Tootsie isn't the best musical out there, and its sitcom style is a bit dated, but there's really nothing wrong with it unless the man-in-dress plotline will bother you. Plus, it's an easy ticket to get at a discount, and the theater is comfortable (if a bit sterile). The score is, with one exception, forgettable, but I didn't sit there watching the show thinking how awful it was. It's a conventional show with a talented cast and some pretty funny jokes.
My reason for suggesting it is that the money you save can be devoted to Hadestown, which, if the money isn't a dealbreaker, is the unique show you seem to be seeking that won't be the same on tour. You get to see the original cast and staging that can't be replicated. It was the most successful show I saw during my recent trip (I also really liked the Oklahoma! revival, but I'm basing my recommendations on the shows you have seen and enjoyed - and this doesn't seem to fit with the rest of your list.)
Moulin Rouge! is another expensive show that's got a lot of spectacle, from what I've read. (I haven't seen it.)
Come From Away is a solid, well-directed one-act musical that I didn't like as much as many others did. But it's a good show.