So is it bad that I've...

[GirlforTartaglia]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:29pm

had a crush on the same person for a little over 6 years and done nothing out of fear of rejection? Hmmph.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:30pm

*laughs*

*loves*

[GirlforTartaglia]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:31pm

I love you <33

[colleen_lee]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:32pm

I'm sure we've all been there.

I had a crush on a guy from when I was 12 until we parted ways after high school graduation. I never went for him and regret it to this day. I couldn't breathe for days after hearing about his impending wedding a few years ago and even still part of me pines for him.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, rejection totally sucks but always wondering "what if" sucks a thousand times more.

[SweetQintheLights]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:35pm

Allow me to ask-

Are you afraid of anything more than rejection?

Do you get any kind of vibe that he likes you...or your type?

I agree with colleen- "rejection totally sucks but always wondering "what if" sucks a thousand times more."

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:37pm

I think I can probably top everyone, sadly enough. I had a crush on the same person for twelve years. Granted, I wasn't overcome with "do me now" feelings over twelve years straight, but I liked him from day one. Nothing has or will ever come of it, especially considering I'm moving in two months.

[Dancinqueen123]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:37pm

I'm in a situation similiar to yours. I have had a crush on this guy since 8th grade (I will be a senior in High school) and I haven't said one word to him. The wierd thing is, our moms work together, so they're always talking about us during the day. I know more about this guy from what I've heard my mom say, rather than me actually speaking to him. I know I have to talk to him sooner or later, but yes I have the "fear of rejection"

[jerseyboyslover]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:39pm

I had a crush on the same guys for 10 years and he never liked me so I just gave up. I am done with guys for this week

[bdwaygirl]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:48pm

Siamese, Kindergarten through 12th grade over here!

[GirlforTartaglia]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:52pm

Wow! Geez, I guess a lot of us are in similar boats!

5th going into 12th over here. ha.

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:52pm

Hah, okay, you have me beaten!

[StageManager2]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:55pm

siamese dream, would you top me too?

Posted: 6/22/06 at 9:57pm

Um, would I? I said that it's been 12 years.

[Effie Im TIRED]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 10:42pm

Going on the 6th year.

But I told him.

He's one of those ambiguous teases.

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 10:45pm

Lol, if I meet the guys I've liked in the past now (like guys I liked when I was in middle school and have just recently seen after a few years) I'll tell them that I had a crush on them. We'll laugh about it. But I did act on the one crush I had for any decent time--two years--and that ended up working in my favor. We've been dating now for almost three years.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 10:48pm

Better not do anything about it now. Taking risks only leads to pain.

[LilMiZBroADwaY23]

Posted: 6/22/06 at 10:49pm

Hm... I've like a guy for three years, he's broken my heart twice. When he heard out I liked him, he called me a 'stalker', the next year. I start liking him again because we became 'friends'. Then, that year ends... I seem him the next year, he finds out we're going to be at the same city at the same time, he gives me his e-mail, says we should get together. I e-mail him, he says he's going to plan dinner and a movie, a day before I leave, no e-mails, no nothing.

Sad thing is, if he was still to call me and ask me out on a date, I would probably say yes.

That sucks even more... dumb Christian assholes (I apologize to those who are Christians, this guy is one of those Christians... the holier than thou.)

Posted: 6/22/06 at 11:13pm

So how about this. You like someone starting in 4th grade and then Jr/Sr Prom rolls around (so it was my soph year, sophs can go at my school because it's really small) and you want to go with him (also the girls mainly do the asking). You have said this out loud to your friends then one day one of these friends, who happens to have a boyfriend at another school, asks this guy to Prom right in front of you. Talk about harsh. And let that be a lesson to never let oppritunities for asking go by.

The end.

[smiles]

Posted: 6/23/06 at 8:48am

I have a fear of rejection. I really really liked this guy for a good 2 years (even though at the time I wouldn't admit it to myself).....and he liked me. he ended up asking me out 8 times in 2 years. But I was scared because I thought in the back of my mind that we were gonna date for a while and then he'd break my heart. We were best friends. We hung out all the time... I didn't realize how amazing this guy was when he was around. He ended up moving on the other side of the country. When we said goodbye, I chose then to profess my love to him (I know not great timing). It was the saddest most intense goodbye ever. It's been 6 years since I last saw him. We still email each other from time to time. But that's it. I don't expect to see him ever again.

[Holly Therese]

Posted: 6/23/06 at 10:06am

Two years for the same reason.

[iHeartMyGeek]

Posted: 6/23/06 at 10:15am

Okay, let's try this one. I'm in the seventh grade and I've got a total crush on this guy. My best friend likes the same guy so we spend the entire year hating each other because we're competing for this guy. She ends up winning because, well, I'm not much of a gentlemen's lady honestly.

But see, I count this one in the win column for me because this way it was her instead of me that ended up the only 13-year-old non-virgin in our school and she was the one who ended up getting cheated on with four other girls by this douchebag. So someone was smiling down on me and keeping this guy away from me.

[xM3L24x]

Posted: 6/23/06 at 10:22am

That's sorta what happened to me and one of my bestfriends last year. We both liked the same guy. However, I realized he was a douchebag after hanging out with him. She ended up believing he actually liked her and had sex with him. She fooled around with him for a year, and gained a reputation as a slut while he clearly used her and other girls behind her back.

[duroc]

Posted: 6/23/06 at 11:22am

I kind of have the same problem of not telling girls how I feel about them. Like in HS, there was this girl I liked for a little over a year - she still probably doesn't know I ever liked her and it's unlikely she'll ever know. She moved to Florida a few years ago and I haven't kept in touch w/ her. Actually, that's happenened a few times. I got to like a girl and she moved away. I think it was mostly because my school is next to a fort, so a lot people are always moving around, but I attribute it also to me having bad luck w/ women.

Luckily now in college, I still don't have the problem w/ people moving away. I still do however have trouble telling girls how I feel about them. Seems like I'm outgoing in every area, except for that. I suppose, for the same reason as everyone else - fear of rejection.