The douchebags of Grindr- Page 2

[Tom1071]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:05pm

"Why state them at all. You'll know by the photo. Then, you just politely reply that you aren't interested."

I think even that is a matter of preference.

Regarding the guys that just want to have sex with themselves...there definitely is something to that theory. I see a lot gay couples that are basically carbon copies of one another...a lot of boyfriends who look a lot like brothers.


Updated On: 7/20/11 at 01:05 PM

[Borstalboy]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:08pm

There is no gay version of "douche", is there? The word itself seems to me at least to be a strictly straight-guy domain.

Douchelle?
Douchina?
Douchelline?

And yes, "Young and hot" is to the gay community what "Being rich" is to the straights. It's very sad.

[Tom1071]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:11pm

"And yes, "Young and hot" is to the gay community what "Being rich" is to the straights. It's very sad."

You hit the nail on the head there, Borstal.

[Calvin]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:13pm

Well, as someone pointed out to me, there is a bit of misogynistic undertone to the term "douchebag." Enema bags maybe?

[broadwayguy2]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:42pm

Oh I HATE the "date your clone" thing. It's like a zombie version of the "Dum and Dee" number from Broadway Bares: Wonderland. It's especially creepy when it is an interracial couple and they still look exactly alike, just different skin tone.

I read an article last month about gay male body image and it discussed that very thing... this idea of "look like the type that you want to attract" and, obviously, it results in.. well, that.

The "masc for masc" thing trips me out... I'm sorry, but if you have to tell me that you are masc, obviously you are not. I identify as very middle of the road. I can be very masculine and I can also queen out with ease. The reaction of my straight friends to me in a straight bar ad then their observation of me in a gay bar is HYSTERICAL sometimes.

As far as the race card goes, I hate when someone uses it to play the victim. I have been propositioned by people on more than one occasion where I have tried to politely decline and because they are of a different ethnicity than myself, they INSTANTLY get aggressive and retort that I am turning them down because I am racist. I mean really now...

[SonofRobbieJ]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 1:59pm

I'm gonna go with Douchette! Doesn't that just sound so precious??

For those of you who are turned off by the Grindr, a dear, knowing, hot friend turned me on to Scruff...the Grindr for men who like their guys a little less perfect. It's delightful!

[Borstalboy]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 2:03pm

Douchespangle?

Twinkledouche?

Douche Lite?

[Q]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 2:07pm

I would say 'Tinkledouche', but that just sounds . . . well, you know what it sounds like.

[singtopher]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 2:20pm

I like Twinkledouche.

[Kad]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 2:21pm

I will say, some of the comments on this Douchebags of Grindr site are equally as repulsive as the people they're critiquing. In some cases, there's not really anything remarkably douchey about the targets.

According to Grindr, NYC is full of straight-acting gay men. Anyone who has walked through Chelsea on a Friday night even once can refute that.

What I really love is seeing the profiles on Grindr of men who are "just browsing", particularly if they're in relationships. Classy.

[Bryan With A Why]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 8:07pm

Doulchinea.

Or does that reference make me look too fem? Damn, I'm moving to the city next week, and I've already blackballed (or blueballed, in this case?) myself to the dating populace.

Alas, and alack.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 8:39pm

No, Robbiej! Ugh. I said I was trying something NEW.

[Reginald Tresilian]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 8:46pm

Bryan, you just moved to the front of several queues.

[Q]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 9:09pm

LOL, Reg - I thought the same thing

[ghostlight2]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 9:11pm

GMTA.

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 9:46pm

Even after a good douche, there are some annoying things you just can't get rid of. Doucheberries. That's what they are. Grab a pair of scissors and cut them out of your life.

[tazber]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 9:55pm

Doucheberries! Gross. And funny.

I'm not familiar with grindr but it seems to be a hook-up site, not a dating site.

If that's the case then I really can't see being offended by people stating what they find (or don't) attractive.

But as for the ones who are obnoxious about it, yea their doucheberries.

[Jordan Catalano]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 10:08pm

I've met two really great friends on grindr and reconnected with two other friends I hadn't seen in years because of it. Ive also gone out on some great (and not so great) dates with guys I've met there and then the occasional, y'know. It is what you make of it, like everything else. It's the same guys who are on okcupid, match, adam4adam, but now you just know how close they are.

[singtopher]

Posted: 7/20/11 at 10:14pm

According to the creator of Grindr, he intended it to be a way to meet people or network or an ice breaker with someone you see out at a bar. Nothing breaks the ice like, "9.5 uncut, right?"

I don't have it, but it really is what you make it. It's made for gay guys and It seems to be used more for sexual hookups.

There is a heterosexual version of it being created.

[Kad]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 12:19am

I've met cool guys on grindr and had good (or at least... interesting) times, sure. I think what is really going on is that the more immediate nature and the promise of near-instant gratification (of a sort) means that niceties and formalities are compromised and shaved away. People, despite being apart, are more exposed in some ways in their desires and what they are.

I don't particularly like being sent pictures of someone's dick as a greeting, but whatever.

[Q]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 12:28am

What's being ignored, however, is the actual CHEMISTRY that occurs between two living beings. However promising something may look in print, the reality can be something completely different.

These folks need to just stay home and masturbate to their own profiles.

[PalJoey]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 12:30am

Scruff is a horse of another color. It's scruffy and furry and sexy and fun. And the guys there don't seem to be focused to exclusionary lists of what they DON'T like. They simply state what they DO like.

The thing that's always struck me me about the bigoted stupidity of Grindr's "No Asians, No Blacks" posters is that they fail to realize that they are alienating a large percentage of potential men: white men with no racial prerequisites who find racism itself to be a turnoff.

I mentioned this once to a "No blacks, no Asians" admirer of mine, to which he he responded glibly but witlessly, "Go build a bridge and get over it."

I blocked him.

[ghostlight2]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 12:59am

That's the second time I've heard that witless phrase today, PJ, and I never heard it before today. An adult said that to you?

[broadwayguy2]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 1:01am

Welcome to the Big Apple, Bryan.

[Bryan With A Why]

Posted: 7/21/11 at 12:05pm

Sorry to threadjack, but thanks broadwayguy2!

And Reg, et. al. - I'll just have to mind my p's and queues.