My comments were strictly based on the OP's statement. Nothing more, nothing less.
Yes, everything else you say is true, but, sadly, women that make up or exaggerate stories are just as much to blame for many of the struggles real victems face. I'm not saying that's the case here...I certainly wouldn't know. I don't think its any better to just assume he's guilty.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.