This has been discussed to death, but I actually have a nice memory, so I'll contribute. I don't stage door, but I have waited on rare occasions to thank a performer when their performance has truly moved me. I saw the 2006-7 revival of
Jacques Brel is Alive and Well and Living in Paris about twelve times in total. I was completely transfixed by it. Around the tenth time I saw it, I decided to hang back after the performance and thank Natascia Diaz for her incredible performance which, after seeing it ten times, always felt fresh, exciting, and luminous. (Truly, I think she might be the greatest interpreter of Brel's work since the days of Elly Stone and Brel himself) I waited outside the theatre until Ms Diaz appeared. I approached her, explained that I wasn't looking for an autograph but that I just wanted to thank her for her beautiful performance, and went on to tell her I'd seen the show ten times and still wept every time she sang "Old Folks" and "My Death". She then wrapped her arms around me and, with tears in her eyes, thanked me for taking the time to let her know how much her performance meant to me. I'm very uncomfortable with stagedooring, but I was glad I did it in this instance. Natascia and I are still in touch to this day.
"You travel alone because other people are only there to remind you how much that hook hurts that we all bit down on. Wait for that one day we can bite free and get back out there in space where we belong, sail back over water, over skies, into space, the hook finally out of our mouths and we wander back out there in space spawning to other planets never to return hurrah to earth and we'll look back and can't even see these lives here anymore. Only the taste of blood to remind us we ever existed. The earth is small. We're gone. We're dead. We're safe."
-John Guare, Landscape of the Body