Has anyone been a big fan and met the person and became good friends? — Page 4

what i had to say was so important and clever, it needed to be said four times!

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"I think "friend" is a term used SO loosely these days that it's hard to distinguish true friendships from acquaintances. The lines get blurred. It's easy to get confused...

For instance, Alice once introduced me as her "friend" to a friend of hers. Yes, I *know* her and am a fan, but we don't hang out and she doesn't call me when she's down, etc. I certainly wouldn't consider her a "friend", but someone I know and admire. I mean, we all know what makes up a TRUE friend... but *everyone* throws that word around like it's going out of style for the mere reason that sometimes you just don't know HOW to refer to a person. You don't introduce people as acquaintances... I've never heard anyone say, "HEY, this is my acquaintance, !" It's just not done.

Soooo... I always take it with a grain of salt when someone refers to another person as their friend. In ANY situation, actor/fan relationships aside. God knows I've introduced people as my friends who I barely know and wouldn't call if I really needed something.

Also, there are all different levels of friendships. Different friendships consist of different things, so it's really just all relative."


Well said, Daisy. (Sorry, this is a useless post here, but I have experienced this too, and I totally agree with you.)

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i'm so excited this thread has lasted this long... =)

Plum, are we friends?

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You still won't tell me your last name though...

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Well I'll be friends with anyone who starts a fan club for me.

But seriously, I think you have to break down "fan"
Are you someone they bump into at parties, someone who obsessively waits at the stage door for them, someone that "happens" to bump into them on the street?
Or do you not need to see/talk to them on a daily basis and just view them as someone with a cool job?
Because I think there are a lot of crazies out there that think they're friends with some Broadway actors/actresses and it's just the performer being nice to them. Still acting....
And I think age plays a big part in the whole thing to. How old both parties are.

Are we not aware of anti stalking laws?

I once made friends with Idina...but she didn't know we were friends.

Spooky --

I have to agree with you regarding age. I think it's a key factor in actor/fan relationships. 'Younger' fans tend to lack the discernment when it comes to distinguishing lines in the "relationship". I've seen many circumstances where a kid really admires an older person and tends to cling and cross boundaries, regardless of the field they're in. I've been on BOTH ends of that.

Age can really play a big part in it all, I think.

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Maybe she just lost your number.

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Hi, I'm new to this whole thing so please don't pelt me with stones or anything if I sound like a dork. But how cool would that be to become friends with someone you're a big fan of? But then again, wouldn't it be really hard for the fan to be 'friends' with someone they admire due to the fact that most people tend to get really nervous when approaching or approached by someone famous in the first place?

I met someone I was a big fan of at where I used to work, and I couldn't even get the word 'hi' out without sounding like a complete idiot. And I had to take his clothes into the fitting room. My heart was racing and I wanted to scream like a silly fangirl. It was so difficult for me to even look the guy in the eyes. Needless to say, I stood there in a daze until the guy left.

But if I could become friends with someone I'm a big fan of without being a complete idiot, that would seriously be totally awesome.

~Chris(tie) Clemens

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I think balance is an essential part in the concept of friendship. If the relationship is far more important, or significant to one of the persons involved...then you probably aren't really friends, but rather, friendly acquaintances.

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well i was a big fan of shoshana bean and then i ended up seeing her a lot cause we have the same voice teacher and well we keep in contact thrue email and see each other now and then

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