Theatrefanboy1 said: "I will admit that I have done stage doored before a show either do to my flight occurring right after a show, or the actor prefers to stage door before. I do find it awkward and try my best to stage door after. There have been people though that have stated that they prefer to quickly sign a few things before a show than after. James Earl Jones, Angela Lansbury (in her later roles ), Matthew Broderick are some that come to mind.
I will say though I tend to agree that it’s best after the show"
That must have been a one day exception type of thing. Typically, you want to respect the actors because you never know what's happening at the theater, and they could be running late (darn MTA), they could find it incredibly rude because their priority is not making sure you get your autograph quota because you have a flight to catch. Your situation does not excuse the fact that their priority is getting to the theater. Again, if you're there and there are other people waiting, this could delay the actors from getting to where they need to be. I don't want to say too bad if you can't go after the show, but if you can't...why not send a playbill to the theater with a self addressed stamped envelope for them to sign? If you want a photo, I don't want to say tough luck, but it might just be something you have to deal with. They have rehearsal, they could have a put-in for someone joining the cast-you never know the situation. Especially if they're in a rush. Please think about that--especially if it's someone whos in Wicked--think about it: someone playing Elphaba has to get to the theater, do their warm ups or whatever they do to get themselves ready for the show, AND they have to get painted green. That is a lengthy process. If you are single-minded and only care about meeting them pre-show, you could be throwing that process completely out of whack. It doesn't matter what other actors have allowed it--never, ever assume you can, or that you should. Common sense and decency. it doesn't matter if you can't go by after-there are other ways to get in touch with actors.