Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?- Page 2

[Kad]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:41pm

Really? I was on OkCupid for (cough) years and never encountered more than one or two guys who wanted to hook up with me.

[Jordan Catalano]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:47pm

Seriously. It seems like every conversation goes to "So you are you into" within 5 messages.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:52pm

Not for all of us...

Updated On: 6/25/13 at 06:52 PM

[AEA AGMA SM]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:54pm

Sadly I feel like a lot of traffic from Grindr is now beginning to move over to Scruff. I'm seeing more and more "not into bears/fatties/overweight/old" etc types on Scruff than when it first started.

[broadway guy]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 7:53pm

Thanks for the help guys. I am back on the market But its okay, I am young I have time to figure out love right? It wasn't really a summer fling it was more than that but meh such is life.

[Brave Sir Robin2]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 8:32pm

I'm young too, still as single as I've been my whole life, and still hopeful. I have a Grindr, where I've made a couple of friends and had a couple of hook-ups. Never had more than back-and-forth conversations on OK Cupid, but it's kind of fun. In a weird way.

But there is hope for all of us!

[GavestonPS]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 8:37pm

Question from an old-timer? Do ya'll supplement on-line dating with old-fashioned taking your chances in bars and clubs, at the opera and museums?

Please don't misunderstand me: I'm not judging anybody's dating habits. But I'm thinking that if I had read my husband's profile on-line, I probably would have passed on by. He was somewhat older than I and newly separated from his wife, with two children. Rather more than I planned to take on at 23.

But I saw him "across a crowded room" (as the lyric goes) in a tacky Miami disco and literally felt an electric shock when our eyes met. That was 36 years ago.

[Someone in a Tree2]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:02pm

^ Gaveston you just made my day reading this. Well done!

My husband and I just celebrated 21 years. Met him at the workplace, co-workers who became buddies who became a fling who became lovers, all well before the invention of grinder et al. (Hell, this all predated MySpace!)





Updated On: 6/24/13 at 10:02 PM

[best12bars]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:21pm

I met my partner in a bar in L.A. I stepped on his foot.

We've been together 17 years now. Congrats to all the longterm loves out there!

[broadway guy]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:38pm

GavestonPS and best12bars That is so touching. Congrats

[jackieoh]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:48pm

I love OkCupid!

[Jilani]

Posted: 6/24/13 at 11:30pm

I met my partner on gay.com 10 years ago, and we chatted online throughout that summer (he was home over summer break from school, so we were in different cities and couldn't meet in person until he came back in the fall). Our first date was September 7, 2003, and we've been together ever since.

[PalJoey]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:04am

I met my partner waiting for the ferry to go to Fire Island on a rainy Saturday in April. He had just lost his best friend and mentor to AIDS. I was weeks away from losing my mother to ovarian cancer.

His friend's partner had called him that morning and said, "I'm out here in the Pines planting the garden, and I can't face it by myself. Can you come out and help me?

My mother had called me that morning and said, "Aren't your housemates opening up the house for the season this weekend? Go out and help them. I promise nothing will happen to me before Monday."

Both of us got on the train to Sayville sad and anxious.

It was before the season, so the ferry schedule was not yet coordinated with the arrival of the trains. We each got to the ferry landing in Sayville to find it would be an hour and a half before the ferry left. Just him, me and my dog.

And in that hour and a half, two things happened: The rain clouds dispersed and the sun came out, and the three of us fell in love. It was the last thing any of us expected to happen that weekend. (Except the dog, maybe.)

That was 19 years ago.

[StockardFan]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:15am

I'm really happy for all of you and your long term loves! My friend from college has been with is partner about 23 years and they have 2 beautiful children from the same surrogate. They are the best dads!

[somethingbypuccini 2]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:33am

This is one of the sweetest threads I've seen on here in a while. Bravo. And congrats to everyone, this is really touching.

While I am currently single, so take this with a grain of salt, I've met some really wonderful guys on OkCupid.

[AC126748]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 8:18am

Question from an old-timer? Do ya'll supplement on-line dating with old-fashioned taking your chances in bars and clubs, at the opera and museums?

I never had much luck in gay bars finding people who were looking for a serious relationship--to me, it always felt like the real-life version of Grindr. I'm not saying this is everyone's experience, but it's been mine. So after ending an LTR with someone I met in graduate school and being single for about a year, a friend recommended OKCupid and I set up a profile. After several dates, I met my partner/fiance. That was three years ago, we've been engaged for over one year, and we're marrying in September.

So, online dating might not be for everyone, but it worked smashingly for me. And I'd recommend it to anyone who is interested.

Updated On: 6/25/13 at 08:18 AM

[iluvtheatertrash]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 9:17am

What's with all the awful "no fatties" comments? Is it so hard to say "prefer guys who are more fit"?

[Mister Matt]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 10:25am

What's with all the awful "no fatties" comments?

To prove that if you're hot, you have to act like a douchebag. And if you're over 40 and hot, you can still refer to yourself as a "boi". You'd be surprised how many fiftysomething fratbois there are out there. It's never too late for continuing education.

[Kad]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 10:27am

Reading the word "boi" is the visual equivalent of nails on a chalkboard to me.

[Mike Barrett]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 11:24am

Hate to damper the mood but I dated this guy for 2 years and was in love but found out he was cheating on me for 6 months. So maybe I should check one of these websites out. But congrats to everyone on long term success! I hope to find it some day!

[broadway guy]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 11:41am

"What's with all the awful "no fatties" comments?"

Yeah some guys have that in the profile description sadly. I think some guys forget that your profile is a test to see how nice and respectful you are. I usually pass if i see someone write something crude and negative. Some guys just come off as jaded so i don't waste my time with them. I also can't stand No face pictures or pictures where they show their "hot body" and then crop it off at the face. Im like " Be a man and show your face im sure you aren't ugly".

[Unknown User]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 3:45pm

When the action was in the personals ads, the code was "No fats, no fems." The more things change...

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:15pm

Now it's usually No Fats, No Fems, No Asians.

[wonderfulwizard11]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:18pm

Or just Masc seeking Masc.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:19pm

Sometimes I marvel at the gayface on the guys who get all oppressively "MASC 4 MASC ONLY"