Saw and was ignored by Bette Midler yesterday — Page 2

Sylver1 said: "...but on a board where I have read every conceivable take on who signs at the stage door, who returns items sent to the theater for signature etc."

Yeah, stage door threads never get bitchy on here...

I met Bette at the stage door once and she was so nice, but even so, she never calls, never writes...

Updated On: 9/28/15 at 01:51 PM

Never a good feeling to be ignored- but I am sure Bette knew what she was doing- and I suppose she has thought this through very carefully- since this is probably something she does at times when she feels the need to establish a sense of privacy for herself. Bette is not a dumb woman or some twit- I think that although the encounter was not what you might have wanted or expected- I would give Bette a pass on this- the next day she might have been in a different space and signed autographs and kissed babies- she seems like a kindhearted person for the most part- I would not take this to necessarily mean she is rude or arrogant.

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devonian.t said: "Sometimes even acknowledging a comment is like opening the flood doors. "She replied- she must want to chat more..."

She just moved on- no snarl or put-down- how else would you like to have it made clear that she wasn't on public duty?"

That was really my initial thought as well. I mean, clearly the OP is one of the crazies because they decided to stalk anyway, but there are really only three options for anyone to interact with an unknown person: Be friendly, be rude, or don't interact at all.

If a celeb is friendly in a situation, and they're unlucky because the unknown person turns out to be a crazy, that's encouraging them ("I'll tell my life story. Then I'll follow them to their car. Ask for a selfie" ). Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if she's already experienced that before and just didn't want to risk it. Then there's the Pandora's Box of encouraging EVERYONE ELSE to get up and ask for some attention, because that would happen. If a celeb is actively rude, well, that outcome is fairly obvious. Then there's the third choice: Don't even try. That won't stop a true crazy, of course, but it seems to me her "I'm not really here, you don't see me" reaction was obvious.

Updated On: 1/18/16 at 03:17 PM

Sylver1, Years ago at the Golden Globes, when Bette was nominated for For The Boys, when she arrived at the Beverly Hills Hilton, she stepped right on my foot. It was very obvious what had happened. She didn't say a word to me either. So don't feel so bad.

Aaaaaand-- another first time poster gets the BWW welcome for which this site is famous. Well done, mean girls.

Cut the guy some slack-- at 60 (about the same age as me), he may have an interesting story or two to tell of the great performances he's seen in the past that I for one would be interested in hearing.

Thanks Velma.

He had it coming

He only had himself to blame...

( Did you ever see the BCEFA boys doing the Cell Block Tango? So much fun!)

ps. I've met Bette and she's was not the person described here

Sylver1 said: "The comment I made about Audra MacDonald was to point out a celebrity who clearly cares about her public. She tweets apologies when she needs to leave a theater quickly and can't sign playbill's etc. Clearly, that is going well above and beyond...."

OK, but that is when Audra is in a show, which is slightly different than running into Audra at Home Depot, which would be closer to your experience.

OP, sorry some on here have responded by being rude to you. I would have been disappointed too. It really wouldn't have taken much for her to smile and say thank you.

A smile and a thank you takes all of what? 2 seconds? Cut the OP some slack, he's obviously a big fan. Being completely ignored by someone you admire and took the time out to reach out to just to let them know they matter or made a difference in your life is extremely disappointing.

I can't blame her in the slightest. I'm sure she's learned through experience that acknowledgement as small as a smile or even eye contact can snowball into selfie and autograph requests.

This is why I have no desire to meet any of my idols on an informal basis, Bette included. Being acknowledged as a fan of theirs will do nothing to enhance my appreciation of their work.

Sugar, don't give it another thought. Maybe it wasn't even Bette Midler. Maybe it was some nice, elderly woman you thought was Bette Midler. I was at a restaurant once and I could have sworn that Steven Spielberg's mother was at the next table. I would have put a $50 bill on it. Still no clue if it was Leah Spielberg Adler. I once thought I saw Garth Brooks in the frozen food section of the Winn-Dixie. Again, no clue if it was Brooks. Did you have a bit to drink at brunch? Maybe you were in a blackout. Maybe she was in a blackout. Maybe the impostor was in a blackout. Who knows? Have another drink now. Just relax, honey. Release the negativity and let yourself shine, shine, shine!

Oh Namo,

Julie Jordan you are not but that was funny.