The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part three- Page 146

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:23pm

Raul looks kind of pissed off...


But still beautiful.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:24pm

He looks tired, too.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:28pm

huh. It's also kind of 'attitude-y,' if you know what I mean.

I just need to comment on your avatar; I love the lighting in that pic.

[thetheatrekook]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:29pm

Raúl what? I heard his name and came running. Lol...kidding. Speaking of Adam and Cabaret...I got to meet him while he was rehearsalizing...(I had an internship at NYC at the time where I had to do a lot of work with Roundabout and Cabaret...) He came to the office while I was being all receptionist-like....he was the nicest, sweetest guy ever. I totally did a double take when he walked in the door because I knew he was coming, and I knew who he was...but the black hair! Totally threw me.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:32pm

I always have to download those bmp pictures, but now I see that you're right.

Happy holidays, Emcee, even though circumstances aren't ideal for them this year. And I hope you get some kind of closure with your problem friend one way or another. I know so little about the issues between you that it's hard to comment, except that it occurred to me that sometimes you can unwittingly and unintentionally push someone else's buttons. Her reactions may seem totally out of line because she's projecting some kind of past hurt onto things you innocently do, leaving you feeling bewildered.

Anyway, that may be me putting an unwarranted spin on the situation, but it's happened to me.
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[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:32pm

I think that's actually like... the reverberations from my lamp, Elphie. The CD cover is all black. So, thank you, but it was unintended!

He's such a sweetheart, even if he gets a bad reputation. I miss him.

ETA -- thank you, Chloe. And exactly. She's put past... "stuff" onto things I did in intended innocence. I never meant to push the buttons that got pushed. They were pushed by things that I never expected were bad. I was at first totally bewildered as to why I was in the doghouse, and eventually she did explain it to me, but that's as far as it went. It was like "here's why I'm mad. Okay, that's it."

Updated On: 10/2/05 at 03:32 PM

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:37pm

Wow, that's funny! It looks so natural and professional.

Sometimes friends suck.

That's a totally pointless thing to say, but it's true.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:40pm

I think I'm going to change it soon. I don't like that it looks the wrong color.

It's completely true. And when they suck, they make you want to crawl into a hole and die.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:42pm

*blocks all holes so Emcee doesn't die*

Things will get better soon, I promise!

Gah, I need a Chitty fix.

[thetheatrekook]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 3:45pm

seriously, we need to have a Chitty party...so the me being the ONLY person standing at the end doesn't happen again.

and just to prove i'm not a horrible threadjacker...I LOVE ADAM! hehe.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:04pm

*digs own hole*

[thetheatrekook]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:10pm

Em, you better NOT dig a hole...unless you happen to be tunneling to a certain kitten's dressing room. and in THAT case...pass the shovel! hehe. FEISTY.

[insomniak]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:16pm

Nifty, kook.

Em, I'm suprised that these things happen to you of all people.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:29pm

Everybody has sh*t to deal with. Even me.

*tunnels to nowhere*

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:31pm

I'm back, had a big crash just as I posted my last message, followed by a very difficult phone call.::joins in digging hole::

But back to your friend, Emcee - it sounds to me like her issues are so difficult for her that she'd rather sacrifice her friendship with you than deal with them.

Theaterkook, I'm not sure if we've "met" before, but I'm glad to hear Adam left a good impression with you. It kills me when people write about arrogant they think he is.

[insomniak]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:33pm

Well, I am no expert, but I'd venture to say that anyone describing a fight they have had has a definite bias. We don't know what Emcee may have done to further the problem, despite good intentions. I'd say she should back off for a while and then let the friend come around when she says she will.

Gotta run now. I'm dead set on finishing After The Fall today so I can start The Berlin Stories.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:33pm

Exactly, Chloe. And I still haven't figured out what that leaves me to do.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:42pm

It may leave you with nothing to do, unfortunately, aside from telling her goodbye and good luck as you'd planned. If you're beating yourself up that you haven't said what you really need to say to her, maybe you do need to get that out. But I think you should only do that with absolutely zero expectations of any gratifying or encouraging response from her because the odds are really against it.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:46pm

That's the point exactly -- I furthered the problem unintentionally. And I thought my intentions were good -- I never MEANT for things to be taken badly as they were. And I beat myself up for months and months because I had no idea what was wrong, or what I could do. And then it was "fixed" but not really fixed, because she just wanted to shut me up and get me to go away, thinking that things were "okay." I've been backed off because the whole things just exhausted me. I don't know what's expected of me now, so maybe I'll just let it go. I don't think there's anything to be gained here by further beating myself up. She's going to be many hundreds of miles away. Nothing I can say will *matter* because she's going away. Even if we leave on good terms, other than me feeling relieved, what's the use? This one won't come around. It's been almost six months since this all came to light in its very smallest incarnation.

I know I should go, because it would be rude of me not to... I think. But I don't even know if my presence is wanted. I think I'll just go and stay for a bit, then leave. I have work to do, anyway. It's not a total lie. I don't like uncomfortable situations, though they lately consume my life.

I like subliminal messages, nia.

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[thetheatrekook]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:51pm

It always suprises me when people post that...he was so out of his way sweet when I met him...and I was the freaking receptionist/intern!! There was no reason for him to even TALK to me while he was waiting for his meeting...and there were definately a lot of people who were less "important" I guess you could say than him, and were infinately ruder.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 4:54pm

A lot of people ask me if he's nice, and I think the best response that I can come up with is that if you're nice to him, he'll be nice right back. He has an ego, but that doesn't make him a bad person. I think he's lovely. And as bad as this is to toss into the mix, I don't think I'd be as big a fan as I am if he were a total bitch, not so much the other way around in that I could say I'm super-biased. I love his work, but I also love what I've been lucky enough to know of his personality. I think he's friendly, witty, sharp and a total sweetheart.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 5:01pm

I think he gets himself into trouble sometimes because he's so uncalculating. It doesn't occur to him that people who don't know him will take something he says other than how he meant it.

I know there are some Hollywood actors that the general public tends to think of as super nice, because they go out of their way to calculatingly give that impression. They know how to play the press and their fans. The reality is somewhat different, however. Not that they're monsters, just more selfish and egotistic than they want people to believe.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 5:03pm

I guess I base my opinion of him on face-to-face encounter more than on the "mistakes" he makes in public statements. I think that stuff like that can be so intimidating, that it's often with certain people not a completely true picture of who they are. Maybe that's not to say that how he behaves around his fans is how he truly is, either. But then, I resort to the claim that says he's never been anything but wonderful to me. And that's all I can go on.

[thetheatrekook]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 5:10pm

I think I was just so impressed because he could've just ignored me and read a magazine or something. But also...I kinda get mad when people assume that these Broadway (and Hollywood) folks have to be nice like 24/7 in order to be considered a "nice" person...I mean, I think I'm a pretty nice person in life in general...but I definately have my moments! haha.

[Chloe]

Posted: 10/2/05 at 5:13pm

Don't we all - and you're right that our celebrity culture right now makes it difficult for an actor to just be himself without getting beaten up.