While this is truly a terrible event, I agree we should give her whatever space she needs. I'm sure she's already had many expressions of support from her fans and has no doubt that we're all thinking of/praying for her, her family and his family, but grief is an extremely personal thing and none of us (no matter how much loss we personally have experienced) know what she's going through and she should not be pressured (as fan mail, flowers, gifts, etc might make her feel) into resuming her normal, fairly high profile routine. I think we should all back off a little bit.
*the choice may have been mistaken, but choosing was not*