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Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
#25Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:41pmReally? I was on OkCupid for (cough) years and never encountered more than one or two guys who wanted to hook up with me.
"...everyone finally shut up, and the audience could enjoy the beginning of the Anatevka Pogram in peace."
#26Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:47pmSeriously. It seems like every conversation goes to "So you are you into" within 5 messages.
NYadgal
Broadway Legend Joined: 5/18/04
#27Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:52pm
Not for all of us...
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Updated On: 6/25/13 at 06:52 PM
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#28Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 6:54pmSadly I feel like a lot of traffic from Grindr is now beginning to move over to Scruff. I'm seeing more and more "not into bears/fatties/overweight/old" etc types on Scruff than when it first started.
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#29Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 7:53pm
Thanks for the help guys. I am back on the market 
But its okay, I am young I have time to figure out love right? It wasn't really a summer fling it was more than that but meh such is life.
#30Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 8:32pm
I'm young too, still as single as I've been my whole life, and still hopeful. I have a Grindr, where I've made a couple of friends and had a couple of hook-ups. Never had more than back-and-forth conversations on OK Cupid, but it's kind of fun. In a weird way.
But there is hope for all of us!
"I saw Pavarotti play Rodolfo on stage and with his girth I thought he was about to eat the whole table at the Cafe Momus." - Dollypop
#31Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 8:37pm
Question from an old-timer? Do ya'll supplement on-line dating with old-fashioned taking your chances in bars and clubs, at the opera and museums?
Please don't misunderstand me: I'm not judging anybody's dating habits. But I'm thinking that if I had read my husband's profile on-line, I probably would have passed on by. He was somewhat older than I and newly separated from his wife, with two children. Rather more than I planned to take on at 23.
But I saw him "across a crowded room" (as the lyric goes) in a tacky Miami disco and literally felt an electric shock when our eyes met. That was 36 years ago.
#32Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:02pm
^ Gaveston you just made my day reading this. Well done!
My husband and I just celebrated 21 years. Met him at the workplace, co-workers who became buddies who became a fling who became lovers, all well before the invention of grinder et al. (Hell, this all predated MySpace!)
Updated On: 6/24/13 at 10:02 PM
#33Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:21pm
I met my partner in a bar in L.A. I stepped on his foot.
We've been together 17 years now. Congrats to all the longterm loves out there!
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Broadway Legend Joined: 8/5/11
#34Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:38pmGavestonPS and best12bars That is so touching. Congrats
#35Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 10:48pmI love OkCupid!
Jilani
Broadway Star Joined: 6/30/05
#36Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/24/13 at 11:30pmI met my partner on gay.com 10 years ago, and we chatted online throughout that summer (he was home over summer break from school, so we were in different cities and couldn't meet in person until he came back in the fall). Our first date was September 7, 2003, and we've been together ever since.
#37Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:04am
I met my partner waiting for the ferry to go to Fire Island on a rainy Saturday in April. He had just lost his best friend and mentor to AIDS. I was weeks away from losing my mother to ovarian cancer.
His friend's partner had called him that morning and said, "I'm out here in the Pines planting the garden, and I can't face it by myself. Can you come out and help me?
My mother had called me that morning and said, "Aren't your housemates opening up the house for the season this weekend? Go out and help them. I promise nothing will happen to me before Monday."
Both of us got on the train to Sayville sad and anxious.
It was before the season, so the ferry schedule was not yet coordinated with the arrival of the trains. We each got to the ferry landing in Sayville to find it would be an hour and a half before the ferry left. Just him, me and my dog.
And in that hour and a half, two things happened: The rain clouds dispersed and the sun came out, and the three of us fell in love. It was the last thing any of us expected to happen that weekend. (Except the dog, maybe.)
That was 19 years ago.
StockardFan
Broadway Legend Joined: 6/19/08
#38Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:15amI'm really happy for all of you and your long term loves! My friend from college has been with is partner about 23 years and they have 2 beautiful children from the same surrogate. They are the best dads!
KFTC!!!!!
#39Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 12:33am
This is one of the sweetest threads I've seen on here in a while. Bravo. And congrats to everyone, this is really touching.
While I am currently single, so take this with a grain of salt, I've met some really wonderful guys on OkCupid.
#40Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 8:18am
Question from an old-timer? Do ya'll supplement on-line dating with old-fashioned taking your chances in bars and clubs, at the opera and museums?
I never had much luck in gay bars finding people who were looking for a serious relationship--to me, it always felt like the real-life version of Grindr. I'm not saying this is everyone's experience, but it's been mine. So after ending an LTR with someone I met in graduate school and being single for about a year, a friend recommended OKCupid and I set up a profile. After several dates, I met my partner/fiance. That was three years ago, we've been engaged for over one year, and we're marrying in September.
So, online dating might not be for everyone, but it worked smashingly for me. And I'd recommend it to anyone who is interested.
"You travel alone because other people are only there to remind you how much that hook hurts that we all bit down on. Wait for that one day we can bite free and get back out there in space where we belong, sail back over water, over skies, into space, the hook finally out of our mouths and we wander back out there in space spawning to other planets never to return hurrah to earth and we'll look back and can't even see these lives here anymore. Only the taste of blood to remind us we ever existed. The earth is small. We're gone. We're dead. We're safe."
-John Guare, Landscape of the Body
Updated On: 6/25/13 at 08:18 AM
iluvtheatertrash
Broadway Legend Joined: 11/9/04
#41Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 9:17amWhat's with all the awful "no fatties" comments? Is it so hard to say "prefer guys who are more fit"?
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#42Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 10:25am
What's with all the awful "no fatties" comments?
To prove that if you're hot, you have to act like a douchebag. And if you're over 40 and hot, you can still refer to yourself as a "boi". You'd be surprised how many fiftysomething fratbois there are out there. It's never too late for continuing education.
"What can you expect from a bunch of seitan worshippers?" - Reginald Tresilian
#43Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 10:27amReading the word "boi" is the visual equivalent of nails on a chalkboard to me.
"...everyone finally shut up, and the audience could enjoy the beginning of the Anatevka Pogram in peace."
#44Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 11:24am
Hate to damper the mood but I dated this guy for 2 years and was in love but found out he was cheating on me for 6 months. So maybe I should check one of these websites out. But congrats to everyone on long term success! I hope to find it some day!
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Broadway Legend Joined: 8/5/11
#45Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 11:41am
"What's with all the awful "no fatties" comments?"
Yeah some guys have that in the profile description sadly. I think some guys forget that your profile is a test to see how nice and respectful you are. I usually pass if i see someone write something crude and negative. Some guys just come off as jaded so i don't waste my time with them. I also can't stand No face pictures or pictures where they show their "hot body" and then crop it off at the face. Im like " Be a man and show your face im sure you aren't ugly".
Broadway Legend Joined: 12/31/69
#46Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 3:45pmWhen the action was in the personals ads, the code was "No fats, no fems." The more things change...
Phyllis Rogers Stone
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/16/07
#47Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:15pmNow it's usually No Fats, No Fems, No Asians.
#48Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:18pmOr just Masc seeking Masc.
I am a firm believer in serendipity- all the random pieces coming together in one wonderful moment, when suddenly you see what their purpose was all along.
Phyllis Rogers Stone
Broadway Legend Joined: 9/16/07
#49Are gay networking sites a good way to find relationships?
Posted: 6/25/13 at 6:19pmSometimes I marvel at the gayface on the guys who get all oppressively "MASC 4 MASC ONLY"
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