So if they probably won't care, all the more reason that permission should be sought. It's not about "getting in trouble" or not for it, it's about doing the right thing, that's kind of what morals are: doing the right thing because it IS the right thing. If that puts me on my high horse, I will proudly sit there.
Yes I have changed the sex of characters: with permission. No, I have never cast a girl to play a boy because that's all I have. I have also been turned down to make such changes - so be it. Yes, there have been entire plays I've not been able to produce because of minor changes that were refused. Too bad for me, so I moved on and choose another show. There are many shows I'd like to produce but can't as my community is nearly all white, too bad for us. I've even been turned down to change a role written for an African American to white (while no part of the story specifically deals with him be a person of color, in word or action). I've been granted permission cut a show where only a year or two before others had been refused. If I want to alter another's work, I need permission -- if I don't want to get permission, I should only do shows in the public domain or start writing my own.
And GeorgeandDot your departure lasted a whopping 25 minutes - and they were delightful.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.