How optimistic are you about your future love life?

[Cruel_Sandwich]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 12:52pm

Will you find true love or are you totally resigned to a life of loneliness? Or are you more of the mind of "eh, if it happens, it happens."

I am more of the "I don't really care" mentality. I'm not really looking for anyone, but I'd be open to a relationship if it were to come up. I do doubt that would ever happen, as I am not exactly "prime meat" as they say, and I also would not want a sexual relationship because the very thought of human sexuality makes me feel ill. I want no part of that. But someone I could maybe have dinner with a few times and maybe see a movie with once a week would not be too bad.

[RockabyeHamlet]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 12:54pm

Random thread of the day?

[mariusmyhomeboy]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 1:03pm

I'm with you, cruel. I'm not looking for a relationship, but I wouldn't mind being with someone. I don't get people who constantly need to be with someone.

[Weez]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 1:11pm

Completely pessimistic. My only real relationship was with a fella with Asperger's who couldn't even work out if he loved me or not. So I'm single and kinda jaded. Sometimes I get a little lonely and think it would be nice to have someone, but mostly I'm contented. I'm secure in myself and don't need another person to complete me. ^_^

If you're ever in England, Cruel, I'll buy you dinner. I might pass on the movie though.

[Select a Member Name]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 1:14pm

Not too optimistic. But I don't mind being independent, I think I actually prefer it.

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 2:39pm

Cruel_Sandwich mystifies me. And that is a compliment.

I can never figure out what is earnest and what is not. I always assume the latter.

[danmag]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 4:03pm

"the very thought of human sexuality makes me feel ill"

Wow Cruel...that is a little sad I think. It's really not that bad after you get used to it.

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[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 4:22pm

Someone is going to die alone.

[Scripps2]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 4:46pm

If that's of their choosing, then it's no bad thing.

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 5:04pm

"Will you find true love or are you totally resigned to a life of loneliness? "

You mean it's one or the other? Nothing in between?

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[colleen_lee]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 5:47pm

I usually have more love life than I know what to do with.

[Perfectly Marvelous]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 5:59pm

Recently I've had more of a love life than I've had in the past 22 years of my existence.

I don't know. I can't say I'm overly positive or negative. All I hope is that the person who says they love me won't wake up one day and think otherwise.

[blaxx]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 6:05pm

I also would not want a sexual relationship because the very thought of human sexuality makes me feel ill.

Therapyyyyyyy...

[nmartin]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 6:22pm

My thoughts on the subject.

Hit It

[CSonBroadway]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 6:28pm

how does human sexuality make you ill?

[Cruel_Sandwich]

Posted: 9/5/09 at 11:30pm

It's just not something I ever really see myself engaging in. No one, man or woman, would ever want me. I am generally considered poisonous in the realm of dating and such because of my outward appearances and weird personality defects.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 12:09am

I had finally reached a point in my life where I was okay with being alone. I was weighing my options of single parenthood. I wasn't looking for anything and then met a good friend who lives across the ocean. The friendship deepened and feelings developed but we felt it was impossible, so we didn't take it TOO seriously. Now we are engaged and I am moving to Europe in May. It's my experience that the most amazing things happen when you aren't trying too hard.

[wonderwaiter]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 12:28am

Two and a half years ago I made the decision to completely overhaul my life, find a new job, go back to school, and get my life in order. Romance was supposed to take a back-burner *at least* until I finished my degree.

On my very first day at my new job, God plopped someone into my life and said, "Here ya go!" I'd like to think he had a hardy laugh at my expense when he did that.

If you think you have the power to control these things you are kidding yourself.

[Perfectly Marvelous]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 4:17pm

^ that's how it worked for me as well.

There are two people I've fallen in love with in my lifetime, well, three - but the two were my friend and the boy who broke up with then realized he made a mistake and we're on the mend.

My friend and I met in directing class, at the time when I was cynical and shy about relationships. He told he he had a crush on me and I didn't know how to react. Later on, when I finally had managed to get the nerve to tell him how I felt - it was too late. He and I are still good friends to this day, and it's nice because I couldn't actually imagine my life if he weren't in it.

The other I met last year in psychology class. We didn't talk much, save for a few conversations. In the back of my mind, I thought he was cute but didn't really concentrate too much on him. A year later, we got back into contact and on a whim I met him at a nearby mall. It was an almost instant attraction - a month of dating and we both felt like our personalities could mesh together comfortably. (Were there times when he annoyed me and I annoyed him? Of course). We went out for about four-five months when he started to act strangely and broke up with me. It was pretty soul crushing and psychologically screwed me over.

Then he called and wanted to talk. I was cautious because I thought he wanted to be "friends" (which is the lamest thing someone can say to you after they break up with you). But it turns out he wanted another chance, because he realized that he truly loved me.

I'm not sure if we're going to be 100% okay, but I know we'll be stronger. Although if he breaks up with me again it'll probably drive me to do something drastic.

[blaxx]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 4:41pm

Drastic like what? Hide your copy of Fatal Attraction before you answer, please.

[Perfectly Marvelous]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 5:00pm

No, not anything to harm him.

I'm just saying that it'd probably send me into a downward spiral.

But everything's looking upwards so let's hope that continues.

[Schmerg_The_Impaler]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 8:30pm

Cruel, I have seen pictures of you, and you are not that hideously deformed. Some ladies LIKE the prehensile snout. And I'm sure the tentacles come in handy from time to time. I can see how the tusks could be a turn-off for some, but you carry them quite well... it's a very majestic look.

[AndAllThatJazz22]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 8:37pm

Schmerg beat me to it (remember me, Cruel. We talked on FaceBook the other day...). I've seen a picture of you and you are perfect the way you are. Maybe you just need a confidence boost, and in that case...falling in love might be just the thing you need to boost your self-confidence. That doesn't mean you should go searching through dumpsters and hiding in a crow's nest with binoculars till you find it, though! I've never been in love, but I believe in it...and I don't think it's something that you can look for. I believe love finds YOU in the most unexpected times. Cruel, you will find someone perfect for you one of these days and there is no reason to beat your self-image. You're perfect the way you are and anyone who doesn't see that can go f*ck a horse.

[sweetestsiren]

Posted: 9/6/09 at 8:48pm

I'm eternally optimistic, but definitely sexually and emotionally frustrated right now. I'm turning 24 and have never had a relationship that's moved beyond the 'casual dating" phase. I know it'll happen someday, but dammit, I'm tired of waiting.

That said, I'm not one to dwell on it, and I'm pretty happy being by myself most of the time. On a logistical level, I guess it's probably better that I'm single and unencumbered since I don't know what I'll be doing in the next couple of years. Still, argh.