squeeze in some rebound sex.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 5:08pm

rc, I'm sorry hon. But like everyone already said, everything happens for a reason. Better now than 10 years and a few kids later. You're young and cute, and you'll rebound very nicely!

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/22/08 at 5:15pm

Make sure you get the ring back!

[killertofu333]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 12:36am

That is a WOW moment!!! All I can say is...you get the glasses, I'll bring the JACK!!

In all seriousness I'm sorry she did that to you. Hopefully you'll find someone who'll appreciate you one day.

GOOD LUCK

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 2:01am

Ya know I just realized that I paid off the card that I used to buy her ring on Sunday morning. That's like bad-sitcom irony.

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 9:23am

She DID give the ring back, right?

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 6:56pm

No, she's keeping the ring.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 7:04pm

No way....you get it back.

An engagement ring is one of the very few conditional gifts that there are. She gets the ring and the condition is that she marries you. She breaks it off, you get the ring back.

It would be different if you broke up with her. Threaten her with a lawyer. She doesn't get the ring.

[TxTwoStep]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 7:27pm

she can have the ring if you want her to have it. Mine kept hers, because she wanted to and i wanted her to. *insert Man in Chair marriage line and comic pause here*

The next girl who's lucky enough to have you ask, or to ask you, might want her own ring, and not that one. If it was new to you both (as suggested by the credit card mention) and not a family heirloom, then you decide together where it belongs. Some guys might not want a reminder of the dashed hopes, no matter what the intention/purpose of the piece was at the outset.

[Wanna Be A Foster]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 7:40pm

Sweetie, he wouldn't keep the ring.

He'd cash it in.

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/23/08 at 8:35pm

Yeah, get the ring back. Seriously.

[RuthlessChicken]

Posted: 9/24/08 at 1:59am

I honestly don't think I could keep the ring, and I wouldn't want to pawn it or whatever...

Updated On: 9/24/08 at 01:59 AM

[The Ghost of Kringas]

Posted: 9/24/08 at 2:36am

Well, then she was a very expensive mistake. I know I was a little snarky earlier (a little?), but I'd highly suggest you think about this very carefully. You're awfully young and in a few ... months, years, maybe, I think you'll wish you had some of that cash you had spent on a ring for someone who decided she didn't want to marry you.

Unless it was really cheap; then I'd cut my losses. :)

Updated On: 9/24/08 at 02:36 AM