Saw and was ignored by Bette Midler yesterday- Page 4

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:20pm

To those who stated that it  only takes a smile, or that how hard is it to say thank you, it only takes a second.

 

It's not a case of "it only" when you have to do it hundreds of times. I completely understand if Bette made it her choice that day to not acknowledge fans. Big deal. Her job is on the stage and on film - to entertain. And she does it well.

[broadwaysfguy]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:20pm

this thread is a giant waste of space and energy that does not advance anything that most of us love or care about......

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:23pm

^ you're entitled to your opinion about the thread but don't make general judgments about what most of us love or care about. You don't know that.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:25pm

I love and care about people losing their damn minds on this board, so this thread is great!

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:28pm

And there are more than 8.5 K views already. I guess plenty of us are interested in it.

[haterobics]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:38pm

broadwaysfguy said: "this thread is a giant waste of space and energy that does not advance anything that most of us love or care about......"

 

It took you four screens to figure that out?! You need to sharpen your skills, girl.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 1:52pm

I'd like to back up for a teeny tiny second and ask the purely rhetorical question:  Is it fair to say we've "met" somebody who totally ignores us whether intentionally or by circumstance of deafness?

[Braniff Forever]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:12pm

I used to live in Northern Manhattan and lived near the New Leaf Cafe where Bette had somehow been instrumental in its turning from a hot dog stand in Fort Tryon Park to a nice sort of upscale, successful dining establishment. I had heard from the staff members there that Bette who was involved in the fundraising efforts to make NYC parks a better place, was not really a very nice person when she would come to visit, so it doesn't surprise me that she would not be nice and friendly out in public. Oh, well, I've found it best to just treat celebrities as you would treat anyone else. Be nice and friendly but don't make a big deal about them. That's how I've always handled being around them the few times I've seen them. 

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:20pm

Is it so hard to believe that exuberant entertainers can be incredibly shy offstage?

[haterobics]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:21pm

FindingNamo said: "Is it so hard to believe that exuberant entertainers can be incredibly shy offstage?"

 

Are you shy and demure offline?

[Brian07663NJ]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:44pm

Have had 2 Bette Midler encounters...

The first was seeing her exit a theater in NYC. Fans and photographers were all shouting her name. She walked from the door to her car as if she were alone in the middle of a barren desert. Not an eyebrow moved, not the crack of a smile...she acknowledged not one and didn't over exert a muscle as she walked through to her vehicle slowly. Left that day thinking - OMG what a crazy woman.

Second time was at the stage door in Shubert Alley after her performance. She smiled and signed autographs before getting into her car.

We are all entitled to our right to be who we want to be but I certainly agree with the Bette Davis story - we (the fans) made you and we can break you too! We do love you - in our fan way and when we dislike you our money goes along with our love.

[devonian.t]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:49pm

I'd like to back up for a teeny tiny second and ask the purely rhetorical question:  Is it fair to say we've "met" somebody who totally ignores us whether intentionally or by circumstance of deafness?

I stood in a crowd as Mrs Thatcher passed.  Does that mean I met her?  I shared a lift with a well-known UK stage actor.  We didn't chat.  Does that count as meeting?

[SweetLips]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 2:50pm

FindingNamo said: "I'd like to back up for a teeny tiny second and ask the purely rhetorical question:  Is it fair to say we've "met" somebody who totally ignores us whether intentionally or by circumstance of deafness?

Your comment reminded me of a photo in a Patrick Dennis book [was it Little Me?] with ? sitting at the next table behind 'the star' and the caption was 'lunching with 'said star'.

Hope that makes sense as we all delude ourselves sometimes and fantasise situations how we would like things to be [or not to be]--isn't that the question?

 

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Updated On: 9/29/15 at 02:50 PM

[Sylver1]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 3:19pm

Very well said...and I pretty much agree with what you are saying and I freely admit I was upset when I wrote this....I stand pretty much corrected in terms of use of this board. Still feel she could have looked my way. But well done in terms of what you said and the politeness in which you said it. So tell me...Have I broken board protocol by admitting I could have stated it better etc.? Doesn't seem to happen much here.

PS....to the other poster ....I retracted early on that the word "met" was a poor choice of words...so get over that one too please...

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 3:24pm

You seem like a lot of fun. 

[devonian.t]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 3:46pm

Since you are a new arrival I will cordially point out that you can actually edit the subject line- it might help to flag up your epiphany.

[loliveve]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 3:57pm

I agree with a lot of comments, and think what troubles me most about this thread is the subject title...

A more apt title would have been "Encountered and was ignored by Bette Midler yesterday."

Or "Approached and was ignored by Bette Midler yesterday." 

NOT "met."  

 

ETA: I didn't read through all the comments and just noticed that the OP changed the thread title, so ignore my concern  

 

Updated On: 9/29/15 at 03:57 PM

[musicals2]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 3:59pm

I went to an event several years ago for Bette Midler. She was polite, signed her latest cd, and some Memorabilia, and some even had a chance to take a few pictures. She might be very involved with her career, and might not have the time to chat with fans.

However, Some stars today when they see someone with an item to be signed, might think their signed item might go on the internet. This might discourage them from wanting to sign anything, or talk to some who might not be real fans but merchants.

[Jay Lerner-Z]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 8:41pm

"You're lucky I didn't turn you into a cat for 300 years, you wretched creature!"

[dramamama611]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 8:59pm

Things were different when Bette Davis was "it". Fans weren't as demanding as they are now. We also didn't have crazies lurking around very corner.

I understand wanting to meet someone you admire (somewhat), but this was her private time. She owed you nothing.  Note: several posters have had stories of Bette's loveliness when the instance WAS in a professional setting: she's at work.

[FBay]

Posted: 9/29/15 at 9:05pm

I have a problem, we expect actors to drop everything and do everything for us.  When they want just some mean time. We write posts like this like the world has ended. 

[amoni]

Posted: 9/30/15 at 9:21am

If you were at the bowling alley and you saw the butcher from the Piggly Wiggly, would you approach him and say you love him because you got a great rump roast last week?

As for the poster who worked with Linda Hunt, the key word is WORK. She was working. It might be fun to be an extra and hang out on set, but Miss Hunt, I can assure was thinking about her character, her lines, not wasting production time, continuity etc. She might have also been in character when she replied.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 9/30/15 at 9:34am

amoni has spoken.  CASE CLOSED

[Famebroadway2]

Posted: 9/30/15 at 9:48am

She might have ignored everyone because any type of response/acknowledgment usually turns into, "Can I take a picture with you or can I have an autograph."  I can understand her just wanting to be there to shop and not be hounded every 5 seconds.  

None of us are in this type of "world famous" position, so its hard to say what is the proper way to react. 

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/30/15 at 9:50am

If you were at the bowling alley and you saw the butcher from the Piggly Wiggly, would you approach him and say you love him because you got a great rump roast last week?

 

Wait.  We're not allowed to say hello to butchers from Piggly Wiggly now?