Saw and was ignored by Bette Midler yesterday- Page 2

[haterobics]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 1:51pm

Sylver1 said: "...but on a board where I have read every conceivable take on who signs at the stage door, who returns items sent to the theater for signature etc."

 

Yeah, stage door threads never get bitchy on here...

 

I met Bette at the stage door once and she was so nice, but even so, she never calls, never writes...

Updated On: 9/28/15 at 01:51 PM

[devonian.t]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 2:47pm

Sometimes even acknowledging a comment is like opening the flood doors.  "She replied- she must want to chat more..."

She just moved on- no snarl or put-down- how else would you like to have it made clear that she wasn't on public duty?

[BWAY Baby2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:08pm

Never a good feeling to be ignored- but I am sure Bette knew what she was doing- and I suppose she has thought this through very carefully- since this is probably something she does at times when she feels the need to establish a sense of privacy for herself.  Bette is not a dumb woman or some twit- I think that although the encounter was not what you might have wanted or expected- I would give Bette a pass on this- the next day she might have been in a different space and signed autographs and kissed babies- she seems like a kindhearted person for the most part- I would not take this to necessarily mean she is rude or arrogant.

 

 

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[Sylver1]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:15pm

The comment I made about Audra MacDonald was to point out a celebrity who clearly cares about her public. She tweets apologies when she needs to leave a theater quickly and can't sign playbill's etc. Clearly, that is going well above and beyond....and fully realize things like that are usually not possible.  Barbra Streisand managed a "thank you" when I saw her once..as did Lauren Bacall and Ruth Gordon was beyond sweet. I could name others.

Clearly, if you read my post and have a basic understanding of the English language, I was not looking for anything more from Ms. Midler than acknowledgement that another human being had spoken to her. These increasingly nasty comments just make me harden my view. 

 

[Pootie2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:17pm

devonian.t said: "Sometimes even acknowledging a comment is like opening the flood doors.  "She replied- she must want to chat more..."

She just moved on- no snarl or put-down- how else would you like to have it made clear that she wasn't on public duty?"

That was really my initial thought as well. I mean, clearly the OP is one of the crazies because they decided to stalk anyway, but there are really only three options for anyone to interact with an unknown person: Be friendly, be rude, or don't interact at all.

 

If a celeb is friendly in a situation, and they're unlucky because the unknown person turns out to be a crazy, that's encouraging them ("I'll tell my life story. Then I'll follow them to their car. Ask for a selfie" ). Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if she's already experienced that before and just didn't want to risk it. Then there's the Pandora's Box of encouraging EVERYONE ELSE to get up and ask for some attention, because that would happen. If a celeb is actively rude, well, that outcome is fairly obvious. Then there's the third choice: Don't even try. That won't stop a true crazy, of course, but it seems to me her "I'm not really here, you don't see me" reaction was obvious.

Updated On: 1/18/16 at 03:17 PM

[LizzieCurry]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:18pm

I hate that actors even feel the need to say they're not coming out the stage door.

[ArtMan]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:19pm

Sylver1, Years ago at the Golden Globes, when Bette was nominated for For The Boys, when she arrived at the Beverly Hills Hilton, she stepped right on my foot.  It was very obvious what had happened.  She didn't say a word to me either.  So don't feel so bad.

[BenjaminNicholas2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:37pm

Well, I've met Bette on a number of occasions and she's always been gracious, generous and funny.

 

The Audra comparison is somewhat lopsided to me:  She's nowhere near the star that Midler is, nor has she lived her life in the same spotlight as Bette (for as long as Bette has).  

 

I firmly believe the OP should now harbor a grudge and continue posting about this millisecond experience at least weekly here on the board.

Updated On: 9/28/15 at 03:37 PM

[Someone in a Tree2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:51pm

Aaaaaand-- another first time poster gets the BWW welcome for which this site is famous. Well done, mean girls.

 

Cut the guy some slack-- at 60 (about the same age as me), he may have an interesting story or two to tell of the great performances he's seen in the past that I for one would be interested in hearing. 

[PalJoey]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:55pm

 

He had it coming.

 

[Someone in a Tree2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:57pm

Thanks Velma.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 3:59pm

At least it gives you a chance to act superior!

[Steve C.]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:02pm

He had it coming

He only had himself to blame...

( Did you ever see the BCEFA boys doing the Cell Block Tango? So much fun!)

ps. I've met Bette and she's was not the person described here

[Jane2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:28pm

As someone here said, we all have different moods on different days. It's nice that some of you met Bette and she was nice. She was in a different mood on the OP's day.

 

Linda Hunt wasn't in a good mood on my day, but others may have met her and liked her.

 

I stood in for Bette Midler for one day on Beaches. She was nice.

[haterobics]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:30pm

Sylver1 said: "The comment I made about Audra MacDonald was to point out a celebrity who clearly cares about her public. She tweets apologies when she needs to leave a theater quickly and can't sign playbill's etc. Clearly, that is going well above and beyond...."

 

OK, but that is when Audra is in a show, which is slightly different than running into Audra at Home Depot, which would be closer to your experience.

[TerrenceIsTheMann]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:35pm

Look, Bette probably just wanted to enjoy her day. You said it yourself that she is a huge celebrity, so just interacting with fans would draw attention. You might not think so, but trust me, if she talked to one person, then she has to talk to everyone. Like others have been saying, it's not like she blew you off at her show. In public, celebs should mostly be left alone. 

[mmFan]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:37pm

OP, sorry some on here have responded by being rude to you.  I would have been disappointed too.  It really wouldn't have taken much for her to smile and say thank you.

[MichelleCraig]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:47pm

I met Bette Midler at a birthday party eight years ago. She was quiet, shy and reserved. The exact opposite of her stage persona... She sat most of the night at a table with her husband just sort of taking in the surroundings. I spoke to her briefly about a performance she had given years ago in Cambridge, Massachusetts. She smiled and was very nice, but afterwards I remember feeling guilty for "getting in her space"... 

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 4:59pm

A smile and a thank you takes all of what? 2 seconds? Cut the OP some slack, he's obviously a big fan.  Being completely ignored by someone you admire and took the time out to reach out to just to let them know they matter or made a difference in your life is extremely disappointing.

[gypsy101]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:03pm

This thread is wonderful. Just because you're a celebrity doesn't mean the public owns you. I'm sure Bette Midler is told she is loved hundreds of times a day by people she passes on the street, how exhausting would it be to stop and chat with every one of them, not to mention time-consuming? She's a 69 year old woman, let her go about her business if she doesn't want to respond to you. I've met several celebrities (most of them stage performers, although I met Hilary Clinton earlier this year at An American in Paris and she let me take a photo) and sometimes they just don't have the energy to be "on" all the time.

[Cupid Boy2]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:06pm

I can't blame her in the slightest. I'm sure she's learned through experience that acknowledgement as small as a smile or even eye contact can snowball into selfie and autograph requests.

 

This is why I have no desire to meet any of my idols on an informal basis, Bette included. Being acknowledged as a fan of theirs will do nothing to enhance my appreciation of their work.   

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:11pm

Bette hit me and it felt like a kiss. 

 

True fact about front end baby boomers:  Many of them can barely hear a thing. 

Updated On: 9/28/15 at 05:11 PM

[BobBenson]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:28pm

Sugar, don't give it another thought. Maybe it wasn't even Bette Midler. Maybe it was some nice, elderly woman you thought was Bette Midler. I was at a restaurant once and I could have sworn that Steven Spielberg's mother was at the next table. I would have put a $50 bill on it. Still no clue if it was Leah Spielberg Adler. I once thought I saw Garth Brooks in the frozen food section of the Winn-Dixie. Again, no clue if it was Brooks. Did you have a bit to drink at brunch? Maybe you were in a blackout. Maybe she was in a blackout. Maybe the impostor was in a blackout. Who knows? Have another drink now. Just relax, honey. Release the negativity and let yourself shine, shine, shine!

[goldenboy]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:29pm

I am inclined to agree with the original poster. I was at the opening of Honeymoon in Vegas and Bette was there. My sister saw her, got excited and said to her "I love you  Better Midler." Midler just rolled her eyes and walked away.  I think being gracious is a good thing for actors. My sister? She says I  don't love Bette Midler anymore.

 

 

[Steve C.]

Posted: 9/28/15 at 5:37pm

Oh Namo,

Julie Jordan you are not but that was funny.