Has anyone been a big fan and met the person and became good friends?

[mint0621]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 7:22pm

Is this possible?

Just wondering if anyone's had the experience of being a fan of someone, then becoming good friends afterwards? It seems like an odd medium to meet a friend, but wondering if anyone has any interesting stories...

[Brodybaby03]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 7:28pm

three of my closest friendships have started out this way...it's very very strange sometimes. Because many times fans claim to be someones friend but they hang around and make themselves available for all the wrong reasons. My friends know me, they trust me and vice versa. That's important, making sure they know you're not trying to be in their lives for the wrong reasons. I'm not going to name names only because I think its kinda inappropriate but it's not too far fetched a situation.

[sharonkurland]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 7:45pm

It's a pleasant daydream to be a friend of someone you admire. However, the reality is that there's a definite line between being someone's fan and being someone's friend and I, for one, strongly respect that line. I think true friendships develop from mutual interests and situations, and being "a fan of theirs" really shouldn't get into the picture. Not that it doesn't happen. But I think that if a friendship IS to develop, it needs to be initiated from the "admire-ee" and not the "admirer," to ensure that the admirer/fan doesn't step on toes or cross over boundaries.

Then again, I'm just a geeky dweeb who's always too timid to take chances (grin).

I know that none of this really answers the original question...but it's my view on the whole thing.

-Sharon-
Orlando FL

[mint0621]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 7:57pm

Updated On: 11/15/04 at 07:57 PM

[munkustrap178]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 7:59pm

This has happened to me as well, and let's just say things got a little closer than just a friendship. Can't name names.

[Speed]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:00pm

I've had it happen both ways, actually. I've become good friends with those who were fans of me. And I've become good friends with those whom I was a fan of.

Aren't our friends our biggest fans in the end anyway? And vice versa?

[luvWICKED416]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:02pm

"Aren't our friends our biggest fans in the end anyway? And vice versa?"

that's awesome... never thought about it that way

[mint0621]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:03pm

that's true...i mean, i can totally see this person and me being good buddies, chatting over coffee and talking about cute boys on broadway. =) My favorite topic of conversation...

[CJR]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:09pm

Yes. I started out this way with one of my VERY best friends. I was a huge fan of hers for years and years, and about 4 years ago we met, started talking and became really good friends.

I have other friends I have made this way as well. They're some of the best friends I have...

Then I have other friends who I was really good friends with before they became well known.

They all joke that I'm their biggest fan haha

[Amneris]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:09pm

i myself also have had things that moved to more then just friendships of people who I DID admire..then I saw the real side of them outside broadway and realized it wasn't all cracked up. I also met 1 person on bway who is very , very well known and because I supported her so much , when I got the lead in my school show she sent me flowers. And we have stayed close since 1999. There is a level to admiration and we have to know when to draw lines. Updated On: 11/14/04 at 08:09 PM

[Glebb]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:13pm

I fell real hard for an actress. I would go to her show every night. Standing room didn't cost that much. I would wait in the ally after the show every night until she left the theatre. Finally her best friend took me backstage to meet the star. I ended up being her assistant and then understudy and then ultimately I stole her next role from her and won a major theatre award.

[Lifeoftheparty2]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:15pm

I met Daphne Rubin-Vega about 3 1/12 years ago, and since then we have become pretty good friends. We keep in touch through e-mail still. She got me free tickets to her show Between Us, when she new I was visiting the city for the day. Nearly every time I visit the city (about 1-3 times every few months), I see her and we talk a bit. Every time she has a concert, she e-mails me and sends me pics and invites me to the show. She even sent me a sonogram of her little baby.
Daphne's awesome.

[CJR]

Posted: 11/14/04 at 8:27pm

I take it All About Eve is a favorite of yours, Glebb?

[bronxboundexpress]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 1:46am

Lets just say that I am a national celebrity and I have many fans and I would be happy to be friends with all of them.

[Musetta1957]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 2:03am

I started out as a big fan of someone and then became friends. Not "close" friends, but definitely friends. I ended up in this person's car for about 5 minutes once (and no, nothing dirty), which was an interesting and very memorable experience. :) It's a little odd to go from big fan to being in their car.

[HeartinNYC]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:20am

I started out being a modest fan of a Broadway actor, and after a performance, we got to talking, and wound up becoming extremely good friends. I've been invited to his home, gone out to drinks with him, etc. It's very surreal and wonderful.

[midtowngym]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:25am

There's not even any good name-dropping here. These stories would be a LOT more fun then...

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:27am

I started out being not a very big fan of this particular actor, then working with them and immediately becoming fast friends and now I'm one of their biggest fans - and they are one of mine - in other words, when I have a performance, this person is always there to support me, just like my other friends.

Updated On: 11/20/04 at 09:27 AM

[Al Dente]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:34am

Why does this thread make me keep having images of "Single white Female"? Very sketchy, the whole thing is, really.

[midtowngym]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:40am

Exactly! Some of these posts sound a couple of incidents away from a restraining order.

[Al Dente]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:48am

Indeed, they do. I'm surprised we're the only ones having noticed that "tone". Although, B'way 'stars',well, it's a very broad and generous statement to begin with...talk to me when Julia Roberts and Madonna have "befriended" you, which would most likely consist of making you their personal assistant. Broadway actors are really slightly more glamourized 9 to 5ers, no?

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:52am

That's why we place the word "Broadway" in front of "stars." As opposed to the word "super."

[midtowngym]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:54am

well, some of them may just end up as supers. My building needs a new one.

[Rathnait62]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 9:56am

Good one, midtown!

[Mimi Imfurst]

Posted: 11/15/04 at 11:09am

This has happened. It's all very weird and surreal when it all comes down to it. It's even weirder when you get closer than that. Ugh. There is this one friend of mine, whom I think is phenomenal...I'm a huge fan. He's written some great stuff, it makes it hard to be friends when you admire someone on that level.