I'm reviving a dormant thread, because I am interested in the topic, and in people's reactions. For the record, I believe that Evan Hansen is a sociopath. Sociopathy is a spectrum; he is not completely amoral, nor the most egregious, and he more than meets the criteria.
Dear Evan Hansen is a monumental work in musical theater, of equal parts bravery and cowardice. Brave for its steely gaze at suicide, depression, grief and other topics that merit more discussion than they get in everyday life. I also give the creators mega-kudos for holding the tension in the storyline as long as possible, however uncomfortable it makes people. Still, it is cowardly for its portrayal of Evan as a hero. He's an anti-hero, but the writers try so hard to shoe-horn him into a likeable character mold.
We can appreciate a good story like The Talented Mr. Ripley, a central character of dubious moral fibre. We just need to call a spade a spade. In the real world, Evan's multi-layered deception would make a grieving family's process so much worse. He's also kind of a PoS to his mother and friends, and I need receipts from the money that poured in for the Connor project. Through all of this, we're supposed to pity Evan's broken arm, his depression, his love-sick obsession? Mitigating circumstances, sure, as is his age. Btu they do not absolve him one bit.
Many folks seem to say he's not a sociopath because they don't WANT to believe he's a sociopath. They identify with the show or they empathize with his struggles, and all of that is fine. Just don't let the sugar-coating fool you, EH is a bitter pill.