Nectar of the Gods!- Page 4

[Gothampc]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 2:25pm

"I will say that there does seem to be cases where ganging up on a poster is board-sanctioned."

I agree.

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 2:43pm

See, I agree about the cliques here. Yes they exist, but I certainly don't view them in a Jr.-High way, where they exist to purposely exclude people and are unwelcoming of people, etc. I dunno, even if I am considered part of a certain clique, I by no means limit myself to that clique exclusively. I feel blessed to have gotten the oppertunity to chat with and become friends with so many diverse people here. My friends here range in ages from like 12-mid-50s? maybe, and while most are located in NY, I have ones in different parts of the country, as well as some in Canada, and even one in Hungary. I've found with some of the threads you may consider cliquey (i. e. the love threads) they are extremely welcoming to anyone new who starts posting. And I'm sure that if there was a thread or even board that tended to be more "adult cliquey" that I decided to post in, I would feel just as welcome and easily like I fit in.

I think anything "exclusive" seems to consist of like 2 people, which I wouldn't call a clique. And as many have shown here, most people don't even really care or have a desire to join that.

Though, Mister Matt *DID* bring up an excellent point. That IS written in the guidelines and I think in general those guidelines are not as enforced as they should be.

Updated On: 3/7/06 at 02:43 PM

[BSoBW3]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:29pm

Well, I know most people don't like me.

BUT - I suppose I made some friends round here, some of whom I met.

So I think people here need to learn to mind their own business. Yes, one thread DOES affect BWW. But sometimes people think they have a right to go on a rampage after a certain poster, even when said rampage-er has no idea of the facts.

Yea, I know people don't like me, and I know of one person in particular who ALWAYS finds the need to make a nasty comment to me. But if it helps him relieve his stress, more on him. The comments don't really bother me because he is pretty much ALWAYS negative.

But, I think they are some nice observations.

And the ones here who think there aren't any cliques are the very ones at the center of certain cliques.

But, hey! At least BBM didn't win Best Picture. Am I right? Huh? Yeah.

[Musical_nerd]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:31pm

And the ones here who think there aren't any cliques are the very ones at the center of certain cliques.

Exactly what I was thinking. Sure I'm in a few "cliques" but I know that they do exist. Maybe some people are completly oblivious?

Just my two cents.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:32pm

What's the difference between a clique and a group of people who all post on a certain thread because the topic is of interest to them?

[Musical_nerd]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:36pm

I'm more referring to the posters on a thread with a topic that is somewhat of an inside joke or something along those lines.

And I avoided this thread for a long time, because I didn't want to get shot down for what I had to say. But since most of you will probably not take me seriously anyways, I figure I might as well contribute.

All and all, this is a very interesting issue.

[shameless]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:37pm

Please tell me exactly what clique I'm in the center of, because I'd love to know.

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[ohhoney_]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:37pm

i think the difference would be if someone new did come in, and they weren't welcomed. or if they judged the other threads, like "oooh the "x" thread people are so much better than the "y" thread people. the "y" thread people are a bunch of stupid posers." and they wouldn't allow themselves to mix.

i havent seen that here, really, though.

[BSoBW3]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:38pm

Sorry, that was a general comment.

Shameless - you understand there ARE cliques here, yes?

Well, I said people who don't recognize any cliques...

There are all sorts of cliques, and people are members of various ones.

The biggest is age groups...

There's nothing WRONG with cliques, btw.

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[shameless]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:40pm

Actually, I said I don't think there are cliques here. Just people who made connections and formed friendships. I guess I'm oblivious.

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[Musical_nerd]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:40pm

BSO, I find myself for once agreeing with everything you have to say.

[ohhoney_]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:43pm

cliques CAN be a problem, if they are hurting people. youk now what i mean? in real life i think cliques can be dangerous, groups of friends and cliques are different things.

[KelRel]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:44pm

I must add to the DC BWW gathering points that were previously raised. It was amazing the balance that was represented there. We were able to get together and through personal experiences with other posters be able to get a much more well rounded view of our fellow posters. Its hard to get the full story and sometimes getting a little explaination of the inside joke or back story makes things a lot clearer and people's actions a lot more understandable.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:44pm

I agree, Shameless.

A clique implies exclusivity, and what I've found is that 'groups' are formed as we participate more heavily in threads which are on topics of interest to us. They may be defined by age group or by appreciation for an actor or by political or cultural interests. But, I don't believe that the groups are exclusive or that we all couldn't join in on any discussion if we wanted to take the time to read and learn some history of the group dynamic.

It's natural that we would all find ourselves forming bonds with people over shared interests. I think that's different than a 'clique'.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:46pm

I cliques are formed according to age groups, then I'm in my own clique!

[shameless]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:47pm

A clique is an exclusive group, and I've never felt excluded from a thread or group here. If you post and have something interesting to say, I think people will respond. But, I admit that there been plenty of times when I've posted without something interesting to say and no one responded. It happens.

Edit: I like what Addy said better!

Updated On: 3/6/06 at 04:47 PM

[BSoBW3]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:48pm

There are tons of O/T threads that have its usual posters.

Sure, sometime the occasional stray will post there, but the thread still has its usual posters.

The difference is, it IS possible to become part of the thread.

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[DayDreamer]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:48pm

Pronunciation: 'klEk, 'klik
Function: noun
Etymology: French
: a narrow exclusive circle or group of persons; especially : one held together by common interests, views, or purposes


By definition, this ENTIRE board is a clique. We are all here because of a common interest: theater. We are all either performers, techs, or just love to attend. And in the grand scheme of things, we are a pretty narrow and exclusive group of people.

NOW, there are people I 'click' with. There are threads I hang out in more. And yes, I have been guilty of being part of an 'inside joke' with others. BUT I don't think I have EVER been a part of a thread that no one was welcome to join in. Threads automatically become 'cliquey' by the simplicity of the subject; there are threads I don't venture in because I have absolutely no interest... does that make the people that participate in that thread a clique that I should feel excluded from?

And then there are the 'conversation' threads... it's basically the same group of people chatting, but others are always welcome. I joined late into several of those threads, and have felt welcome. All it takes is jumping in if you're interested.

[papalovesmambo]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 4:49pm

jane, you have your own zip code.

i am a golden god.

that is all.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:06pm

thanks papa? I was going to add that another helpful hint is not to take the board too seriously.

[Kringas]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:07pm

I was going to add that another helpful hint is not to take the board too seriously

Would that everyone heed this advice.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:12pm

I try to have fun here, and sometimes the topic is serious, but it's still fun to post and to respond. Once it isn't fun anymore, then it's time to leave. That's my motto. I left a board once because it wasn't fun anymore.

[ohhoney_]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:17pm

i agree with you, jane. this isn't supposed to be high school, or a war, or anything.

[Jane2]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:23pm

Welll sometimes it is high school or a war, but that's ok, it happens in real life too.

[Plum]

Posted: 3/6/06 at 5:28pm

The extent to which you feel the board is cliquish probably reflects on you as much as it reflects on the board. *shrug*