Lance Bass is masc, bro
Lance Bass is masc, bro
Phyllis Rogers Stone
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/16/07
#1Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 11:36am
This sort of thing is not uncommon. I hear gay guys all the time talking about how masculine they are, effectively setting themselves up for failure. The fact of the matter is that it's not especially masculine to be preoccupied with masculinity because a key part of masculinity is not being particularly preoccupied with anything. Masculinity just is. By virtue of the fact that you are a man who lives with another man, you are ensconced in masculinity. ("Ensconced" is masc word choice, right?) You don't have to prove anything. At some point, probably something that reads as very gay will probably come out of your mouth (or scalp—like a wave of bleached blonde hair), and that's OK. We're all complex people with lots of layers, and a lot of us have traits that would be considered both masculine and feminine. Self-acceptance is a process.
I get it, though. Growing up gay can be traumatizing. You have to make it right in your head when you feel like the world is telling you that it's wrong. A common but ultimately ****ty way to do that is to differentiate yourself in your head from the other gays, which is what Lance Bass did when he came out in 2006:
I want people to take away from this that being gay is a norm. That the stereotypes are out the window … I've met so many people like me that it's really encouraged me. I call them the SAGs — the straight-acting gays. We're just normal, typical guys. I love to watch football and drink beer.
OK, buddy. You do that in your wee top hat.
Lance Bass is masc, bro
#2Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 11:43am
I read that this morning and was howling in between the pangs of embarrassment. 'We're just two dudes.'
Oh, Mary.
#2Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 11:47amPeople still use the "Straight acting gay" thing? What does that even mean.
#3Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 11:53am
It means gay, but, like, not SO gay.
#4Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:15pmUgh. Whatever, queen.
AEA AGMA SM
Broadway Legend Joined: 8/13/09
#5Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:18pm
"People still use the "Straight acting gay" thing? What does that even mean."
You're not a bottom
#6Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:22pm
Or you don't want people to think you're a bottom.
OMG SUCH A BOTTOM!!
#7Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:31pm
I don't think I'll ever understand bottom shaming. I mean...ok...you're a top. Are you really gonna wanna piss off the boys that'll let you in the backdoor? Cause bitches can mess up your sheets if they really want to.
OH...and if anyone is in town on Feb 15, get a ticket to The Meeting at Joe's Pub...they're celebrating Bottom Appreciation Day.
Phyllis Rogers Stone
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/16/07
#8Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:33pmI'd love it if we could get to a point where gay men didn't give a crap about their own masculinity (or lack thereof) or that of others.
#9Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:46pm
And I want someone to rewrite the lyrics of "Children and Art" to be about After Eight, but it ain't gonna happen, not in this lifetime, Phyl.
Wildcard
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/21/06
#10Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:55pmNothing like over-plucked eyebrows to show how "masc" you are
#11Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 12:59pm
"People still use the "Straight acting gay" thing? What does that even mean."
You know what it means, broadwayguy. I'm surprised you haven't changed your screen name again yet.
#12Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 1:03pm
If Lance Bass is the barometer for masculinity, then I am WAY farther on the butch end of the girly-man spectrum than I thought. RobbieJ and I could start a new football team.
#13Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 1:16pmWell, I took the "How masc are you" quiz I saw on Facebook last week and it said I was "Tom of Finland" masc.
#14Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 1:37pm
Stuff like this pisses me the F*CK off.
Top, bottom, masculine, feminine....WHO THE F*CK CARES!!! BE YOU. END OF STORY.
#15Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 1:53pm
OHHHHH SOUNDS LIKE SOMMMMMMMMMMEBODY'S SUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCH A BOTTOM!!!
#16Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:06pm
"Well, I took the "How masc are you" quiz I saw on Facebook last week and it said I was "Tom of Finland" masc. "
Which means you dress in sailor drag, bending over for any one in a cop cap?
#17Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:10pmI mean, when you break it down like that than yeah, it's the total truth. But, y'know, it doesn't have to be a cop cap. It can be one of those paper ones they wear at 7-11 or anywhere. Or no hat. I'm not really picky like that. I mean, I guess what I'm trying to say is that while I'll pretty much just bend over for anybody, I'm safe and the only health risk I face is getting scoliosis, so nobody can judge me but Judy and I don't see the point to shaming people for it. But that's just me.
#18Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:24pm
I took the same quiz and got 'Bea Arthur'.
I'll take all y'all's on, you f*cking p*ssies!!!
#19Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:26pmI'll take all y'all's on also. Just let me lube up first.
#21Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:31pm
And I want someone to rewrite the lyrics of "Children and Art" to be about After Eight, but it ain't gonna happen, not in this lifetime, Phyl.
Oh, the LOLs. THISCLOSE to spitting tea all over my keyboard, dammit!
ETA:
No homo, brah.
Updated On: 2/6/15 at 02:31 PM
#22Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 2:38pm
Y'all are hilarious!
And bottoms.
This guy's a douche, and probably does.
"In Oz, the verb is douchifizzation." PRS
#24Lance Bass is masc, bro
Posted: 2/6/15 at 3:02pmI'm seriously going to work on Children and Art: The After Eight Edition
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