"If something isn't working, they already know that."
I don't think that's necessarily always true.
Nevertheless, soft sell isusually a better approach when talking to people involved with a project that's not working. Most artists generally really don't want to hear anything other than praise, and would rather shield themselves from reproach than hear anything negative that others might actually think (whether the opinions of those others are insightful or idiotic).
Brown says that he was there on the "very same night that the Times came to review the show," so the show was frozen and it was too late to give constructive feedback.
I think there is a distinction between giving feedback at a point it could be helpful and giving feedback at a point when it's too late. It may be worthwhile to give feedback on a novel when it's in the rough draft phase, but there's not as much of a point in giving that feedback once it's been published. Or pointing out problems with a potential wedding reception venue vs pointing out those same problems after the reception is over.
"What was the name of that cheese that I like?"
"you can't run away forever...but there's nothing wrong with getting a good head start"
"well I hope and I pray, that maybe someday, you'll walk in the room with my heart"
I have always lived by Sondheim's rule. There are only 3 people in the business who want to hear the truth and I've never met any of them. My response is always "I loved it!" Now, if you ask 3 times what I *really* thought, and you put your hand on my shoulder the third time, then I'l share. But that rarely happens.
Politeness demands grace and gratitude, but more than mere politeness is required here."
Since you were replying to me, how would you have gone about it? I don't obviously know you, but I know that you do care about personal manners, politeness and kindness. Would you have just said "it stinks", ordered the lobster and champagne and left?
"Brown says that he was there on the "very same night that the Times came to review the show," so the show was frozen and it was too late to give constructive feedback. "
This is what irks me about Brown. He now says it was NOT Passion--and yet he also says it was a new Sondheim show and was in 1993... None of the changes to his story add up, whatsoever. If he wants to keep telling the story, and changing it, why doesn't he just go full throttle and tell all the details?
"It wasn’t “Passion”! Comment by Jason Robert Brown on November 1, 2012 at 8:48 pm
EDIT: Frank Rich's Times review of PUTTING IT TOGETHER appeared April 2, 1993."
Oh! *slaps head* For some reason that seems even more odd. It was not a great show by any means, but I wouldn't call it a new show. And why wouldn't JRB say "We were treated to a new version of an old revue of his songs!" (Probably because that would negate the point he was trying to make...)
Exactly. I get the feeling JRB wanted to get a reaction, and in this small community--he has. Why else title it the way he has? Why not title his blog post "A valuable lesson I learned..." or something.
So who do we think "Franz Liszt" is? The composer Brown describes as "understandably reluctant" to "demonstrate and recount" his own stupidity:
Franz is not as sheepish as I. He’s a little older, but he’s also devastatingly charming, impossibly talented, and confident that he can guide any conversation safely to shore. I occasionally refer to him as “The Waring Blender” because he is so smooth.