Uh oh, I sense potential problems on the rommate front...VERY LONG!!!Tell me if I'm overreacting here.
So, I thought the bf situation might become a
situation, as he was here all day Monday while I was moving in, and he was here when I came in Tuesday morning (didn't spend Monday night here). But, I figured, whatever, I wasn't here, knock yourself out. So, yesterday, he was pretty much here whenever she was. I went out for most of the afternoon, but I think they were gone that whole time too. I went grocery shopping and they came in shortly after I got in. He was here all evening, playing video games and stuff...ok, fine. We go the the floor meeting, come back, and he comes back down, and they watched TV (my TV, mind you...I fully expect to share it, but I'm just sayin') while we were chatting online and I made Pat some CDs. Whatever. So, I've got a 9am class, and I was coming off 2 SH*Tty nights' sleep, and I went to bed around 11:30. At midnight, he goes into the bathroom and takes a shower...in our room. He lives
four flights up! Why aren't you taking a shower in your own room? It's not like he's living in the Brooklyn dorms (it would still be annoying, but still, wtf?)...then he leaves, lets himself back in and spends the night w/ the roomie on the bottom bunk and quickly falls asleep, snoring. So, I was livid and wide awake, due to excessive, loud snoring, until at least 3am (that was the last time I checked my cell phone for the time). So, he's basically living here and keeping his clothes in his own room upstairs (sweet deal for his roommate...maybe I should move in there?). He's got a towel here, a toothbrush, shampoo...the whole nine yards. I'm sorry, but I signed up for a double. I don't expect her to never have guests or anything (that'd be ridiculous), but I've pretty much got another roommate now. I'm paying for a double, and you know, I'd kind of like to get what I (er, my parents) paid for.
I only had a minute to chat w/ her before I had to go to class and she had to get ready for work, but I said that we'd have to all get together and sort something out. What do you think is reasonable? She asked if it'd be ok for him to spend the night sometimes. I don't really want him to (he's nice and everything, but come on). What would you say if fair? Once a week? Assuming I get Theater Talk or AMC works out (or maybe even Inside the Actors Studio that's going to be filming at PU now) I'm going to be gone pretty much every day from 9am until 6 or 9pm. I really just want to come home, get a bite to eat, do some reading/writing, and go to bed. I don't want to deal w/ roommie and the bf as a constant factor. If they wanted to live together permanently, they should have gotten an apartment, or one of them should have gotten a single, right? Am I being a bitch/totally out of line? Even though I don't want him here that much, shouldn't she be at his place at least 1/2 the time? I don't want him essentially living here 3-4 days/week, but I don't think it's fair that his roommate's basically got a single (well, assuming he has a double...think I might have to check that out).
I've been walked all over for the past 3 years, and I'm sorry that one of my nicer roommates is going to have to bear the brunt of my pent up annoyance over being taken advantage of by a slew of previous rommates, but I really think I've got to put my foot down.
But when did New Hampshire become--Such a backward wasteland of seatbelt hating crazies?...I mean, only 40 people actually live there. The others are just visitors who come for the tax-free liquor and three inches of novelty coastline. John Hodgeman on The Daily Show (1-30-07)